Me again.
Well you're being very honest. I appreciate that.
From what you are telling me; In your mind, sex is being used as a defense mechanism for coping with your depression.
For you, it seems, you can hold onto the idea that sex is the cure. That once you have it, you will feel better.
But you already know the truth deep down inside. Which is fucking amazing, that you have the self awareness to see that.
What you describe is literally, a self limiting belief. Because you are putting so much value on sex (that with sex you can redeem your life and feel complete.), your interactions with others (especially women) will be affected by it. This will more often than not happen unconsciously, and while yourself and others may not consciously be aware of it...something will feel off.
And I say this from personal experience. Because once I came face to face with sex, and saw it for what it really was, my outlook changed. Was still the same old depressed guy, but i was able to lay woman after.
Now (5 years later) Im not (as much) depressed, and my outlook on life is good.
And like i said, it's better to gain the life experience than to go without it. Even for the sake of verifying what you know to be true.
Smashing apart the lies we tell ourselves (like sex is the cure), is one step closer to living in the truth.
I recommend you have sex, one way or another. To destroy your defense mechanisms and to deal with how life really is. You'll grow stronger because of it.
No rush man, do it when your ready. And just enjoy the experience.
It's not like that.
You know how the fitness industry confuses so many people with what it takes to get fit.
All these special diets, these workouts, and pills/machines/herbs/magic that will get you fit.
When really it comes down to something as simple as Calories in/out, and move your body.
It's the simple truth that people overlook.
And just like in fitness, there is a simple truth in getting women.