I just wanna stop being obsessed with wanting a gf or girls in general. This is driving me crazy

>tfw 25 year old kissless virgin
>never asked a girl out or had one interested in me
>really have no interest or sadness at all about girls or sex because all i ever see from people is the pain they cause for very little return, all these guys who get so broekn up about them and see how they dont give a fuck, etc

>say this
>people tell me im just a coping autist, you're a pathetic loser if youre a virgin past 16, girls and sex are literally all the barometer to suxxess in life, etc

It's your genes trying to make copies of itself. Don't fall for the reproduction trick.

cut your dick and balls off

>turning off an instinct that a million years of evolution grafted into you

good fucking luck with that bro but chemical castration is always a solution.

Iktf
I feel so alone
> family is a bunch of assholes who invalidate everything I say because I'm the youngest
> friends are assholes who fuck off to hang out with closer friends ( only have one best friend and doesn't even lift. I honestly think he's asexual)
> just want someone to shoot the shit with and 3 hours later cuddle or listen to acoustic guitar and shit

Date one chick that you really love. Decide you wanna do some things while you're young, split with her, say you want to have another go in a few years. Don't focus on anything but yourself. Get back with her a few years later, both have fucked around, got all of that out of the way, more mature. Then you will hopefully be passed the phase of female bullshit.

>I tried dating apps
You failed to get a match on a fucking DATING APP and now blame every other member of the opposite sex for the fact that you can't find someone proper. lmao

>barometer to suxxess in life
pretty much, i dont care about women, but i do wanna do what everybody else is doing so

I have been in your place user, but i have defeated all these feelings who had me weak and now im on my own path, stronger than ever, and freed than i ever thought, it's difficult but you will eventually win, because the light always win, a knight on a diamond armor is someone who never got his strenght tested

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>I just wanna stop being obsessed with wanting a gf or girls in general.

And once you get one and still aren't fulfilled as a person you'll start obsessing over some other area of your life that. That's going to keep happening until you die. Tis life

I see people like you and wonder if you have ever been in love before? Relationships are just friends who are really attracted to one another. Love trancends that. It really does make a man lose all common sense. If you can find unrequited love, it's even better than normal love.

T. Guy who almost married the his HS sweetheart after a two and a half year relationship.

>tfw every now and then I dream
>tfw I can still see that look, those gleaming blue eyes
>it's a look that's says two things
>I love you
>and you are enough.

I've chased after that feeling ever since we broke up. It's gets ya like no drug ever.

How long before I can tell a grill I love her? Been dating for like a month now...

i enjoyed reading this, user

I hope this is how it'll turn out... I really do

You're good bro. Go ahead and call her right now and tell her. You should pretend to be crying while you do it too just to really let her know you mean business

Why'd she dump you

Finally got to this point as well

>Dating the same girl for 10 years
>Girl leaves me after I have a car accident because I had post concussion symptoms and she couldn't deal with it
>Heal up and mostly recover from car accident, get into decent shape as spurred by PT. Get more dates then I could ever dream of
>Have trust issues with chicks and push away any girl that I get close too even if I want to keep seeing them

I don't know how to stop

Almost did that already, we banged for the first time 2 nights ago and during pillow talk I kept saying "i..i.." and kinda started crying before she would just kiss me. I want to tell her but im afraid i'm being too clingy

We were in a long distance relationship (she went to college thousands of miles away in Cali) and she just couldn't take it. I didn't really blame her. I had really struggled with the distance too.

We kept talking and seeing each other for a year and a half after the breakup. We both knew we shouldn't talk to each other so much but I think we didn't want to let go what had been a really beautiful relationship. We only stopped talking after we almost got back together and didn't.

That sucks man. Honesty I'm just fucking tired of being alone and not having a romantic interest that I'm genuinely into. Fucking sick of it.

I'm the user you replied to. I lost that too my man, no wonder why I'll I do now is working out listening to black metal, work and see videos on youtube.

Can't cope with random female shit after I lost the one.

>all* I do now

> a month
Wait like another to make it like a side remark and half a year to say it sincerely

Thanks user. And to be honest you got to take a twofold path. On one side, put yourself out there. Don't rush it with a girl but don't pussy foot. Women are 100% are numbers game. You gotta put in to get a chancd of putting out.

And on the other side, and arguably the most important, is to learn to love that alone feeling. Work on yourself, some hobbies. If you can feel happy sitting at home alone on a Friday reading a good book then you'll will never be sad for the rest of your life.

Yup.
>First gf, date for 2 and a half years
>She cheats on me
>Lose faith in women for awhile
>Meet new girl
>Really cool, start to catch feelings again, finally can trust another girl again
>We date for half a year
>She cheats on me
Welp, learned my lesson

>your end point was the average day in my life
>now just want a socially acceptable hole to stick my cock in and mother my children
I mean I still want the farm and everyone else to fuck off.

