How you holding up bros

>cont.
If you don't do this you will only prolong the amount of time you spend depressed, your body LITERALLY needs to release the stress, sadness and frustration through crying. Once you do though you'll find your mind clears up and you can think freely.
It's at this point you start to identify points in your life you want to change, and then plan the steps needed to start fixing them.
>PATIENCE AND TIME IS KEY
>You won't immediately feel better, but you will start to feel a little better each day
>when the feelings of discomfort come, which they will, confront them again. if needed cry.
>Repeat till you no longer feel the overwhelming feeling of angst but instead a sort of quiet happiness and confidence as you have spent time constructing yourself and building a life you want to build.
>men have it easy as fuck, if you want a family you can have a family at any age in your life. Women decrease in value with age, men don't.

Wow user, sounds like you should ditch women and come be with a sissy femboy slut like me

thanks user, i hope your right with this cause its like sulfur in my stomach now

Good advice. I keep a diary that i just vent at as well. Being forced to make your deepest introspection make any readable sense often helps me come up with solutions and motivation.

The trick is to understand your mind and emotions. Don't try to ignore them, simply understand them. Godspeed user

To all anons, I love this channel on youtube
> youtube.com/watch?v=bOJrVvbI3HU

and this one
> youtube.com/channel/UCqYPhGiB9tkShZorfgcL2lA

Not op and i dont have OP's issues but facing your fears is never bad advice,also i dont understand why would anyone cry if you are lonely.The sole act of crying makes you look like an entitled babby that DESERVES something.Bitch you don't deserve shit.Sit there alone and meditate or something.Fuck,sitting in your room alone without any stimulus will bore you so much after a while that you will start getting urges to go outside just to have a change of scenery.And when you get outside something will happen.You will never know what or how important or unimportant it will be.But something will always happen and that something beats nothing.

that's a gorgeous painting, who painted it user?

>started lifting 2 years ago for the grills
>this past weekend a qt 18y old takes interest
>I'm 24 so this should be easy
>drink to much just to have convo
>hit off but nothing really happens
>go home
>throw up
>fap
Might be seeing her again this weekend tho so thats good. Gonna try to keep it at tipsy. Also I joined tinder again cause now I actually look like a normal+ person instead of a hungry skelly
>swipe right on only good grills, has cup holders, the works
>actually get matches
>can't start convo
If I wasn't 'maybe' gonna see this chick again this weekend I'd probably do nothing and die silently, alone in my 60s from mayo overdose.

to start a convo, say something outrageous, funny, and memorable. my favorite is "typically I shower after I shit because I get mean dingleberries"

>lifting for a while than falling off for the same amount of time leading to me being at the same strength for over a year

>im going to come out of this alright r-right?
Probably. Do you have family or friends to do shit with so you don't fester in your negativity all day and get to distract yourself? Helped me a bunch. Do anything BUT sit at home.

I want to stop existing but I’m too much of a pussy to attempt suicide again

Crying is cathartic and can reduce stress and help you to move past emotionally difficult events.

There is nothing wrong with crying in of itself, indeed it can be helpful. There is an issue with crying as a means of pleading for sympathy or being unable to function with a level head because the emotions have got the better of you.

i work alot, that helps

Karl Friedrich Lessing good german painter. The paintings called "Last Crusader".

Happy you enjoyed it user. Hope you have a great day!

again?

I'm doing well bros, I'm doing well

I feel good. My situation isn't great but I've learned much over the last few years.

Literally THIS my dude, can second

thanks user

First time I bough a gun from a pawnshop for real cheap
Then I learned it was cheap because it was broken when I pull the trigger and nothing came out

y though? shit like this makes me cringe.

JUST BE YOUR FUCKING SELF

I don't know what my feels are m8. Things are going in a good direction life wise, about to start the second half of firefighter school, getting better at climbing, overall could be worse there.

Problem is everything else. I'm 29 and somehow how the girls I've been looking up with lately are single moms. I would love to meet someone and actually date them but it hasn't been in the cards. Add in now that I have vague feelings for a longtime friend who I've hooked up with before hand but I'm not sure how to go about dating her or if I even want to date her and thinking im just growing more fond of her because we're close already. Living in the town I went to high school at it's a nice place but fuck am I tired of it.

