>lift hard >get mildly aesthetic by normie standards >talk to girl I've known since childhood that I always liked >still like her to this day and we talk a lot >she's dating an old friend who's literal Auschwitz mode with autism
I'm not mad at him, and I'm glad they're happy but it makes me sad. I already have depression according to this doctor and struggled each day to workout but it's what made me happier, now I have no motivation at all and am really sleepy. Guess I shouldn't have been a beta as a kid and not ask her out but it wouldn't have mattered anyway because I was a fatfuck back then. How to convince self to lift away the feels?
the only way to move on from a girl is closure. instead of stringing yourself along you need to give yourself an answer, whether is be rejection or not. the only logical choice I see for your situation is to tell her how you feel, while not being a beta faggot about it. you will either get with her, or get rejected. this is your closure. in the event you get rejected, you need to go complete no-contact otherwise the feelings will never end.
Gabriel Collins
I've already basically been rejected, as I said she's dating that guy and I'm pretty sure she knows I like her. I can't exactly just break off contact because we go to college together and have a few classes together. I went for a run after I wrote that and it cleared my head some, I guess it was just the initial sadness. Thanks for the advice man, gains over dames anyway
Wyatt Diaz
>19 y/o, lifting for about half a year, maybe 7/10 on a good day >been chatting with a literal 10/10 for a couple weeks >BSing one night, she brings up self esteem issues out of the blue, hasn't had many friends because social anxiety and image issues >spaghetti_trebuchet_loaded.avi >say without a doubt probably the dumbest shit ever imagined by a man, sounded a shit ton better in my head >low key compliment that came out as a blunt insult >realize about thirty seconds too late, she says shes going to bed >two days later and we've spoken once
i didn't consider myself autistic until i re-read what i wrote. fucks sake
Daniel Sullivan
I met this one gorgeous girl at the gym once but brushed it off as I thought I would never see her again. But it turns out that she is the roommate of my best friends girlfriend. I started talking to her and we even went to get dinner once. And man talking to her, I realized that she was an amazing person. Recently though she started to get really shitty with her replies, and I also found out that she had just been through a long term relationship a little bit before I met her. That hurt me hard becasue I really don't want her to turn into another girl that just slips away, I want to be there for her but it's really hard to when she brushes off any attempt to hang out. Should I just drop it at this point or really it be worth it if it goes right?
Austin Barnes
Yeah, she probably is trying to get back with her ex
James Walker
So explain to her that you meant something different without apologizing, what are you waiting for?
James Scott
Agreed cunts need to learn how to move on
Andrew Johnson
>get fit >extra female attention comes along >no idea how to handle it How to make social skillz gains?
Logan Cooper
>tfw paid 180 to eat out the asian massage girl >fucked her and came in about 60 seconds >don't know how to feel
Jonathan Cooper
You should probably feel like checking with your PCP for an STD panel.
Evan Hernandez
there's plenty of helpful books out there
Alexander Bailey
i used a rubber
Nolan Lee
What'd you say tho?
Jayden Foster
>lift for 2 years >watch what you eat all time >in the gym all the time >really putting alot of time and effort into it >nice gains
>sick for 2 weeks with the flu >lose all gains
great. thanks
Levi Powell
why would you eat out a prostitute lmao wtf
Christopher Hughes
Still got dat kaiju slime in your mouth tho senpai
Joseph Bailey
in the context of the conversation, i meant to say "no way, you're cute" but it came out as "having self esteem issues is weak"
we talked earlier and i explained what i meant, but getting the cold shoulder and few word answers
Henry Edwards
I wouldn't call it sadness or depression, just an overwhelming feeling of exhaustion and hopelessness
I ran a half marathon this weekend though
Liam Fisher
>now I have no motivation at all and am really sleepy Thats me every day
Time to drink a coffee and force myself to lift
Jace Butler
>"having self esteem issues is weak" Thanks for the laugh, user.
If you're taking advice, don't buy into this "fishing for compliments" shit, she's gonna look at you as some fukkin beta. You shoulda recovered it more like "you're so cute, I never would've guessed." Maybe ask us before there's a next time
William Powell
>be a beta male >get Veeky Forums >made good social gains >lost virginity and fucked beautiful women >felt like i made it >one day meet a quiet nerdy qt3.14 >wife material >i think i fell in love >dont feel like fucking her or anything just want to be with her >ask her out on a date >she said im not her type >asks what she means >she said shes not into players like me
Fuck bros, what have i become? Whats the point of all this, should i go back to being a shy quiet nice guy? Am i doomed to banging sluts for the rest of my life? Will i ever be in a relationshio with a girl thats wife material
Ethan Johnson
that was the intention, the execution was just less than excellent. havent had any issues talking w girls before that astonishingly autistic moment
appreciate advice though user
Angel Gray
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thingken about quitting lifting just cause i feel like it drives shy qts away.
i don't want hot sluts just a shy qt
Jordan Brooks
Being fit has never driven away shy girls from me. It's more your personality than anything. Sure you might look more intimidating, but that'll only make them avoid you temporarily.