I hope to God you aren't serious dude.

100% true statement

kek I dated a chick for a month and we just broke up over text. Still somehow on good terms, even though I never talk to her.

I know that feel user. I'm working on graduating and getting out of Uni right now. Then I want to run for local political office in my hometown. I want to climb to the top and be the best I can be. Party for myself, partly because if I can shine and be that good, maybe it'll bring her back like a moth to a flame.

I got a lot of emotional baggage, what can I say

That's good, I hope everything turns out great for you. I'm trying to be the best that I can too and also because of this moth and flame thing to be quite honest.

Good luck on your life.

Good luck to you too user

We're all gonna make it

>>slowly become more and more disgusted with them
I have come to this point. Since I have gotten fit and fucked any sort of girl I had dreams about as a lanky, insecure teen, I am utterly disgusted by women. As a virgin I was thinking that not all girls are sluts. That those cute girls I would stare at from across the room are different than their friends they hang out with. Sadly, I had to realise that those girls are just the same. Just looking to get fucked by someone they are attracted to. My beta virgin bubble of the ideal gf bursted when I got my dick wet. I still have a really high sex drive, which is puttung me in a dilemma. I am dealing with this by fucking them rougher and rougher. But the rougher I get, and the rougher they allow me to be, the more disgusted I become by them.
All I ever wanted was a qt3.14 gf. I fullfilled myself that dream, but it turned out to be a nightmare in the end.
Wat do, guise? All I ever wanted was to bang sloots and then settle with a top qt, but as it turns out, they are all sloots, even the qts. On top of that, I hate relationships. Plis help.

Damn right we will.

NOT FIT RELATED NOW FUCK OFF

>>it's a look that's says two things
>>I love you
>>and you are enough.
You are getting fooled by the vaginal jew, buddy. 10 other guys have already gotten that look from your 'love'

25 years old.

Engaged.

Now "divorced."

What now?

Instead of focusing on women think about your masculine ideals. The kind of men you admire and the kind of man you want to be. I imagine General Patton , Davy Crocket, and Thomas eddison all nodding at me respectfully and it gives me strength.

She was a virgin before me m8. 10 other guys might of gotten it, but I got it first ;)

Same as me. Watch rsd and change your life.

What do you listen to user?

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Are you actually want a gf or just social validation? I was in the tfwnogf phase one but then I realised I'm not ready for that one. I dont want to go to places, spend my money, meet her other friends/girlfriends, all that shit. I want to wake up and sleep when I want and do what I want. I just spent too much time on this place and got brainwashed into being lonely

I'm going through this right now. The thought of losing her kills me since I know I'll never be able to find anyone else like her but I guess it's the price to pay. Things are going so good now though so I just try not to worry about her dissapearing. It feels so good when someone loves you for the shithead that you are.

thats rough man

I hope you find someone who isnt a fucking whore

good luck user

already happened. wheres the one who proves me wrong for good and i end up wifing her?

God that hit close to home. I miss her.

get a hobby that requires 100% dedication.

right now im trying to finish my final year of medical school while also managing a startup with 4 other guys.

dont have time for a relationship even if i wanted one

it's gonna happen man, life is about feeling everything whether good or bad.

and if you havent felt that loss yet then its gonn a happen

I must say, I think I never was in true love.
All of my relationships I emotionally connected with my partner basically because they were giving me affection and the feeling of being loved/wanted.
That was the base for the relationship, this feeling, nothing else.
That is what made me feel "in love.

But if I come to think about it, there must be more than this.
When you truly like the way a person behaves and thinks, the things she does and say etc.
I think that's where you can truly feel actual love.
But honestly, I think most people are in relationships based on exactly what I described above.
I remember very well that with every partner so far I had so many things that I disagree with them, they way they think and act.
Yet still I was together with them and "in love".

Anyone ever thought about that?

Yknow a lot of time intentionally wanting something can make achieving it all that much harder
Focus on something else for now and try to live in the moment maybe

Ah...
You've just described that new pussy smell kind of love.
Nearly every other pretty chick who doesn't suck ass at first is a "true love" thing.
Don't confuse the honeymoon phase with the real deal.
The real deal is what comes after.
When the fires of passion have burned down all of the excess, are there still burning hot coals waiting to spark another flame?
Is there a new forest waiting to grow slowly and beautifully when all of that other stuff is gone?

Yeah, both relationships ended at around the 1.5 year mark.
But to be honest, not really from my side, you know.
It was more their attention shifting away, spending more and more time with make "friends".
This is where in both occasions I just called them out and ended it.

But idk, I personally don't feel this desire to suddendly hang around with other chicks. I'm fine with my partner and I wouldn't lose interest as well.