Would love to get done with fire school and get onto a paid dept somewhere else but I know itd be easier if I went ahead and did paramedic school and got more work experience before I bounce, but that just means more time here treading water with my personal life it seems like. Plus I love to rock climb and I live in Florida.

This is legit good advice. Best I've ever felt in my life was after some deep depression and bullshit I finally just sorta meditated and went through my mind and brought absolutely everything to the forefront and just fucking faced it. Every issue, every deep dark thing I'd hidden somewhere in the back, every problem or insecurity or other shit that made me feel terrible. You just gotta fuckign face it, accept shit you can't change, and move the fuck on.

It's painful and awful but afterwards you seriously do feel so light and free. It's legit amazing.

started dwelling on the past and its hitting me bad guys

13 years old
>live in coastal city
>group of friends all skate, chads, like 6 guys and a few groups of girls, the 'cool' guys
>was topping all classes, good prospects
>every afternoon was out with mates living life
>parents owned business, almost payed off house
>family friends were pretty much exclusevly wealthy, multi-millionares
>never knew what a bad day was

dad sticks his dick in some random slut, mum finds out, takes us halfway across the country, now...

20 years old
>live in middle of nowhere, no jobs, education oppurtunities, nothing
>never really fit in with the guys here, im the outsider from the coast, always get dogged, barely any social life
>went to uni for a year, dropped out due to bad grades, watched all my uni friends turn into great people while i withered away
>spend every day doing same thing over again, probably depressed, play video games, lift, work shitty fast food job, that's it.
>step dad is cranky abusive truck driver who yells at my mum and brother all the time
>no family friends, reclussive family because step dad is antisocial alcoholic
>life isn't going anywhere, selling drugs, started using steroids
>still virgin

all i can think of is how much better life would have been
going nowhere, can an oldie give me some advice

>Started cleaning up my place
>Have started brushing my teeth for two days in a row now
>Basically been depressed never take care of myself and all but now things are looking better
>Cleaning up my place also felt pretty good like I'm not focusing on anything else but to get my place clean
>Wondering how long I can stay on this path before fucking up and heading on a downward spiral again

This. Improve your self, focus on a goal or hobby, not her

If know exactly how you feel OP. Going through same emotion. Ex gf broke up with me cuz she cheated wanted to have threesomes. Now turned into a complete slut.

Im killing it at the gym but so angry all the time and not making and mental health gainz

OP here, this exactly. physically im killing it but mental and social state are deteriorating at an increasingly rapid rate

>make out with 9/10 girl at club
>first ever kiss
>a few days go by
>get her snapchat from a friend
>message her
>she has no idea who i am

got an A on my japanese midterm. as a C/D brainlet that tries really hard it made my week

She obviously does it frequently.

>If you're 20 then yeah, you'll quickly meet someone new and get back on track.
2 years single and I've been rejected a couple of times for being ugly, normies don't know the struggle

most likely.

>Kisses a whore
>Doesn't understand why he behaves the way a whore is supposed to
Top kek

you thought you had been special for her right?

>tfw gf broke up with me year ago
>was depressed and weird entire time
>ignored a qt3.14 who kept mirin
>started flirting with her recently
>she still mires and says nice things
>makingit.jpeg

gf of three years cheated on me last week, today is the first day I haven't felt completely dead inside. went to the gym, killed it. picked up reading again, did 2 weeks worth of schoolwork so my halloween weekend is completely free to get completely shitfaced with the boys.

its sad this has become the reality of the dating scene

Don’t take it hard friendo. The first time I ever went to a bar/club I made out with three girls in one night. Sluts with alcohol in them turn into megasluts supreme. Just understand that you will never, EVER find someone date-able in a club.

>exercising again
>confronting my emotions for once after several family deaths forced me to
>motivation has returned
>genuinely happy for the first time in my adult life
I can honestly say that I'm finally looking forward to what great things will come to me in the future.

good on you user, hopefully i can make it there someday

Started uni 2 months ago and made 0 friends, just like past 5 years

Not that I yearn for social contact, it's more about lack of them hurting my social status and lack of networks

You can. My best advice is find something you can put your passion into. For me it was playing the guitar. I wasn't very good when I started, and I'm still certainly not, but I put a lot of passion and emotion into my playing. It helps when I sing too. Letting out some emotions that burden you is incredibly relieving, and you'd be surprised how much they're burdening you.

