Anyone else motivated to lift by their ex?

I tried for 3 months but then the anger fade away and my autism took control again and was ashamed of going to the gym cus everyone was big and I was the only hungry skeleton

my ex broke my heart big time, but then i started lifting and eating big turned from 5f8 120lbs limp dick to a 170lbs muscle slab chad bro.

The look on her face when she saw me and my new fuckgirl was worth it, including those stupid fucking lets get back together/i still love you texts she sent me right after.

I told her off on the phone about everything she fucked up on, even sent her pics of me fucking my new girl, a heavy heavy weight was lifted off my shoulders after that moment Veeky Forums, now i'm free of anger/sadness towards her, keep lifting Veeky Forums and you too can become chad

Haha I'm happy for you. Good on you, m8. I can only imagine what it felt like. I'm in a similar situation except for the fact that the cunt rejected me literally days after I developed deep feelings for her and right before we got into a serious relationship. She will bang her head against the wall so hard.

Yea Lmao he's such a dog though that I had to block him.

My ex gf broke up with me a month go, right before a trip to her sisters wedding. We only dated for like 6 months but I legit loved this girl, even though we were constantly fighting over the stupidest shit. I broke down crying like an absolute bitch arguing with her, no one ever made me as frustrated as her. But as soon as she dumped me I realized how lots of the things we fought over were ridiculous, and now I really miss her. She told me its over and to move on, that she needs a leader and someone who has goals in life. Now im motivated out of pure spite, deadlifting again, feeling bigger and stronger, almost near my goal of a 3 plate chin 1RM.

What happened, he would never give you a reach-around when pounding your ass?

That was my motivation for starting out too, she hasn't seen my since I started at the gym
I'm no longer doing it completely out of spite, I just genuinely like the gym now and bettering myself, but seeing her and her being shocked at me wouldn't hurt

He blew the sides out of my vagina and then fucked my bff. Good dick isn't as good as good friends.

He was mediocre at sex at. He was a body builder though so the sex was rough which I liked. I asked him to go to a sex store once and he said it was weird...OKAY. Another real issue I have with him is that he's 5'6 lol.

>vagina

ya gf was a carpet muncher op and there was nothing you did wrong or could do honestly. Move on and make some gainz. lifes to short to dwell on shit that doesn't even matter in the end.

>Another real issue I have with him is that he's 5'6 lol.
You knew what you were getting into from the beginning, manlets will never learn.

>gf decides she likes pussy
>goes out to get pussy
>fucking whore, I’ll get muscular as fuck, that’ll fix her wagon

Doesn't excuse the cheating

omg but like it does you see
women can do whatever they want and this especially applies when they want to be homosluts
it's 2017 bigot

>tfw late 20s relationshipless virgin
No girl problems for me haha ha
kill me

I was young (19) so I didn't know height was a thing. My phone at the time didn't have a feature that would let me block people so I had to go through Verizon which was a hassle since I couldn't remember my password half the time. Soo he's been hitting me up on and off since but my Google pixel is cool I can instantaneously block people. I just blocked him today.

when was the surgery?

no, it makes op a retard and his endeavour pointless
if the bitch wanted a beefy dude, she wouldn’t cheat with a woman

>autism

dykes out reeeee

my gf of 3 years cheated on me a week ago and I don't know what to do with my life anymore. everything seems like its in a shade of grey. I loved her to death, she told me we would be together forever. then she said she just started losing the love she had for me and started liking some "friend" from class.

I can't even find the heart to lift. my world is in pieces and I need to know if it gets better bros. will I find someone that will actually love me forever bros? please someone tell me it gets easier...

