So guys, has getting Veeky Forums helped you get laid more often?

I've dealt with depression for most of my life. It comes in patches.

What has worked for me
>Sticking to a lifting routine, getting a lot more exercise
>Eating healthier, drinking more water
>Social interaction, when I had no friends I would go to the library and sit on my laptop just so that I felt like I had friends/people around me
>Buying new clothes
>Getting outside in the sun and taking vitamin D tablets daily
>Reading a few chapters in a book each day, any book works, I also picked up meditating which has similar effects

What DIDN'T work for me
>Smoking weed and drinking alcohol
>Escorts, prostitutes
>Spending money on bullshit and junk that I didn't need
>Staying inside my house/apartment and sulking
>Making excuses and blaming other people

Good luck user. Depression sucks but if you decide right now to make a change you can get out of it. If you relapse into an old bad habit don't beat yourself up over it. That was my mistake for a long time which only delayed my progress

wew i didn't even expect any honest and helpful opinions here

you got me stumped Veeky Forums

yeah you're right. I can see how girls wouldn't settle down or feel comfortable with a Veeky Forums guy because the chances of him sleeping around and cheating skyrocket.

>like to flirt with the "hot" guy but want to come home to the safe guy
it's a saddening thought. women want to have the offspring of a fit guy but come home to the provider, I guess all we can do is hope to become the best of both

have a good workout

first you guys say getting Veeky Forums doesn't get you laid more

now suddenly women don't want a Veeky Forums bf because they are worried he will fuck every chick on the block

what the fuck is it now?

so to answer your question yes, being fit will help with getting laid but not necessarily help in serious relationships

>Getting outside in the sun and taking vitamin D tablets daily
this guy gets it

>what the fuck is it now?
Im the guy who made the statement
Girls THINK a fit guy is able to fuck around so they dont trust him/their relation

This isnt completly true because girls like to flirt and be noticed by fit and attractive guys but girls like attention and validation more than sexual relations

YMMV for sure, there are some girls who are complete sluts and only go for roiders but on average id be surprised to find being fit helped in any way in getting a relation

i just don't know anymore m8, this shit is getting to ridiculous for me and i feel like getting to old

for example i can play 4 different instruments, but do you think any girl ever gave a shit? no

Yes. /thread

But for real, I always did ok with women, which is weird cause I look like fucking shrek and I'm super fucking autistic, but after getting Veeky Forums it's like a joke, I can go out and have a qt3.14 ready to fuck before my mates finish their first drink, I don't live that degenerate lifestyle anymore though, I settled down with a beautiful waifu and had kids, I stay fit though for myself not for bitches.

gives me some hope, thanks senpai

i just want to unload and not act interested in womens bullshit to get laid, that's the worst part for me

because they never ever are interested and i rather would talk to my mates, so it has gotten to a point i can't even bring up the energy to feign it anymore

You know what Veeky Forums, some of you guys are alright.

Don't go to the gym tomorrow.

My best friend died a couple years back and that got me really depressed and turned me into a NEET for a year and half. The gym actually helped me come out of my depression. It motivated me to set goals and follow them. After I got my noob gains going, I started getting noticed by girls a lot more often.

how long did it take for noobgains?

i am 6'4 at 225 lbs

no noticeable musclemass

It takes about 3-6 months to start noticing any changes at all.

One thing I learned the hard way is that DIET is EVERYTHING. I promise you this.

Btw I'm 6'2 at 190 lbs right now.

diet as in "only eat proteins and oats" or diet as in cutting hard?

Meeting your protein intake for the day is step 1. After you get used to this, you can start weeding out the processed foods, and slowly start cooking good veggies for yourself.

Everything is baby steps if you're starting at square one.

is it hard to met protein intake? i thought you just, like, eat 6 eggs a day or something?

sorry for sounding retarded

Well it's harder for me to meet my daily protein since I skip breakfast and I don't have much of an appetite. However, taking a protein shake in the morning and night before I slept solved this. 56 grams of protein ez mode. the remaining protein I get is from 2 big meals and maybe 4 eggs or almonds on the side.

Make sure to eat lots of veggies to get that fiber though for poop gains.

You didn't read the sticky, did you

this

i did but that was over year ago admittedly

i know that you need protein to build muscle, but what about this fiberpooping gain stuff this guy mentioned?

A lot of noobs don't eat enough veggies, therefore, don't have enough fiber in their diet. So all I'm saying is, eat your veggies noob!

Gonna ask it here

Help me out in this situation with the girl, we're both 20.

I took her number last week when we finished our class and said we could hang out sometimes. She was happy to give it to me, I texted her so she knows it's me later that day. When we talked before I took her number, she said she's leaving town and going to her city until the next exam (which is in two weeks).

After a couple of days I texted with the intention of asking her out and I asked her if she's in my city any day the next week. She said that the plan was to stay at home until the next exam, but she's actually coming to see some theatre with her friend on Tuesday. I said to her that we would go out after that. She said that she will hear from me.

On Monday I texted her the location and time (I looked up when the show ends at 11pm and picked that time) when we would meet and she replied saying that it's all good.