>try Tinder because alone
>have date with qt girl few years younger than me
>get coffee and walk around the park blocks downtown for a few hours
>date going fucking great
>conversation flowing like the Rio Grande
>Walk her back to her apartment
>She leans in for a kiss but I sperg out and go for a hug
>ohwell.jpg
>she text me few minutes later wishing me a safe drive home and saying she had a great time and hopes she can see me again

It's not much anons but it's something to be happy about for now. I think not going for the kiss turned out for the better, it left something to be desired maybe?

>third week of diet
>holding up pretty well
>need to go to the gym at least 3 times per week
>skipped out last week Monday because I felt sick (did go the other two weeks)
>down with the flue this Monday
>feel really down due to dwelling on some shit that happened earlier this year
>getting rid of some stuff
>meeting with a cute girl this Sunday (photoshoot) but feel too much of a beta to ask if she has BF

You will get over this in time. You can speed it up by getting out and forcing yourself slowly back to normalcy. You'll find a better girl m8

>break up with girl
>she works as event staff at college
>time passes
>realize i need to stop rambling and talk better
>join toastmasters
>event staff put their picture up in a huge 10 foot mural that wraps around the elevator
>the same elevator i use to get to toastmasters
>stare at her 150% scale face when preparing to speak publicly
>mfw

>Stop selling and using drugs
>Get and actual job and save tons of money
>When you get a nice money cushion, move back to coast

Don't get excited, you already show her you are a beta. Sounds harsh, trust me, I'm not saying this to fuck you up, but she will either flake on the next date, or lose interest quickly.

If you meet her again, DO A MOVE OR YOU WILL REGRET IT. Don't get a oneitis, either

i assume its different for everyone but my first serious GF took 3 years to get over.

my second serious gf left me about a year ago and i still involuntary yell her name out throughout the day. i assume i have 2 years left of pain to go before im over her.

>met a chick that lives in graduate apartments like me, saw this small asian chick struggling with moving a couch so I used my functional strength helped her bring it in.
>was stupid and didn't ask her for her number afterwards
>pretty sure it'd be pretty weird if I knocked on her door to try talking to her again, and I haven't ever seen her around aside for this one time.

Is the right play to just wait until I randomly run into her again?

I'm your polar opposite.

Started in the mountains and moved to the coast.

I was always the outcast, though, and still feel I am.

Shortly after getting kicked out of uni, I self-taught myself programming at 22 instead of being a recluse playing video games.

Got an internship shortly after, and won some award from some physics society.

Then I had an internship doing some cancer research...

And Im back in a place with no opportunity - or so people keep thinking.

Opportunities are abound. Dont narrow your thinking to the opportunities you want. Take advantage of every opportunity you need.

You need all you can get.

gf left me here too. she actually moved an hour away instead of 5 so it makes me feel extra sad.

I remeber well when I was in cocoon mode. I kinda pride myself on how i was able to improve my life over shitty happenings.

you're only 20.... you could literally do nothing for the next 10 years and you'd still have almost a lifetime to turn things around

>hungry skelly
girls fucking love hungry skellys you retard, there is no reason to lift for girls, you just need to have good posture and not being skinnyfat

I agree in some way, I hear about guys taking years to get over one broad. That’s fucked. It could take as little as two weeks if you spend time relaxing on your bed without distractions so your emotions can be processed quickly.

not him but i took over 2 years to get over my ex from 5 years

I needed this. Thanks brother

>Start working out earlier this year
>gains on the up
>looking better
>get into a fwb with a girl I was friends with (essentially my best friend)

>couple months later
>25, been at the same job for my entire 20s, want to leave
>fwb is catching feelings, told me "I love you", "don't fuck with me", and "what are we" all in the same day. Deflected all questions, because shes not that hot, and I still like fucking escorts, but at the same time she's my closest friend. Have no one else to talk to other than her, so I blog on Veeky Forums
>feel like I have no future
>feel like I wasted my potential
>feel like a failure to my family
>finally hit lmao 3pl8 squat

I thought I would be happy Veeky Forums. I feel worse. I would give anything to go back to 2012, where I spent New Years alone in my studio, shitposting with the rest /a/ listening to r/a/dio.

