I thought it was a meme

>21 yearold virgin chronic masturbator
>managed to land a beatiful 19 yearold godess
>dating for a month and a half
>we both live with parents coz balkans
>lately when we start making out outside things get hot and heavy
>rubbing her pussy, grabbing her tits ass etc
>dont get hard or aroused
>she rubs close to my crotch
>dont get hard
>this week her parents were out of town
>we go to her friends birthday party
>im the driver so i take 2 girls home and stay with gf
>she asks if i wanna come to her place
>boyohboy.png
>we get to her place
>watch some tv cuddling a bit
>we start kissing
>we start rubbing
>im rubbing her pussy
>no arousal no stiffness
>she start rubbing my dick
>no arousal barely any stiffness
>tells me to take my shirt off
>she takes hers off and her bra
>no arousal no stiffness
>put her on her back after a while
>take off her pants
>start kissing her bare body
>no arousal no stiffness
>she tries to get my dick hard again
>why dry hump and she gets on top of me and i grab her ass and grind her on my dick
>no arousal no stiffness
>i start rubbing her bare pussy
>put her on back again
>start fingering her
>no arousal no stiffness
>she's bending all over the place and pulling my hair
>fucking nothing
>we stop after 3 more minutes because its 5 and i have to get up early tomorrow
>we get dressed and she walks me out and kisses me goodbye
>i drive home mad at my dick

Porn and masturbation fucking ruinned me.
I havent jerked off in 2 days hoping it will help because i couldnt get hard before, but now im legit scared.
I am starting NoFap and NoPorn because i cannot allow this to happen tomorrow when ill probably fuck her, or at least try to fuck her.

At least she said i have a great body.

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Avoid alcohol, stop smoking cigarettes. And just stick to the nofap. All else fails stop by a sex shop and grab yourself some pills cause fuck it its your first time and you might as well fuck for 3 hours. Pro tip, drink lots of water, and take some aspirin before hand.

oh boy shes gonna dump you. you have to do no fap for 90 days

I had problems getting it up/keeping it up for chicks when I first started getting laid and here's the two best things that helped
1. Don't overthink it. If you sit there thinking about how badly you NEED to get a boner and worrying about not getting one you're just gonna make psyche yourself out and not be able to get hard. Have fun.
2. Take your time and don't be afraid to do what you need to do to get hard. If you need her to suck your dick to get you rock hard and ready then let her know that. If you need to get some lube and wack yourself off for a second then do that. Do what you gotta do to get the boner, don't expect that you'll just make out for a couple minutes and you're dick will be 100% ready for penetration.

There is literally nothing wrong with giving yourself a few quick strokes to get yourself hard during foreplay/when you're ready to put it in.

How much porn and fapping were you doing before this?

Not OP but I have the same problem. Once it's happened it's just so hard to not think about getting hard.

watch porn to turn you on will still be in nofap and noporn mode. Never tested it but it seem like a great idea. Follow my advice at your own risk OP, cuz i want you fuck her to come back here make a greentext for us. Good luck

Sounds like you're a homosexual

Maybe you're not into girls?

meh
it can be the girl's fault too though

if a girl talks dirty or nibbles my ear my dick is touching the moon in nano seconds

start taking lots of L - Arginine and do nofap

just imagine she's one of your chinese cartoon girl friends who you wank off too. get her to call you onii-chan or something

Ear nibbling god tier.

Opposite with dirty talk. Shit grosses me out.

Also have never had this problem? I'd assume a medical condition honestly.

If the foreplays shit I always find rubbing my limp dick up and down her slit, into the hole usually wakes the ole fella up.

LOL I can't relate desu. Even when I was hammered, smoked ciggies and jerked off every day to porn I had no problems getting hard. Now I only watch porn and have no issues still.

dirty talk has to be done the right way
it has to be subtle.
neck suckling and good kissing too. looking at naked girls is nice, but for some reason I only get hard when I look at girls that I'm not having an affair with. as soon as we start making out or fucking looking at the girl's body doesn't do much for me and the touching, kissing and talk are the things that do it for me

>>no arousal no stiffness
wtf is wrong with you?