Hunter Evans
Start fucking one of her friends.
Hudson Roberts
>im into shy cute girls >every girl i'm into already has boyfriend or isn't into me, they probably think i want to use them for sex >don't feel attractions towards girls that are into me, idk why but when woman makes the first move it drives me away and i don't want to have anything with them even if they're ok looking >result is im 20 y/o virgin, it doesn't bother me that much desu as i could lose it on many occasions, but i don't really wanna do it with some random chick
Matthew Gray
She probably just thinks you're a dick who just wants to fuck her and dump her
So if you prove you like her more than that she will go out with you
Adam Ward
>tfw you are a 6 at best a 7/10 >tfw when chubby girls often feel like your in their league and go for you
Im not socially awkward or anything and my build is okayish but for some reason the only girls who have ever come up to me or initiate flirting are fat, short chubby girls and not even the cute ones only those that have savable faces and body types. I think its just that my face is just not very chiseled and im only 5'10. The worst part is on more than one occasion one chubby girl in a group will try and flirt with me and try and get her friends to ask if i think she's cute which obviously kills any chance i have with the rest of them because they feel bad for their unattractive friend.
Jordan Garcia
> I already have depression according to this doctor why do people need a charlatan to tell them how they feel? I mean when you are feeling depressed you should be completely able to tell it yourself.
Liam Campbell
>me and gymbro have a membership at one of those commercial gyms >decide to go to a gym in a different city to fool around >I have the hilarious idea to pretend to be a blind person with glasses and that stick they always have >he goes along with it and guides me towards the squat rack >I Squat clean 405 for 5 and prepare to troll some people >after my second set a 3.14qt comes up to us and tells us it is amazing that I didnt give up on my dreams >tells me that it is inspiring to see me train even though it must be hard for me >unironically gives me her phone number to train sometime if I need help
I was honestly holding back tears guys, I feel like such a piece of shit right now. I think I found the girl of my dreams, what do I do now ? Do I have to pretend to be blind for the rest of my life ?
Xavier Ross
>Had been talking to cute girl I occasionally saw around >She seemed to like me, get to the "we should hang out" point >Saw her today walking with a guy who weighs less than me and is worse-looking It's just the little things brehs
Carter Foster
If you blind yourself now, you won't have to lie about being blind later
Brody Smith
break the relationship or you'll torture yourself
Joseph Myers
i just did an hour ago, hurts but feels good too. we're gonna make it
Aaron Rogers
keep fucking lifting get fuckin /ripped/. if you're literally just trying to get a girl there's no shame in working on the beauty muscles.
if your friend is literally as autist as you say and you're working out and have some confidence go fuck her dude. chances are she'll be into you
you can make your fucking dreams a reality get off fucking depressedchan and start working i dont care what time it is
Angel Edwards
Yeah she's prolly just stringing you along for her own personal ego while she gets over the ex that is superior to you.
Owen Sanchez
that is some george costanza-level shit, user.
Lincoln Miller
>overwhelming feeling of exhaustion and hopelessness
Mason Thomas
Bro, I am literally in the same boat. I think it may have something to do with the fact that when its a girl who is the one approaches me, then I always automatically think I can do better than that. >a 6/10 makes a move on me >think to my self that if a 6/10 makes a move on me then I could easily go for an 8/10 >never end up making moves on girls myself >cycle repeats Every time.
Michael Baker
>tfw just can't seem to really fall for any girl, haven't had an actual gf in years >my days are just about going to work, coming back home, going to the gym across the street, and then just watching youtube videos >anytime I go out with friends I'm bored no matter what I do or where we go >only real current motivation is to get bigger
And for some reason I still feel pretty content, even though I know I should be doing more.
Nolan Bennett
>20 y/o virgin with no social skills >think im a 6/10 but can make myself a 8/10 with bb cream and nice clothes >want a asian 6/10 gf >ugly girls are never interested in me only 8/10s >too much anxiety around them because idk why they even like me and i am scared I will mess up
Christian Peterson
>lifting for a girl who will never love me anyway
Lesbianism should be illegal. Make it happen, Pence.