Even if you are, never let them know and have that satisfaction

Similar situation to what I'm in. I was with a great girl who went home to get TMS therapy (hell, I was the one who pushed for her to go get it because she was ready to give up curing her depression). I was with her for 5 years and loved her wholehearted and unconditionally--I accepted all her flaws, however prominent. I, more than anyone else helped her grow into who she is today, skills and all. We had our problems, but nothing not fixable in the relationship, mostly stemming from not liking where we lived and having bad sleep schedules. Ive been working towards, well, working (tired of school), and leaving the area we're in because neither of us like it. Had a heartfelt talk before she left and she was saying how she missed me etc. She left me because she became interested in a guy she had known for like two weeks that she met at the gym. I taught her everything she knows regarding the gym save for YouTube pointers she searched for. I'm 26 and have never felt such a significant pain before in my life. It's better to have never loved than to have loved and lost, of this I am certain.

I feel your pain, I would have preferred to have never known her and simply had all those great memories with her erased from my mind completely.

maybe women just can't love the same guy for a long duration. something must change and biology must tell her to look for a new mate. maybe humans aren't meant to be polygamous. who knows, I'm going to take a break from relationships and rebuild myself again. I need to find what drives me and makes me happy again.

godspeed to you brother, we are all going to make it.

You are Young
Time will heal those wounds
Your pain is not eternal
You will learn
Move on and enjoy life

Girl that I had a relationship with gave me the clap (cleaned up within a week with antibiotics) and blamed me for the whole situation and even said I was a bad guy for telling her that she has it. Dropped her from my life and now my plan is to be so successful it makes her sick.

lol, women betray women so easily it's ridiculous

you're all such cunts

>Gee I wonder why all these men turn into bitter assholes as they get old and don't respect women
Feel terrible for both of you guys.

It doesn't get better. You've lost something you'll never get back and from here on out it will be replaced with a vengeful lust to hurt your enemies. You will never trust someone as freely as you would before, if at all. You will never feel that real pair bond and love that you felt with this stupid shit-cunt of a cheating whore who disregarded you like you were trash and ripped your life away from you.

The sooner you can forget about her the better. Now you know what women are. Don't feel bad EVER about using them for pleasure, judging them harshly for being the ridiculous sluts they are or disbelieving their horrific fucking lies that they grossly exaggerate for your sympathy. They are emotional parasites as much as they are cum receptacles.

Go lift.

This. Women are heartless creatures incapable of love and be faithful. Use them and dump them.

My only motivation is becoming an advanced level lifter.

The problem with using an ex as motivation, or seeking motivation through a painful experience, is that eventually the pain will start to subside. Although it doesn't seem like it, your pain WILL eventually fade, and so too will your motivation toward betting yourself. If you are lifting for anyone besides yourself, you won't make it...

>t. redpiller

Idiots.

>Doesn't have high opinion of women
>Redpiller
Nigger just because I keep my guard up around women doesn't mean I'm some alpha shitter wannabe who views himself as superior
kys

> Defending women.
I'm not red pilled or any of that crap. I'm just telling what I learned after years of being in relationship with women. Don't put pussy on a pedestal and you'll be fine.

Yep, I'm convinced that women either are not capable of love, or are not capable of long-term love. Pretty sure I'll be a relentless misogynist from now on as the people saying "move on" are clueless. There are many things in life one never fully recovers from, and a person loses part of them-self from each experience. I think it's just a matter of women valuing money so incredibly highly. They'd rather skip the journey with their current partner and go right to the end result with someone older.

Why is this subreddit so stupid?

I hope my ex sees how much bigger I am and comes on to me so I can brutally reject her for being an awful person. Fucking bitch.

I'm motivated by waiting for that day when I argue with someone on Veeky Forums and am told to post gains, I win.

I am familiar with this feel. It is probably one of the sweeter victories one can experience in life, not just rejecting exes, but women in general, after they are overcome with desire and cannot think clearly. Instinctual attachement. Some are clear-thinking enough to resist that basal urge but the others... Denial. Feels good..I suppose it makes me a bad person...

this but in real life.

initially yeah it was a big motivator and the gym was therapeutic for me. Now I just want to be thin for once in my life. I still think about her a year later.