On Tuesday she texted me 4 hours before the date that she only now saw how long the show will be (4 hours) and that it would be really late so she thinks it would be better idea to move it to another day and that she's really sorry.

I texted her: no problem, I'm in (my city) until Monday, text me if you have time before that.

She said: deal:)

Now my questions is if I threw the ball in her court too quickly? She looks like inexperienced girl and I don't think she will make a move to set up a date (as I said before when I took her number she said that she will go to her city until the exam, so if she came to see the show only for that day, then she's returing home, I think). What do you think I should do? I can't text her now that I threw her the ball, but I really like her and would want to hang out with her. Should I just play it cool and wait until I see her in person in 2 weeks?

i don't know what i'd need fiber for

i thought i just need protein to build muscle?

Well that's step 1. Step two is eating balanced meals so that you don't stay 225 lbs.

You're the man. You extend the plans.

You never rely on a girl to make a date plan if you're not already in a long term relationship and it's something casual (where are we eating tonight).

Unless you want to wait until Chad makes plans with her, ask her out, but extend the question as a firm plan.

>hey, want to go to x at y time?

Make it a yes or no where she doesn't need to make any of the other plans on location or time. If she's interested. She'll go. If she turns it down, offer a different time and date. If she turns that down and offers no alternative, maybe it's just not meant to be.

i kind of hoped that you just eat like 6 scrumbled eggs a day with some fried veggies so you can build muscle (from the protein of the eggs) while losing fat (because you don't eat enough calories for what your body weighs)

i remember something from the sticky though about how you can either only lose weight OR build muscle

If you want to get down and dirty with the facts, it's all about caloric deficit // surplus. Lifting helps you lose weight when you're at a deficit, vice versa. When you're lifting on a caloric deficit, it just means you're trading your fat for muscle on practical terms. So you might not lose weight, but you'll definitely look better.

On that note in general, be in control of the conversation/plans.

It's not like she's gonna be off her phone until she sees you, and you are guaranteed not the only guy talking to her.

If you want to talk to her, do so, but don't be boring.

At the first hint of the conversation dying down, make sure you are not the last person to text her.

that's what i wanted to hear, thanks man i'll be getting right on it

Thanks for your response brah

I made plans for the first date which she agreed to, but then she said she'd rather move it to some other day.

The biggest problem is that she doesn't live in my city and she came to my city only for that day (otherwise she is studying in her city until the next exam in 2 weeks).

So that's why I said that I'm here until Monday (although I'm not, I'm available for full week) and she can hit me up when she's free. I did to show her that I also have things to do and that she has time until Monday if she wants to hang out.

Now I don't want to look like a fool and change what I've said all of a sudden if you get me.

When should I test her again if she doesn't text me before Monday? I don't think she will because I said I think she came here just for that one day and then she went back to her city to study until the exam in 2 weeks.

I'm can say with 100% confidence that I am the only guy she talks to. She's really shy girl, doesn't have much friends, doesn't talk to guys, has only a couple of friends on facebook and she studies all the fucking time. She shuts her phone off and computer when she studies and turns it back on when she's done in the evening.

I can guarantee you that I'm the only one she's talking to.

sure thing buddy

>girls I've slept with: 5
>girls I've slept with since getting fit: 0
You do the maths.

I'm not even autismo. Don't know whats wrong with me. I've only gotten better looking and more confident as I've gotten older. Think it's got a lot to do with never meeting anyone new any more.

I think I'm done with caring about women romantically tbhonest. They only ever let me down.

For sure it's helped me, but that's only a part of it. My confidence has skyrocketed in the last couple of years (that's partly due to being fit), and because of that confidence I've become more funny and more alpha. Being fit is a key component, but it's really the confidence that attracts women.

Girls definitely flirt with me more often. I haven't had sex because 3D girls scare me.

if confidence is all you need then fucking kill me

In regards to mental health and people with depression how does going to the doctor work exactly? What do they ask? Do the drugs work?

I feel like the doctor won't believe me or I won't sound convincing, I've gotten use to putting up a facade in the minimal interaction I do have with people to come across as normal/functional.

Im not him but confidence is not all you need, confidence is what gets you through the door, so to speak

Imagine if you were to apply for a job at MIT teaching theoretical physics
Even if you were the most confident son of a bitch you would not get it if you only had worked at mcdonalds prior and watched a 20 minute youtube video on the subject.

On the flip side if you got a masters degree in the subject but youre unsure of yourself so you never apply you wont get the job either

You need something to back your confidence up with and you need something you can be confident in showing up,they work in tandem with eachother

yes, all you gotta do is post a shirtless picture on tinder

You seem like you're doing fine man. just don't over think it and be clingy.

Thanks bro

so you think i should give her time to contact me first about date until Monday?

If she doesn't when do you think I should text her? Or should I better wait to see her live.

im 186cm and 96kg at 16%bf and women seem to want a big guy who can bang the shit out of them. I didnt get this level of attention before i got muscles.

