Any former legit losers here who improved their life through bettering their work ethic?

I've actually done the reverse kek
Used to always be out doing stuff if I wasn't working
Now I live alone, enjoy my job as a freelancer, and like the solitude I have to myself.
People say you need contact with others to stay sane but I actually really enjoy being alone, kinda weird
Wunna move to the mountains though, tropical paradise isn't as easy to get lost in as say sprawling mounitan ranges and forests

Same here. I've just become the guy who says the most stupid shit in the group.

One* not limbs

>Diagnosed with Major Depression and Anxiety at 12
>Sever asthmatic, chubby kid, hauled away in ambulance at every baseball/basket game, quit all sports as a result
>Doctors prescribe myriad of antidepressants over the years at varying dosages trying to find the right one
>Get worse, father passes away, 14 years old and get put into child looney bin for 1 month and again at 16 as mother fears of suicide
>Social anxiety to the point of panic attacks and sweating, along with rock bottom self-esteem make school living nightmare; bullied to no end
>Become truant, nearly taken from family, fail 9th grade three times
>Force self to sleep 12 hours a day to avoid conscious thought, become vidya playing shut-in, no exercise and poor eating habits coupled with medication side effects result in me blowing up to 285lbs at 6'0. Want to die.
>Turn 18, flush all medication, move out of toxic home environment, earn my G.E.D, look at self in mirror and commit to change
>Go to college, jog every day and cut out all dirty food, drop 60lbs.
>Self esteem skyrockets, become fascinated with nutrition and decide to major in Dietetics.
>Adopt a solid gym routine and diet, get down to 185lbs, then make great gains shooting up to just shy of 200lbs.
>Buy entire new wardrobe, carry myself differently, educated; abundance of confidence and healthy self-esteem
>Adopt healthy social life, plenty of contacts (some superficial, majority meaningful relationships). Finally enjoying youth, but discover that I don't care for clubs and partying
>By now it's been long since I've considered myself a sperg with no sense of social cues. Anxiety eradicated
>Plenty of opportunity for hookups but never pursued, desired real relationship
>Pretty much virgin by choice at this time
>Find beautiful woman with all desired characteristics and values, make her gf (now of two years)
>Should be working in my field next year, plan on proposing once student loans are gone
>Happy, despite tummy frowning all the time

That's some vintage meme you got there OP

Pretty fucking good bro, happy for you

Son. I am proud.

I took a lot of LSD and found out what I did not like about myself.

Why would anyone bully you,you look like a great person to hang out with.

>how did you do it?

I matured. Seriously there is nothing more to it.

You look like an Italian Karl Pilkington

>head like a FUCKING olive

I am so proud of you dude. You made it, and will continue making it

Because people suck.

I got a job
Then I got diagnosed with a kidney disease so I lost 20kg on a diet
My kidney improved after my diet and gym
So did everything else

But having your own income really changes you

>Happy, despite tummy frowning

Lost it... but good to see you not letting life get or keep you down. Pretty inspirational all things considered.

My dude, if you're ever in LA I'll buy you a drink.

Have you ever written anything about your routine from the beginning? Looking to begin, would be interested to read.

I was a fat loser playing WoW all day when I was in highschool, I'd legit skip school for WoW. Then my junior year I got into wrestling/football and really got into the weight-room but I was still playing WoW. Then I realized that you don't just need to be fit to get girls, they also like you having a lot of money. So I learned from my dad about stocks, I used all my time I would normally use to play WoW and I studied day trading and lifted on my free time. I'm now 3 years out of highschool, and I've got a nice networth. Just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years though, said I cared about money more then her, fuck her.

fuck that pic's depressing if real

youtube.com/watch?v=FkgSBKB0bwk Scooby has all your answers.

>Dietetics

Was a total loser few years ago, stuck studying Economy, virgin, at the horrendous weight of 160kg. Was really feeling bad about myself since the only thing I was good at was playing World of Warcraft.