I hope to fuck I make it boys I have never been truly Veeky Forums in my entire life. I hope that before my birthday I will actually be happy looking at my body in the mirror.

Fedora tipping is high in this one

i think i met you in another thread because the same shit happened to me bro. women are a fucking meme

>Stellar Dental Care
>Brad The Douche

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Real advice from Veeky Forums?

Holy shit

Kek

Rave rave argue jibber

Post gainz bitch

Yeah, I got a little bit of that with her, but I hadn't fully realized how shitty she was until later. I started dating someone and she freaked the fuck out even though she dumped me and turned me down when I offered to take her back, and she decided she needed to call me in tears. Tbh wish I had been a lot meaner, but it took me having a good relationship with a girl who actually was nice to me and treated me as an equal to realize what a cunt my ex was. So, now that I have an chip on my shoulder about it, I'd love to just lay into her for being a stuck up daddy's money bitch.

Virgin here. I don't know the sweet warmth of a woman. Should I just get a fuckdoll instead of getting enough social gains to get laid? I don't understand why I should bother bullshiting my way into a girls pants

dyke user please

The entire three way thing is something that dykes and closet dykes who're looking to monkey branch to a fisty female friend uses to protect themselves from being seen as unfuckable shit and lose the positive attentions of het men.
TWO WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME is the fantasy that many men want, but the reality of gay chicks and tumblr chicks and how feminists bitched at men for even thinking about it pretty much killed that.

Every single man who isn't a thirsty retard or a limpdick cuck who's more into watching is wise to the whole threeway thing.
We also know to never trust a dyke, bi chick, or woman who has at any point ever had a female friend that was "really close" or ever had a bi/questioning phase.

Get a hot college aged escort instead.
Pay for the girlfriend experience.
Just don't catch feels.

>last gf was 1.5 years
>exactly like this but without the "started to like a 'friend'" part

N-No... Please don't tell me it ends like this...

Ffs guys, why are there so many of us stuck in the same fucking boat of feels becouse of horrible cunts? Gf of 6 years left me 2 months ago becouse she “dindt love me the same as before” now im hitting the gym 4-5 times a week, she hasent seen me yet and still she text me how she misses me, but by all that is holy i will never take that bitch back, we are all gonna make it anons, better yourselves and move on till you find a girl that truly loves you

>unironically bisexual chicks
>the absolute state of western culture
jesus christ, degenerate filth

>It's better to have never loved than to have loved and lost, of this I am certain.

It really isn't. That "loss" will still be out there and will always be out there waiting for you and will find you eventually. Once you face it and struggle with it you can finally gain enough perspective to enjoy life (just as much or even more) while that loss is still a part of you. Because it will always be a part of you, but you now have the chance to become a person who can smile and bear it and enjoy life in the face of it. Maybe you have to completely fake it at first but you will learn and grow enough eventually and be a significantly better man and person for it.

>She cheated on me with a Tumblr dyke
Are you the same fucking faggot that keeps on making threads/posts bitching about this bullshit? Dude, nobody gives a flying FUCK, move on with your life. I mean this is fucking RIDICULOUS, it's everyday with this shit

Spoken like someone who believes in the "more fish in the sea" saying. It's not the same for everyone, friend. Having lost numerous girls before, some hurt more than others, and then there is the one you fuck up with and you never recover from. You never look at other girls the same and you always compare them to the one you lost, realizing they lack numerous positive characteristics of who you once had, only realizing she was the one after losing her. The activities and hobbies you once shared, you avoid because they are heartrending now, so you find new ones. You come to a realization that you must settle, even if you took your time, and half-heartedly love another woman, which is not fair to them, or you live a life alone. You always keep looking, but you're met by a decade of disappointment. There are certainly lessons to be learned, like any traumatic event in life; many are great for personal development. However, not all lessons make you a better person, and not all lessons are good ones that you smile in the face of. Sometimes, it's better to be proactive and avoid having to learn in the first place.