It's all mental my man.

I had the same problem.

To fix:

>don't masturbate for like a week
>start again, but don't use porn
>never use porn again until you are successful with the girl

After that your confidence will boost and porn won't be a problem as much.

Mate, nofap and noporn will help a bit. Might help you get hard for a bj or sumfin. But Your body needs to learn what is meant to do for sex. So see a doctor and get some viagra and use that to bang a few times then you can cut down the dosage and won't need any more once your pee pee learns what he is supposed to do. It's actually a really common problem.

>Ear nibbling

100% agree. Nothing gets me turned on faster than that.

My dick is gtg the whole time but as soon as it's time to fuck I spazz out.

After a few times it's become a self fulfilling prophecy

Bout to go full monk mode

no arousal no stiffness

Man she did all that. Just couldnt get hard.

>watch porn to turn you on
>noporn mode

>no arousal no stiffness

what...a...fag

Exactly bro, that's because you're not a fag. I hope all you losers that can't get hard for your chicks enjoy being cucked. Now go ahead and tell me it's all ok and normal and how your chicks would never cheat...

Sounds like youre gay or have very low test and no sez drive. Either case youre a faggot

Speak dat truth nigga

DO NOT DO THIS
The point of nofap is to rewire your brain so that it associates arousal with actual girls instead of computer screens. If you need to watch porn to get hard, you are still addicted and you're not making any progress.

Get some pills if you really want to get that first time out of the way, but honestly no girl is going to dump you over your dick not working a few times. She probably didn't even notice the first few times.

you might wanna try using your other hand for masturbating and only use like two or three fingers, with very little pressure
also don't watch porn, use pictures or your imagination

worked for me, was in the same situation

>full gay
i have bad news for you... you might be gigantic faggot in denial... i got lightly stiff only from reading this...

Damn youre fucked. I got hard just by imaginating your naked gf sucking my cock.. post pics op.

I fap 2-3 times every 2 days, I get a boner if I even feel a woman's breath.

you are just gay lmao.

Try smoking weed before fucking. It'll cool off the nerves you get when you wanna have an erection but can't

shit i get blood flow if a girl does anything beyond smile at me and i masturbate all the time

Have you tried having sex with guys and/or traps?

100% serious, not even trolling

I got an erection within 10 seconds of reading the first few lines of the OP's green text.

I got a boner as soon i glanced at your post.

Do what others are suggesting, but if u wanna make sure u get hard take some viagra

Porn addiction and/or death grip induced ED.

Don't jerk off as often, try not to use porn when you do, and loosen your grip significantly.

It has nothing to do with porn you're just nervous dude chill out, take it a little slower focus on pleasuring her and it'll happen

Either that or you're gay

I got hard as a rock just thinking about responding to this... you're gay bro. (Yes homo)

As everyone has said it's mental I can masturbate and then fuck my girl an hour later, it's nothing to do with it not working because of fapping.

You're actually a big fat fucking homosexual who craves men. Sorry bro.

Had this with my ex girl last year. tried it for like 2 weeks. she cried a lot because she thought I did not like here because i was not having a rock in my pants.

But is was pure mental. One night I was drunk and just didnt give a fuck and banged the shit out of here. after that day never problem anymore. good luck

wtf dude we balkan niggers supposed to be manly the fuck you doin

iam with you OP and as somebody who did the 90 days of nofap and porn unintentional because of surgery. yes it works with porn induced ed.

i was heavy consumer. fapped 3-8 times daily for years always to hardcore - religiously scanned daily the net for favourite scenes and pornwhores.

after those 90 days when the stitches came of i came just by seeing a tit.

i think all those who lol at nofap/noporn havent been as heavy consumers to begin with.

iam on nofap/noporn again. last night i had an errection that just didnt go away just because i had some fantasies.

porn must be seen in the same way as alcohol. if you had been a true addict you can never have a drink again or it relapses it all

On day 4 here. Feeling no arousal. Guess I'm just so used to needing porn and touching that at the moment I'm not really getting wood. Hopefully I can cut porn for good. I'm not quitting masturbation, but definitely holding off on it for a few weeks and then only allowing myself say one a week as a maximum?