Pics plz
Im 185cm at 91kg with a 15% bf but ive encountered none of that

Give her time. If she's interested in you she'll text you when she's free and expect you to have something for you and her to do so be ready for that. If she's not interested you won't get a text so you move on to someone else. I'm sure there's plenty of girls who will go out with you, you just have to find them.

i dont have any good pics of me at this moment, but im a lot bigger than the average guy. got almost 40cm(~16inch) arms. its not huge, but the average guy is pretty skinny.

cool, that's what i thought too

if she texts me before monday then she's interested and we will hang out

if she doesn't text me before monday it can be
a) she isn't interested
b) she isn't interested enough to travel 100 km just to see me which is kinda normal lol

and i think if she doesn't text it's more of an option b). so what do you think about that?

should i just wait until the new semester starts and she will be in my city all the time and then started texting her again?

by the way, thanks for your tips bro

>got almost 40cm
We talking flexed over the bicep or relaxed?
I measured maybe a week ago and i got 41cm flexed

Im genuinly curious bro, i hear rumors girls love muscles but ive been getting no love at all
Well some love but not nearly enough

If im doing shit wrong im curious to see what right is

flexed.
Do you go to clubs or parties? or else you wont notice much of it.
I think im jsut hitting a niche or something. Its not like everyones panties are dropping, but some seems like its just their thing. And i can get away with more "aggressive" flirting than i could before.

>be chubby
>gf is chubby
>sex 3-4 times a week
>get fit in a course of a year
>sex is twice a month at most
>shes mirin

>it will do exactly nothing to help you get laid.
besides making you more confident in your body and not as depressed which will make you seem more attractive to the opposite sex.

you can still fuck it up by being a fucking sperg but as long as you're not an absolute beta lifting will do nothing but make you more likely to have sex

Im not much for clubs or parties right now, in uni and working on career building so i got no time to spare
Id rather spend that time hitting the gym and hitting the books so i dont have to stress later, if you know what i mean

Ill try the more aggressive flirting, last time i did though i found me a grade A bitch (long ass story, turns out she had a boyfriend but didnt say anything and lead me on to see what i did and adviced all other girls we knew to stay away from me)

One more (kind of dumb) thing
Do you wear tshirts, long sleeve shirts or a tank top normally?

>I think I'm done with caring about women romantically tbhonest. They only ever let me down.
Maybe it shows on your demeanor

YOure going to lose out on a lot of mirin of youre not partying. Females arent as shy after a few drinks.
The aggressive flirting only works if you know she likes you though. or else your probably gonna look like a creep.
I always wear nice shirts when partying. Good ones will show off your back, chest, v-taper and arms without looking like a douche.

Oh shit I thought she was in your city until Monday. Yea I guess its kinda tough for you right now since exams just ended and shes going back home. If she doesn't text you before Monday and you still want to go out with her try to reconnect when the new semester starts up and she'll be around be in your city again. Good luck user

>this

yeah, that's the problem...

she said that she's staying at home until exam, I still asked her if she will be in my city this week and she said that she would come for a theatre play and we arranged the date but the play was too long (4 hours) so she said she thinks it's better to move the date

I said that I'm in my city until Monday (which is a lie, I'm here for the whole week, just want to give her a "deadline") and she can text me when she's free. She said "deal:)"

Now I don't know (but I think) she went home and if she doesn't text me before Monday then that's it. I don't know if I did the right thing by giving her this "deadline" but fuck it I can't change it now.

If she doesn't text me I will restore contact when the semester starts (which is in 2 weeks which is a long time). I hope she doesn't cool of and stop liking me until then... Do you think I should text her once again next week or not?

Sorry to bother you, I just really like this girl and I feel there's chemistry so don't want to fuck up

>break up with qt3.14 gf
>hellodarknessmyoldfriend.mp3
>go to gym
>now happy

I'm in the best shape of my life but my social anxiety is still there. I keep my head down when on the train. I read my kindle and never dare look up. I can't make eye contact with anyone. I just look forward to is getting drunk on the weekend and dancing my ass off at a club. Women have come up and danced with me but I'm too chicken shit to follow up, even when I'm drunk as shit.

You're fine man. If she doesn't text you before Monday just wait the two weeks until shes back in your city and text her asking if she's still interested in going on a date.

i'm just afraid that waiting for 2 weeks may destroy chemistry between us... if you feel me

Sometimes a short wait like that is good. She'll spend the two weeks thinking about you, probably even talk about you to her friends. It'll create more anticipation for when you two finally go out.

cool, i will listen to your advice. thanks for your help bro

I hope it works out for you. good luck user

I had improvement in 3 weeks. Pecs got a lot tighter

This my fucking life. Can't get a decent girl to take me seriously. I'm dead ass serious guys, being treated as a brainless fuckboy is no good either

I was a kissless virgin until I was 26, I lost a shitload of weight and im still not Veeky Forums yet but I look much better.

I went from getting literally no action to actually being noticed by women and having sex. I'd say the physical change helped of course but my confidence has gone way up and I started dressing better as well.

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>I know plenty of young, hot chicks who like guys who smoke weed/does drugs so its good for both helping your depression AND getting laid
That's 'cause they wanna bum drugs