One of my motivations is becoming better than my ex, looking and feeling hotter than my ex. Even tho I still love him I won't ever take him back but I desperately want him to feel like he fucked up. I kinda want him to regret. He admitted he feels "angry/sad/etc" about what happened but I want genuine desperation. Pretty sure he's lying about whatever bs explanation he gave.
It's kinda motivating lol

>Having lost numerous girls before,
People are different.
You can have numerous meaningless relationships with multiple women and pretend that they all meant something when there's a hundered percent chance that they're functionally identical to the last girl.

The previous man speaks as someone who seeks to have a single woman and live a long life with her.
You speak as someone who plays the dating game and loses nothing in the constant pursuit of various women and even pretend that you're learning something or bettering yourself with each relationship.
That's not the case.
You simply become more jaded and cynical and measured and older.

>it's better to have never loved than to have loved and lost, of this I am certain.

As a 25 year old virgin I whole-heartedly disagree. There are some many times where I wish I could relate to someone having relationship problems but I can't. It sucks.

It's totally the reason I lift. I want every one of my exes to regret leaving me. I want them to look at me now and realize they'll never have anything half so good.

>. There are some many times where I wish I could relate to someone having relationship problems but I can't.
why...

Trips of truth.

Good luck user! I'm not sure if you're a male or a female. Doesn't matter. But I know how you feel and wish you the best!

Because I like connecting to people and helping them. Like genuinely helping people. It sucks when I can't do that.

Inb4 tipping of fedora

>Because I like connecting to people and helping them. Like genuinely helping people. It sucks when I can't do that.

user, having a failed relationship will not give you the ability to help someone deal with their failed relationship.

Cheers mate, may your tea always be at the right temperature. Sending good fortune upon your way

No user. Don't wish for that. Being heartbroken sucks shit for a man. Is the kind of pain you can't easily heal and somehow that kind of shit tear some part of you.

You'd be surprised how many people don't want an answer to their problems. Some just want a connection to someone else, knowing they didn't go through some bullshit. Like I can't talk to anybody about some of my problems like my dad passing and me not having a single clue on how to be a man and also why he didn't even feel like a father. More like a guy who lived with me, my brother, and my mom. I don't want other people to feel as shitty as me. I want some relatibility so I can connect and help.

You don't need to relate to another person's problems 100% to be there for them user.
A good ear, being willing to listen and sometimes being a good shoulder to cry on is invaluable.

>People are different.

This is the key, right here, and provides no disagreement between us.

Hundred percent chance huh? That's unlikely for someone who isn't socially retarded. With each girl/boy you are finding the traits you do and do not like. It becomes a tier system until you start getting to people you share more and more common opinions with (from cabinet finishes to how to raise children), hobbies, life choices, etc. You start new things together and get out of your comfort zones together and you build towards a future. You want someone that can challenge you without mocking you, and you do the same in return. The people dating the same types of people over and over again are those that focus on only one or a few very specific traits, and more often than not one or both of them doesn't care much about the emotional areas of the relationship.

The previous guy and myself are the same person. I played the dating game before and after my loss for the very point of attempting to find people I could share more than just genital smashing with, something I have no interest in outside of a LTR. Going on a date with someone does not equate to entering a relationship. Some men get satisfaction out of flings, I look for satisfaction with long-term commitment and friendship. Again, you can learn things from a traumatic experience, but that doesn't mean it's helpful, doesn't mean it wasn't significantly more detrimental than any lesson one learned.

user, you'll fall in love one day, and more than anything I hope that you continue to never be able to relate to having legitimate heartbreak. I'm not talking about what you feel after being in a relationship for months or a year or so, but someone who you had been building a life with. I've broken limbs, had several major surgeries, and lost numerous people and animals very close to my heart. Nothing comes even remotely close.