>8 times daily
fuckin hell

>heavy consumer

balkan-bro, try sunbathing your genital area (and whole body ofc) for 20-30 minutes for few days. It makes you superhorny. I hope that this will help you. Good luck!

You're just really nervous bro. Chill out. Same thing happens to me the first time I get with a girl. After that I feel more relaxed and it just happens .

Though my problem happens more with condoms, I can raw dog it any time but that ain't safe .

In order from less serious to serious in terms of likelihood of finding a solution:

>you're too nervous
>you have a blood flow problem
>you're actually gay

If you focus on the girl and not your tiny dick you'll have less of a problem. So it's probably 1 and 2 but hey if it's 3 that is ok too. Good luck OP.

Op is the first person in history to not get it up his first time. Record this in the annals of history

You're just gay m8. Imagine her with a penis.

porn addiction induced ed my ass. if anything, after all that stuff you should fucking blow up to experience it in real life.
youre either overly anxious or have a medical condition. get proper blood test instead of broscience

>managed to land a beatiful 19 yearold godess
>godess

It's ok OP, you are just not into fat chicks.

why do you want the libido of a 13 year old who gets a boner from just seeing a girl in pudgy jeans? thats not even healthy. thats like wanting to get drunk from a glass of beer again. youre not 13 anymore. youve seen enough tits or thought about it enough times to not jizz your pants after a picture. thats completely fucking normal, its called adult male libido.
just stop jerking off all day instead of making a cult of it you fucking autist

THIS

Just buy some penis pills in the meantime. They are insanely easy to get. Just follow the /fraud/sters.

Last time I was with a girl, making out et.c. I couldn't get hard either, I know that feel user.
>tfw that would've been me losing my virginity at last
Had I done nofap like now earlier, maybe that could have been prevented.

At least you have a gf..

Drinking a bit may help against nervousness

This

She's only 19 OP, probably doesn't know what she's doing yet. I lost my v-card to an experienced 23 y/o, then dated an 18 y/o shortly after. The difference in my hardness between the two was definitely noticible, but God damn that untouched pussy was tight...also fun was fuck to stretch out before some Chad inevitably has his way with it

Get checked for ED
I still watch loads of porn and jerk off at least once a day and if anything it's made my sex life better.
I must have used a death grip because now my dick isn't very sensitive but now I don't finish in 20 seconds when I actually have sex

What kind of stuff is safe to take? Seems like so many of them are dodgy/placebos

Nofap is an unhealthy meme. Noporn is the true redpill. Just use your imagination, and fap 2-3 times a week. If you absolutely must use porn, stick to vanilla shit.

Wouldn't really worry about it bro
I had the same problem with my ex. Things got better when I started to get more relaxed around her.
I also can't piss when someone is in the same bathroom so I think it's related

I think it's valid to do a bit of a reset, full nofap for a few weeks.

But once you've restored yourself a bit, this pretty much. I'm personally aiming for no porn and say one a week.

>starting NoFap
Don't, it only gives you weird fetishes and doesn't help with anything.

literally having this exact same issue
I know its not a physical one since I still get morning wood and can get hard to jerk off

when I'm with my gf too I'll get hard when we play around, but if I stop grinding or being physical for like a second I'll go soft again
even when I put it inside her hard ill end up going soft
she tried to jerk me off and give blowjobs but they don't work either (though she's not great at either)
only way for me to stay hard and cum is for me to jerk myself off

how long did that take?

lmao this is the exact fucking opposite of what most people should do

Men are supposed to be the ones who nibble ears. You guys might be faggots.

This. Just imagine your girl, then when you're with her again your dick will be programmed to activate.