Kayden Jones
>have gf of like 2 years >in military so it is long term >can rarely see her >decide to get aeathetic for her >start working out before my first deployment, in april, deploy in late june >come back in december 30lbs heavier than when she last saw me, pretty lean >she hasn't seen me for the better part of a year and stopped talking to me when I was deployed >she has no fucking clue
Sebastian Stewart
and??
Blake Reed
Holy shit, I can't feel my sides
Colton Foster
>see couples around me being happy all around, laughing and hugging each other >friends messaging their gfs telling them how much they love them >want to feel that way >start lifting, maybe I'll meet someone that way >get aesthetic >hook up frequently with women at parties or other places now >completely unable to feel any sort of atraction beyond sexually for any woman I've met >the void doesn't go away >but at least I'm aesthetic now
You're better off user. That situation was t going to end well anyway. She wasn't looking to fuck you, she was looking for a nice 'safe' confidant.
Your 'weakness' inference may actually be a good thing. She may see you as stoic.
But odds are you won't have much contact with this chick. Learn the lesson, chalk it up to experience and move on.
We're all going to make it.
Colton Sanchez
>>hook up frequently with women at parties or other places now
stopped right there you'll never know what it's like to become a 8/10 aesthetic god with social skills so bad you can't talk to 5/10s
Jackson Cruz
She was cheating on you while you were deployed.
Noah Johnson
family guy/10
Evan Evans
Fuck, this happened to me too. I wasn't even happy banging sluts, I just wanted to find a girl to become my wife.
Zachary Rogers
bro you made yourself her bitch, its no wonder she's not attracted to you.
>I want to be there for her ugh I'm cringing faggot, suck her female cock some more
Brody Harris
Id buy that image as a shirt.
Cooper Phillips
lol who gives a shit
Jaxson Phillips
Getting Veeky Forums is half the battle. I was on that boat and it does get easier brah
Luke Campbell
One must imagine Feelsiphus happy.
Nathaniel Adams
nah, i'm 95% sure i am the only person she talks to on a regular basis. homeschooled or very small private school until the last two years of HS, rich parents coddled the hell out of her, really shy. you never know i guess but she seems like a legitimately nice person
pissed because i feel like i fucked it
Lincoln Reyes
>going down on a prostitute
I believe that Adam Carolla said that this was like paying to have a rental car detailed.
Parker Ross
>be me 22 year old college student >on and off with girl for 2 years >college experience spent on her primarily, affects grades and friendships >very toxic >she fucks someone else one day and I find out >2 weeks later I test positive for Chlamidya >Call her a gross slut and block her on everything, she denies of course >go to the gym 6 times a week and eat very healthy >getting huge and constantly receive compliments on my gains >lifted before all this happened but these gains are unprecedented and rage fueled >occasionally see her being a whore at the bars >happier now and I know she is miserable >even so she is still on my mind everyday and this happened 3 months ago
Veeky Forums I just want to stop thinking about her and not catering any actions to what she might potentially think. How long till I truly move on?
Isaiah Collins
This is pretty much me
>Nerdy in high school, zero female interactions >College, get fit >Get a lot of friends >Start hooking up with girls and having sex last couple years of college >Women think I'm a player >Run through hoes >Try to have actual girlfriends around age 26-29 >It doesn't work >Turn 30 >No wife quality women left >32 >Six month dry spell
At least I have a date Friday with a qt petroleum engineer that squats.
Parker Harris
>Not progressing on OHP even with microplates >Didn't make the fifth set of bench press Why do I have to run out of noob gains this fast? OHP 45kg and BP 69kg
>Be me >Be sort of loner type >Never really had a problem with girls >Go to uni >Study computer science >Haven't spoken to a girl in months >Stay to feel a bit weird >Start to get a bit fat >Decide to get Veeky Forums to attract girls >Start lifting >Start feeling a lot better about myself >Have this grand epiphany moment >Release that self improvement is not about anyone else but yourself >Suddenly stop caring about being lonely >Stop caring about getting a gf (apart from when horny) >Start working hard to make myself the best person for myself >Suddenly start seeing people different >All these people suffering from the demons inside their heads they created >We're all not so different >So why don't they start making themself's better? >They don't and their laziness upsets me
Thomas Brooks
same, i think they might start thinking im gay because i ignore them as a self defence mechanism
Elijah Brooks
The amount of time it takes is different for everyone. For some it's days,weeks,maybe months. Just keep working on yourself,pick up some hobbies and activities to occupy your time,and the feelings and thoughts will pass eventually.