While I don't disagree with you, the same thing can happen if like someone and they don't like you back. For example I liked this girl and we have a ton in common. Both of our dads' passed away when we were 21/20. Both understand how an overprotective mother can be. Both break some sort of religious rule regarding diet. Like I can't find this type of girl anywhere and yet I find her and she's awesome to be around too. Super funny and smart, likes the same shows and movies. She's beautiful the more you look at her. But then she doesn't even consider you as an option because, well I don't know why. That pretty much broke me. She's the reason I lift six days a week as a beginner. If I don't lift I think about her and get sad.

So even not being in a relationship can do damage to you.

Also I'm phone posting so my bad for any mistakes.

You didn't gain anything from those relationships that will make you a better partner or the next relationship a more fulfilling one.
All you've done is become a bit more jaded and a bit more unable to find happiness in the next relationship.
This will continue till you've run out of partners or you're simply unable to continue.

Didn't you realize it yet?
That you've at no point even hinted at truly settling down or finding a life long partner?

I doubt you even know what that truly means.

There is no end goal to dating for you other then the next exciting partner and next new and novel relationship.

Yeah you're right. I should try and be more open to people.

I hope you're right. I want to share my life with someone. I know I lift for girls but not to be shallow with my body. I do it for a hopefully future loving wife and family.

Also this is me.

last week drunk user made out with a fat chick from his friends' friend group, turns out she was obsessed with young user.
i immediately left the bar, got home and worked out and i felt amazing.

also getting back to morning workouts (20 reps of situps, dips and pushups each) makes me feel way better throughout the day.

>There is no end goal to dating for you other then the next exciting partner and next new and novel relationship.

I believe you have severe issues with reading comprehension, and I'm not directly attempting to be insulting. Going on a date or speaking to people, learning about them is not a relationship. I go out on dates with my guy friends, but I am not in a committed, romantic relationship with them. I am not a dating app user that jumps around person to person for a quick fuck or a dopamine high from meeting new people. I know you think you're being wise, or even trying to be helpful, but you do not know me personally and are making broad, baseless leaps based off the average person you've met, know, or seen online and attempting to stick it to someone without any adhesion.

From previous relationships I absolutely gained positives things through myself and through those people, as I'd hope anyone would. But, like any person who isn't fortunate enough to only ever be in a relationship with one person, the biggest thing one gains is the ability to find what you do and do not like, and what you do and do not do within a relationship.

Lift for yourself. Don't lift for girls. If you want to apply women to it then think of it as making yourself a better man for your one day wife. Your body is a statement of your commitment to taking care of yourself and ability to stick with something, an increase in your attractiveness, and a reward for your future life-partner. My advice for you is that when you find someone, as the guy, never stop courting them. Once you're with them long enough to enter the comfort phase, do not forget the romance--they're not mutually exclusive and if you go too long without it the girl is going to begin to feel a disconnect. Do things she won't forget. Never close your doors to communication. You'll have squabbles and differences, but don't let them build up, talk about them early and with a level head. Good luck.

I did at first.

>was in relationship for 8 years with gf
>met when we were 16
>grew up together
>time goes on she ends it saying "I just don't love you anymore"
>intense heart break
>shamble forward until things get better

I still have that nagging rage in the back of my mind at times. I just channel it towards something productive whether it be lifting or school. It made me realize that men and women want to be loved differently. I thought she would love me for my sacrifices and work and appreciate me for who I am. It was more she saw me more for my social value, what I provided, and what I presented as an individual to others. Not seeing me. I was constantly chasing her affections and seeing the fits she would pitch and make the proposed unconditional love in the beginning conditional based on what I could provide and how I fit into her narrative. I got so wrapped up in trying to play into her idea of love and trying to bring mine into the picture destroyed it. It was always about her and her dreams then trying to intertwine mine into hers at times to drag me along. It showed me the hypergamy women have. I guess if you deviate from the plan in their mind when they want it and when it detracts from how they appear to others they "fall out of love". They constantly trade in their minds. They're incapable of loving me the way I want to be loved. At this point if they want to ride along with me they can but it will be on my terms. I know at this point I'm coming into my own and I'm never letting a woman get that close to me again. It has never made sense to me how a woman will love you when you're single but when you try to make a relationship work they just check out. I'm fine with my weights, education, and hobbies. I'm ok chasing a girl to fuck because I have needs that need to be fulfilled. I'll be ok, and I feel peaceful and in a state of mind I have never felt before and it has left me confident and happy.