I can jerk off many multiple times a day, with or without porn, and get hard every time
yet when I'm with my gf I just end up going soft if I go a few seconds without stimulation
its like I can't feel anything
stopping to desperately jerk myself in the middle al the time doesn't help

Good job on recognizing the problem and going on nofap, be consistent with it and
I promise you it will get better.

Nigger, that is such a ridiculously trivial thing to take issue with. Are you really THAT insecure about your sexuality?

I think it was two weeks max. can't really remember

Depends on how chill your relationship is i guess

You're overthinking it 100%
You just need to calm down and remember that sex is about having fun for both of you. You don't need to beat the shit out of her pussy like you see in porn, just do what feels good for you and react to how you see her responding and you'll both enjoy it.

I think some of it has to do with protecting your ego. No one likes to be bad at things or look stupid in front of people so you they shut themselves down to seem "cool." Just have fun with it, knowing it'll be awkward at first but you'll get the hang of it eventually. Learn to laugh at yourself m8 instead of taking yourself so seriously.

This is scaring the shit out of me rn because
>Supposed to meet a grill this weekend to bone
>20yo kv, shes also 20yo kv
Gonna be nervous af i already know it
>I already watch porn daily and fap 2-3 times per day.

I see her in 4 days. Im gonna keep jerking off but cut the porn and only jerk to the nudes she sent me. Will i be alright if i do this? Dont wanna get stage fright

Brah, you can't just go 4 days without touching yourself?

NAH MAYBE 2 TOPS

I know what to do and how to do it. Comes naturally somehow, but my stupid dick is refusing to get hard in situations like that. I get excited and shjt, i think ill have a stroke every time we start going at it, but dick isnt listening.
Probably has to do with the fact that im so self concious of the fact that im not getting hard when we're doing that shit and how she probably feels that im soft and how she's gonna think she doesnt turn me on, so i keep thinking about my limp dick. Then she tries rubbing it and i keep focusing on that shit and still cant get hard.

WHY IS MY FUCKING MIND PROGRAMMED THIS WAY

>Avoid alcohol, stop smoking cigarettes.
Generations of men have smoked and drunken more than any of us and still got it up. It's the fapping.

you sure you're not just gay bro? not getting hard is one thing but no arousal? Doesn't sound very straight to me

So was there arousal or stiffness? I couldn't quite make that out here.

It's about the quality of the boner. It's not that hard to get a chick preggers, its another thing to be having here scream your name while fireworks go off in her head.

I had this problem the first few times I had sex. Then I came to my senses and realized that the women I was trying to have sex with were below me on a subconscious level and my dick was trying to tell me the whole time.

I responded by finding an actual qt to date and the result was tantric insanity. I haven't gotten any complaints about my performance ever since. Use your frustration as a weapon, and unleash your lust full tilt on the first girl that actually makes you hard. Then you will realize there's really nothing too it, just instinct autopilot.

This. I completely switched to amateur webcam omegle vids or try to get wins on omegle myself. Any other kind of porn is cuck porn.

>actually falling for the ultimate jew trick
>trying to make it

lmao keep beating your meat to jew produced harcore porn while not able to please your girl, you worthless loser

I think its something with screen time/ porn. of course science is going to have a hard time explaining it because we can't pin point how it ruins people. but

this video is from the 90s at disney world. everyone "has it up". this extends beyond erections, most people can't have normal social reactions anymore for some reason

check out the new Dave Chappelle comedy special and watch the crowd. in 2017 people cant go to a comedy show and laugh, people dont laugh anymore because they have adhd from screen time.

one video is 1987, the other is 2014.

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ruh roh. is it the wifi?

>khv
>4 days of not fapping
he will blow after like 2 seconds

Condoms do not help at all. When I would wear a condom I would have trouble staying hard. I thought there was something wrong with me. First time fucking without a condom, I actually came from just the sex. No foreplay. Do what you will with this information

has nothing to do with fapping or porn. you can't get a boner because you're a social retard autist and are so anxious you're about to cry.