I feel so lost Veeky Forums. It feels like anything I do is filled with blackness and uncertainty. I don't know what to do.

...

Milk?
youtube.com/watch?v=zF_MlhXAjiE

>left gf and am fucking someone else
>gone full chad mode and scoring pussy on the daily fueled by the taste of fish

I miss what i had with my last one lads

Get a hobby that you like that allows you to show off.

I used to do papercraft - big builds look autistic to some, but they can fuck right off.

I mean, that's if your body isnt your greatest work of art - mine isnt.

>scared off a girl I like but haven't talked to for half a year yesterday by insulting her
so I've got that going for me.
Who else here /insensitive/?

[spolier] seriously though, I did't mean to and feel really bad for it and want to die immediately [/spoiler]

Too many emotions, you gotta shut that down.
Learn to not care about the things in life that should be forgotten.

>>gf left and is fucking someone else
>>gone full cocoon mode and breaking PRs on the daily fuled by hatred
>>im going to come out of this alright r-right?

Been drinking heavily because of the same reason for 2 months now
Obviously should stop ( only drinking with friends most of the time ) but damn

Sound advice user, Grazie

good one, had a laugh. Thanks user.

oh yeah im definitely drinking too.... alone though

Thinking about it, it's pretty pathetic. But damn, when i'm drunk, i feel "happy" up until the point where my drunk self wants to reach out to her i.e. calls in the middle of the night, texts her and what not.

tx. user this is some good advice. will help me too

5 months in REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
hit 2pl8 for 3x5 so thats nice

>when youre autistic but cant pass it off as chadlike
iktf

I feel bad for you man. Sounds like you still live at home. Maybe you should get out of your usual situation and do something completely new. I know that you probably don't know what you *should* do. Otherwise you'd be doing it right now.
Maybe you could look into a voluntary year. Most countries have those. You'll get to do work with people in need of help and it will hopefully boost your ego. But most importantly there are some places that will also give you a room to live. You could move out of your mom's home. The nice thing about voluntary years is that you'll meet other volunteers. Everyone is new, you won't immediately be shut off from the others. Some may even live with or really near you and work with you. Also most people volunteering in social services turn out to be incredibly nice.
I did a voluntary year when I was trying to get out of my hole and it was incredible. It helped me get out of me so much and I saw it happen to many others on my seminars too. Oh also you get a bit of money.

If you want I can help find an organization that provides those services. Where are you from?

Stop watching anime you fucking faggot

>cry. cry a lot, cry a whole fucking lot. Lay on the ground whimpering

no

lifting for someone else or for a women is an endless whole

nobody cares about your PR or how much you lift, it won't matter one bit to anyone

lifting will not solve your life problems, but it can be part of the solution

I'm doing pretty decent.
>currently have fwb/casual dating situation with sticc qt
>she has also floated the idea of a threesome with her thicc college roommate that she experimented with sexually
>toying with the idea of renting a condo for a truly debauched weekend for us three
>friends just started up a long distance dnd game and I'm actually a player instead of DM for the first time in years
>last session killed a wolf with my warhammer
>"flattened the back half of it like Tom and jerry"
>everyone felt bad at how gruesomly I killed the doggo
>groups druid attacked me
>was telling gf/FWB about it later
>she said they should call me pelvis murderer
>I immediately grab her phone and change my contact
>add futurama "death by snusnu" screencap as picture
Pic related
>took week off lifting to sort some stuff out
>realized I needed a reset because I've been feeling very trapped and directionless lately between work and workouts
>realized I needed to devote time to hiking, running, doing memorable things, in addition to pumping iron
>going back in with new 3 day routine rather than 6 and feeling refreshed
>devoting the extra time to outdoor pursuits and cardio
>already feeling reenergized, reinstalled tablet and art software and started doing requests from the Veeky Forums drawthread
Don't be afraid to change things up a bit to get out of a rut anons.