I understand what are you're trying to tell me. But hell no it's not the same user. Being rejected by a woman who never had a relationship with you hurts, of course it does. But sometimes is just an ego bruise user. You don't know that woman at all, I mean yes you talk to her, you know what kind of shit she likes and such but what else?. You didn't even saw her naked. You're proyecting everything you love about yourself in her because you're incapable of loving yourself. Sooner or later you will find another woman and you'll forget about her.

>Having lost numerous girls before, some hurt more than others, and then there is the one you fuck up with and you never recover from.

Then what did you mean when you posted this?

This is good advice. I'll think about it whenever I get into a relationship.

>You're projecting everything you love about yourself in her because you're incapable of loving yourself.

That's actually true. I never noticed that. I mean I know I'm a bit of a self-loather but I never connected to dots. How do I fix myself?

Having a few previous relationships from when I was much younger with different types of girls (nothing under a year) does not negate the legitimacy of love I felt for a woman I knew for seven years and lived with for five. Anyone who isn't interested in adding notches to their belt would be so lucky as to find the perfect partner on the first try. I wasn't, but will always wish I was. She was the first and only girl I ever asked out, where I was not the one being asked out. That is not to say I was not all in with the girls beforehand, but again, I was younger, and at that age people do not have life goals to the same degree as they do in college and beyond regarding things like building a home having kids careers etc. And although the way she left me destroyed me and was nothing short of fucked up, I still had my own problems, that while they were easily fixable, I did not see them clearly enough until it was too late. Hence, the relationship I fucked up with.

My girlfriend suffers from depression. (Even before our relationship started)
She said she isn't strong enough for a relationship right now.
Last Friday,she said that she needs time to think about it.
I hope today I can talk with her, but I don't know what to do and say.
She's the first girl I really loved and I don't want to lose her. I want to help her trough her depression, but she's says I can't make her happy on my own and it would only destroy me.
Anons ps help me

In my case, initially lifting for someone else helped me to eventually lift for myself thanks to the progress and enjoyment I get from lifting.

This

This. Threeways are just glorified cucking, especially with lesbians since she'd likely not even let you touch her.

listen closely /b/rah, my girl, also of 3 years, cheated on me, and lied about it after. i told her to come see me (i was going to break up with her face2face not like a beta cunt) and she didn't have the guts to come see me. honestly, was depressed for a months time, didn't do shit, then my mindset changed.

disregard females, focus on yourself and what you can do to improve. obviously having a girl to cuddle with at night is cozy and all, but it is not something you should chase. let it come naturally.

also if you want the feelings to fuck off, fuck someone that isn't her. worked for me, even though i have never felt the same as i did when i was with her, still worked. i am still convinced i won't find someone like her again, but it does get better /b/rah
lol just kidding i'm still depressed about her 10 months later, my mindset about girls has become that they are all whores
every girl i've fucked after my ex has desired to get serious with me, when that happens i stop responding as much, stop seeing them as much and eventually stop talking with them. this has happened with 11 qt grills after my ex and i never feel anything beyond sexual desires, i haven't had any emotional feelings towards a girl since her. doubt i ever will.

I'll take "things that never happend" for $500 Alex. Stop lying you shitbag

You sound like a loser.

1v1 me irl brah