If what you are saying is true, then you'll probably know that little voice in your head telling you that you have to change. The point is that you'll only need a little something to effectivly start to do it.

I started to go running (faster than usual walking exactly) every morning, at 5 o'clock for at least one hour. I also changed the way I was eating, starting to count, understand macros etc. Today as I'm speaking, I'm at ~100kg, 6"4', still need a bit of work.

I also changed the way I was following my courses, and decided to follow computer sciences ones. That was probably the best decision I've ever made. I finished my degree having the best grades. Those grades were enough to convince a teacher to give me an internship. This internship made for me the possibility to learn in a scientific way and my work was so good that the paper I wrote for it was accepted at an IEEE conference in Italia. I'm now living the life of an Erasmus student in Ireland.

I'm not a virgin anymore as I've found several girls along my way and it's a lot easier to get them when you are not overweight and more importantly when you understand what you are trully worth and develop some self-confidence.

Just do it, leave all your bad habits behind you, delete your wow account, go to the gym etc and you'll make it.

from 7 to 3

Thanks guys for the encouragement! It generally makes me smile hearing such responses, I have no regrets.

The first 6-10 months that I lost 60lbs was easy considering my size, at that mass the weight melts off rapidly by simply restricting calories, drinking only water and introducing cardio as a form of exercise. At this point, I hadn't yet considered weight lifting.
After I dropped from 285 to 220lbs, I began resistance training. Since I didn't know wtf I was doing, my routine for the first four months was full body, four days a week. Needless to say I didn't see much aesthetic improvements but I gained a considerable amount of strength (although the majority of strength gains were a direct result of "learning to use my muscles").
After the first year, I began educating myself on diet & exercise both in and out of school. My routine looked similar to this for the next year with slight variation every few months.

Five day split:
Mon: Chest/Tricep
Tues: Back/Bicep
Wed: Extended Cardio/Core
Thu: Shoulders
Fri: Legs

I grouped complementary muscles on the same day. Most exercises are compound, very few are isolated. There was never an "arm day". Although the muscles that make up the shoulders and traps are small and don't require as much training as some other groups, I decided to dedicate an entire day to them because I desired boulder shoulders. I focused on strict hypertrophy training and volume; that is, usually 25 sets in total of five to six different exercises, 3x8 or 5x10. I always warmed up with 20 minutes of jogging at 6-6.5mph, and on extended cardio days I would up it to 35-45 minutes.

I rested weekends with Legs on Friday because I was typically immobile with DOMS. Monday I'd start up again fresh. My schedule has changed as I'm busier, so I have a three day split now.

Are you Br? Where did you find the pic? Is there more of it, please?

who is that
I've seen that pic for years, and revere image search doesn't return much
it haunts me

>Adopt healthy social life, plenty of contacts (some superficial, majority meaningful relationships). Finally enjoying youth, but discover that I don't care for clubs and partying
How exactly did this come about? My situation wasn't quite as harsh as yours but I'm in a similar boat. I don't know how to communicate with people on a social level, and nothing seems to improve.

All I know is that she is brazillian.

Right look like a disgusting weeaboo landwhale cuck. Left looks like a qt hipster Veeky Forums chick i would fugg...

Habit, 90% of what we do is our brain on autopilot following familiar patterns of behavior. It doesn't take long to build new habits, a month or two. The problem is that most losers were socialized wrong thus never got the experience they needed. Late bloomers are a real thing and you should never give up hope of being happy.

How can I force myself to work harder and towards my goals? I work out and eat right, but I can't bring that focus to other aspects of my life. Help pls

Me exactly. The world tells me I should be happy with this but I wasn't ready to move forward with my life.