What is rsd?

it's that damn look, I've got this one frame in my head of her hair falling around our faces and just looking up into her eyes after a kiss, literally nothing I have ever experienced gets close to that moment

fuck

Only way to make it stop is to get one, mate. Betcha some salmon don't like swimming upstream, but there you go. Your evolutionary heritage has you wired to feed your tribe, fuck women, and fight men from other tribes, and the more your lifestyle feels like you're doing that the happier you will be.

Ernest Shackleton.

Real social dynamics - PUA. (((It's bullshit)))

You never tell your companion that you love them, it's a one way ticket to virgintown

And then you woke up nigger

this

so fucking much this

i'm going to add Veeky Forums for me to this list because my last girl i met here, on this board, no joke

and i stuck my dick into crazy, got my heart broken twice and here i am

while i am crushed and sad af, obsessing with girls is shit but some of us want to have someone in our life to share experiences with, thus girls get our nr 1 priority
it sucks but thats how some of us are i guess

Lol. I'm not interested in PUA shit. I'm divorced, not a kissless virgin.

>I've chased after that feeling ever since we broke up.
We all do my friend, we all do. In the end there's nothing left to do but lift because it will never be the exact same way, which is sad

>wheres the one who proves me wrong for good and i end up wifing her?
this

>and during pillow talk I kept saying "i..i.." and kinda started crying before
are you me? literally did this with my now ex... couldn't work up the courage

Why is it that Veeky Forums is literally the only board in which people tend to understand that were just that, people

That love can fuck you up so bad, that we all shared the same kind of feelings once and we long for the same thing in the end

I love you guys

We're all gonna make it, bros

We are

how the fuck are humans asexual? bro stfu you arent some bacteria. go ahead try and replicate yourself. cmon lets that binary fission action.

The best people are on Veeky Forums i have come to this realization now

I've come to the point where I dont want a gf just to have one. I know that you get pushed down by pretty much everyone, family, friends and society to have a gf and a wife one day. After some time you just start to question this and free yourself from this "wanting".

Nowdays I want to love someone, truly love.. and I can accept that it may take me decades to find that person but I don't want to fill my road filler, simply because I want to fuck and have a qt3.14.

When I got out, to a club or party and see a sexy girl, I just want to fuck her but I don't care that much if she likes me or something. I just ask her and if she dont wants, I simply dont give a fuck and ask another one.

Life has become much simplier with this. I don't force myself into something.

honorable way user.

Just lower your test brah. Worked for me and I stopped caring about life in general

how did you met her on this site

in a thread we chatted about something and it was about to 404 so we exchanged some contact infos and everything went from there

read thus spoke zarathustra

fuck dude I know exactly what you're talking about

When you lock eyes no matter the distance it just clears your mind from anything else that would worry you
my chest hurts

>When you lock eyes no matter the distance it just clears your mind from anything else that would worry you

>Last girl I dated kept telling me how gorgeous I was during our first date
>Spent the night at my place
>Kept caressing my face when we went to sleep
I had girlfriends before that told me the same thing, but it honestly felt nice to hear it from someone I didn't know that well

>girl
Should we give him the bad news guys?

"she" was an actual she, although a dick she would've been easier

Just remember these rules and it should help to dissuade you

>Need to be extremely hot or rich or you'll be cheated on and dumped

>You need to be distant to her, while also not being too distant

>Psychologists have also shown that women are more attracted to men who are more likely to cheat....but don't. Wrap your head around that one.

>You also have to be a dick in general to everyone so she will respect you.

>You're still expected to hang out with your friends so she can respect you...but not too much or she'll get lonely and cheat.

>Remember everything is always your fault (or at the very least, not her fault)

>Remember there are at least 50 guys in a 2 mile radius that will do everything you do and more for her; so you have absolutely no time to stop focusing on her.

>Remember that women are master manipulators

>Women are the best at relationships. Men suck in this area.

>Men can be happy or content with a woman for years. Women can fake happiness until they have found the guy they wanna jump to. So when they leave, it comes out of nowhere and destroys you leaving you in devastation.

>Women hate all other women regardless of what they tell you. It's because women are super competitive when it comes to being desired. It's the only competitive sport all women care about. Your girlfriends best friend will almost always want to fuck you. Just so she can "look out for her friend" by telling her you tried to fuck her.

>Remember most women are indoctrinated by feminism to some degree these days.

>Most women have a bad princess complex.

When I get lonely I try to remember these points.

>Women are the best at relationships. Men suck in this area.

Yeah when you're dealing with the equivalent of a misbehaving child in a relationship it's hard to be good at it

Good goy

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does the thinking about it and missing those moments get better at all? fuck man it's so fresh and painful and I don't know how to numb it

no, in fact it sent me spiraling into depression