Nolan Ward
>be me >find perfect qt in driving school >instant chemistry >has boyfriend >talk on facebook for hours >exactly my story >depression, childhood abuse etc.. >has same obscure taste in music >she knows exactly how i feel and vice versa >she breaks up with her boyfriend for some retarded reason >starts dating another guy immediately 2 days later
what the fuck? The reason i didn't profess my love in the first place was because she sounded so devoted to the first guy.
FUCK.
Isaiah Watson
You're young user, there's nothing wrong with thinking about her as long as you realize that it's just attachment and excitement that makes u want her back, the moment another cuter or more exciting girl comes around you're gonna be like what the fuck was I thinking.
That on and off again crazy relationship shit is a trap for young people. You guys can't resist it
Zachary Gonzalez
Yoyo-ing through this myself. It's funny to see how many people passive aggressively lash out every day once you become a more positive person.
Aiden Harris
Haha holy fuck you are autistic
Brayden Lewis
Got surgery now cured.
James Martinez
>go through nightmarishly roundabout method to get qt's phone number >finally get it >remember I don't know how or what to text people
Matthew Walker
...
Cooper Wilson
What a slut. Forget her
Aaron Powell
its hard bro, i'm burning alive.i thought she was the one.
Henry Allen
reason blind people wear glasses is because not all of them are 100% blind and suffer from light sensitivity and shit.
You could say you wasn't blind but had light sensitivity from watching too much porn.
Austin Russell
there is no 'one'
Ryan Hall
Weakminded faggot. You need to be a sociopath until they prove themselves worth opening up to. That's how you don't get hurt.
Joshua James
I didn't have lashing out, but I had this funny moment with a girl I used to be friends with (Long story short: met first day of uni, spent the first term hanging out, got on fine, near the end of the first term she started blanking me, got fit, see my first post)
So I was sitting next to her on the bus because we got on at the same time and it would have been rude not to, we dont say a word, Im not phased, if people dont want to talk they dont have to, get off the bus, so I say good bye to her, we both start working the same way, and she says "Wow this is super awkward" and not in a joking way, I say "No its not" in a friendly way, and shes like "No it really is", and then she changes direction and I say bye again
Its weird, she was feeling all awkard that whole way but I didnt feel a thing
Jaxson Collins
>This I hate texting people, not because I'm awkward, its just that conversation is so forced, and people want to text constantly
>le wrong generation
Eli Wilson
>post yfw the post work out boost kicks in
Isaac Hill
YOU'VE BECOME A CHAD
END YOURSELF
Dylan Clark
hello my name is jody
Isaac Myers
Kek, yeah people that make shit insanely awkward for 0 reason are the worst. I've cut off a few people like that recently, not so much for the awkwardness specifically, but mainly because they can't put their insecurity away in some fashion or another.
We're all insecure, I get it, but when it becomes a part of your person and affects your day to day socially where you need to take it out on others, you can get the fuck out of my life.
My ex was used to do things very similar to how you described that chick in your post, so glad I dropped that bitch.
Lincoln Morris
good on you user, grils are weird
Jose Ross
when will you retards get it that normie women don't care about muscles. only club sluts who ride different cock each day do. if those type of women is your goal then keep lifting otherwise you better be doing it for yourself and your health. if not you are wasting your time and a better choice would be to join something social like hiking groups
Jacob Lee
she wants someone pure fuck off chad
Samuel Robinson
unbridled kek
Nicholas Sanders
>meet grill >she's awesome >we just friends tho >8/10 Norwegian brown hair blue eyes 5'4 >get to know each other over the next couple years >start to actually fall for this one >she seems maybe into it >we hang at the bar and movies n shit >I'm droppin mad hits and cheesy ass jokes >laughs at all of them >she seems a bit distant though
Idk bros she's super receptive when we're together but I'm so self conscious about myself sometimes from a life of bullying and constant knock downs. I'm sad about this one because I want to fight for it but I can't find the way to do it. It doesn't help I'm a polyamarous degenerate with a 5 year gf who's unsure about her.
Henry Garcia
Height/Weight?
Isaac Richardson
>polyamarous degenerate with a 5 year gf
wat
Bentley Powell
Got a gf of 5 years we are in a poly relationship
Ryder Williams
I'm not that aesthetic, but I can't flirt for shit. How do I improve my social skills?
Nolan Fisher
how do you fuck up so badly user?
RIP
Noah Jackson
>bb cream Are you white? How much do you apply? Tell me more.
Jose Cox
Yea. I sort of just wander around, but I like it.
Elijah Nguyen
I learned my lesson quite a bit so I don't think I'll get caught up in that loop ever again