I was blessed with a good support system; nearly a dozen cousins all living within the same area around the same age (I have a large family), all of whom are well rounded and accomplished individuals.
Growing up they tried being there for me although I wouldn't allow myself to be near to anyone and avoided social gatherings like the plague, but the love was always there. Once I took hold of my life, I didn't even need to reach out, rather they took notice and used any and all opportunities to invite me out (whether it was going somewhere or simply hanging out). I acknowledged my own lack of sociability and was determined to improve it. I'm an observer; so observing the interactions my cousins had with others (especially women) was VERY helpful, however, I knew mirroring was never the answer; I needed my own confidence. I found friends through them, and from there my networks grew as I became more and more sociable. The more I exposed myself to social interactions, the more at ease I became. EXPOSURE was the key, it took time, but eventually socializing became something of second nature and I didn't have to think about it anymore. My confidence, charisma and relaxed demeanor then gravitated people toward me whether it be at work, school or any other social gathering/environment. I remember looking forward to my public speaking class in college (something previously unfathomable) and without boasting I gave the best and most persuasive presentation in my class.

My advice to improve social gains; relax, don't overthink, observe, learn from cringe worthy mistakes, and most importantly exposure. In the beginning I had to FORCE to hang out myself before it eventually became something desirable. Get out there and make yourself available, put yourself in uncomfortable positions. Don't hide from society. Do a bit of everything. It takes time, but keep putting yourself into group settings... trust me, you'll find yourself.

>all of whom are well rounded
heh

Fucking this. The world would be a better place if everyone tripped at least once

What's your cycle, my dude? Thinkin of pinning, myself.

I often think so, too.

So, you guys fuck each other, right

OP. I got you.
Trust this. If you do this, you will get out of this rut you are in. I have been where you are. I think many of us have, but I am convinced I know how to get anyone out of it. I pretty much study self-development none stop at this point, because It's a never ending climb, but let me help you get out, and get on course. Something you need to realize is this is serious. You may kind of have a little nagging sensation of, hey i need to get my shit together. But you'll go to sleep tonight, sleep in tomorrow, and the nagging will soon be smothered by video games, music, videos, internet, etc. The nagging will always be subtle, and easy to ignore. It was strong enough this time to get you to post something asking for help, so I know enough to know its serious. Treat this as a crisis. Have a crisis right now. Don't wait for later. Later will never come. You need not make any massive actions, just do these things I suggest here, that will only burn you out before you even begin. This will be easy, gradual, but effective. Follow through on them.

1: Purpose. Having a purpose is the foundation of having a meaningful and fulfilling life. You need to make a choice on what your purpose in life is going to be. Make a file on your computer now for Personal-development. Make a word document, titled Personal Mission Statement. Declare what your purpose in life is going to be. It might take you weeks to decide, but think on it and decide. Look up what a personal mission statement should contain. Values, principles, virtues. Fill one out, revisit it daily. Continually revise and improve it. Live your life around your purpose. The fulfillment of your purpose is your number one priority, everything else is secondary.

cont.

2: Habits. Habits are the foundation of a productive life.One by one, create productive habits, eradicate destructive habits, and soon you will be on course to being an unusual capable person. Here's how you do this. Create a word file for each habit that you impliment it. Title the page with the habit topic, and provide necessary information about the habit. Here is what it should include: Commencement Date - The date you begin the habit.
Description - Describe the habit, what it involves, what would constitute breaking the habit, is the habit a daily habit, weekly habit? Etc.
On the page, include answers to these questions:

Why is this habit important to me, and what do i potentially gain from holding this habit?

What do I lose from this habit, and why am i willing to give those things up?
What are potential jeopardizing situations for sustaining this habit?
--

Add one habit every week. Recolonize what things you are doing that would be considered destructive, fill out a habit page, and begin. But here is a big, big part of it. On the first week of each habit, you need to do this one thing, you need to spend 10 minutes visualizing you living your entire life with this habit in place. Spend 10 minutes, sitting, meditating, visualizing the progression of your life from that moment on, having that habit in place, and it never leaving until the day you do. Get into it. Get emotional with it. Gradually progress. Say the habit is 20 minutes of exercise ever day. Start be visualizing yourself 1 day in the future, successfully holding the habit, 1 week in the future, still holding the habit. Feel how good it feels to have held the habit for a whole week. You're on course. You're progressing. Now visiualize 1 month, same thing, but more pride comes. Visualize 1 year, even more pride, fulfillment, happiness, 5 years, 10 years, now you'r 80, still haven't given in. Still have the habit in place. You could cry at this point. See what you would gain.

cont.

I would recommend your first habit being a 30 minute a day meditation habit. 10 minutes of visualization, 20 minutes of mindfulness meditation. You might think this is a stupid thing to begin your personal-development with. You want to get your life together, why would sitting around for 30 minutes a day help that. Believe it or not, meditation is the single strongest self-development practice someone can have.I'd say twice as important as an exercise habit. It will also allow you to gain self-discipline so that your future habits will be more successful. A meditation habit will increase the likelyhood that future habits will stick by 10x. So start with the meditation habit for the first week. That's all you need to do. Second week, lose something. Go back and forth between gaining a practice, and losing a bad habit. So maybe, drop eating sweets. I would recommend waiting to cut gaming until week 4, because that is a big one and it is best your meditation habit is pretty grounded before hand. Just know that the bigger the habits you take or put in, the more strain its going to cause on your other habits.

Here is a list of habits to gradually impliment:

Exercise: Daily
Meditation: Daily
Journaling: Daily
Eating Sweets - Cut
Drinking Soda/ Energy Drinks - Cut
Playing Video Games - Cut
Watching Porn - Cut (Shit fucks your motivation/ Productivity)
Eating Simple Carbs - Reduce
etc...

cont.

After you get the ball rolling, dedicate yourself to being a eternal student of personal development. Read all the best books. Listen to all the best speakers on topics you are struggling with. Never look back.

I was NEET for maybe 2-3 years. For me getting out of that stage was a combination of a few things:
maturity: obvious
accepting responsibility for my own life: realising that my parents shouldn't do everything for my sorry ass and that i'm the only one who's going to make things happen
as cliche as it sounds: expanding my horizons. i went on an overseas trip and realised i really loved traveling. this gave me somewhat of a purpose. traveling solo also taught me a lot of things about myself
realizing the importance of money and thus being more driven to earn it: money may not buy you happiness as everyone says, but it sure fucking does make life better.
i also had quite a depressive phase where i thought about suicide: this luckily ticked something off in my brain that made me realise that life is short, you could die at any moment, may as well get off your ass while you still can
as some others stated, LSD is usually a good introspective experience. i wouldn't say it changed my life, but i learned some things from it

I used to be happy playing videogames all day, now i barely play them and feel like my day has been a failure if i don't do something productive
good luck, user

loose skin is a bitch but its stretch marks that will really fuck you up, cant just chop those off

how much bath salt should i take, rich piano man?

hahaha holy shit i remember i fell in love with this girl cos of that pic on left

Try psychedelics like shrooms or LSD.
They do inspire me to seek for new experiences and joys in life, and sometimes it lasts for weeks after the trip.
Eventually I come back to my old nihilistic/cynical self, that's when I know its time to have a trip again.

>inb4 drugs are for degenerates

First step

Wake up early and get out of your fucking house

Thanks for sharing man. Your story has inspired me to get my shit together and finally do this. I wish you all the best in the future and if you ever get the time, post your story somewhere!

10 scoops to start.

Does anybody have any advice or links to the mental side of fitness? My main issue is boredom when trying to get fit. I want to train my brain to get off on this. I mean, you guy's that are really into this, did you ever do a lot of drinking and drugs in your past? I hear about 'runners high' from the cunts that love running etc. But they never look like the types that have been up for 3 days straight after doing a bag of ketamin, y'know?