Life is going good user.
Finally over the ex so that's nice. I'm working consistently on my hobbies and I'm out with friends every day, I just need to study more.

Weekend was a bit shit though, not greentexting because I can't be bothered.
Went out to a kinda small party and when I get there a girl I know comes and sits on me and tells me she's into me and goes for a kiss.
Dodge the kiss because my best friend's been making moves for her for about a month and I'm not into this girl, shes not bad looking but just not my type.
Kind of just let her hang around me all night while having fun with friends and enjoying the ego boost, friend comes over to me and tells me thanks for not doing anything but I don't mind if you do.
Got locked out my house all night because room mate put the fucking chain on and slept on the other side of the house so I literally wandered about with 1 friend from 12 until 7 am Sunday.
Got 2 hours sleep and then went out drinking again.

So the weekend was pretty fucking good but I learned the girl woke up and wasn't that into me. I know it's really petty but it sucks losing that little ego boost and having a 'backup plan' girl.

But yeah, life's fucking great anons, keep on working hard and we're all gonna make it.

>fwb
>about to have a threesome
user, how do you do it? How did you meet her? How did you get into that relationship? How do you involve a third person into your sexuality?

>Girl I was seeing for a few weeks is distancing herself from me and I don't know why
>Saw RL Grime last Saturday with my lesbo housemate's gf
>I think I'm starting to catch feelings for her
Shit.

>going through a divorce
>we have 3 kids
>wife just pretty much gave up on the relationship
>she said she didn't love me anymore
>intimacy has been dead a long time, but I still loved her like no other
>just got my own place and it's become painfully real

BUT
>about 2 weeks before she sprung the news on me, I'd started dieting and lifting
>Down 28lbs in about 2 months
>making steady strength gainz, just added casein protein to my supplements, and ordered a couple months worth of pre workout
>talking to a few girls on Tinder
>one girl I've known forever has been talking with me through the whole divorce
>sweetest girl I've ever met, the kind you take home to your momma. gorgeous, to boot
>she's got a bf, but he's a tool, and she recently told me about this big argument they had
>realize I have a huge crush on this chick, and she might be single, soon
>it's pretty obvious that she'd never cheat on this dude, and cares about him way more than he deserves, but she seems about done with it
>been playing the friendzone game, not pushing anything too hard (after all I do wanna hit up some strange before I date again, and this girl is wife material)
>She goes to the gym, too, but not mine
>Still lifting for myself, but now I have new motivation
>sounds beta af, but you don't know this girl, bros. She's too good to be true
>tfw I may never have her, but at least I'll have my gainz
>got my first mire today
>matched with a black chick with a crazy good body and got another
>it's gonna be alright,bros
>Jesus, show me the whey

>about to have a threesome
I've been "about" to have a threesome like 6 times, but I've only had 1. Girls talk a big game but they shy away from closing the deal. With this girl she mentioned offhand that shed had a lesbian experience with her college roommate, who now lives in another city a few hours away. She maybe could convince her to come down if I could line up a king sized bed (mine is just a double).
As for Fwbs, I met her on Bumble/tinder, I told her from the outset that my career comes first right now and that I'm not going to live in this city any longer than I have to (moved here for work), so I'm not looking for anything serious. But I enjoy your company, and the sex is amazing, why not just enjoy being around each other while I'm here? Without any commitment to make it complicated.

A female best friend is as close to soul mate as we can get. She is asking you to man up and take responsibility. If you don't she will probably leave for good and that is what you would deserve. Grow up and sort yourself out. Do you love this girl too? How old are you

Tbh honest true love is better than a couple points on the 10 scale

>be me, 23 depressed basement dwelling khv neet
>one day say "fuck it", find a job in different city, move out there, start going to gym and working out hard
>bought decent clothes and told myself to go outside more
>fast forward two months
>life becomes really stagnant; it's all: home, work, gym, meal prep and purposeless wandering around the city alone just to "get outside"
>start to lose focus, start skipping gym, even tho I'm trying to bulk I can't be bothered to prep meal; biological clock is nearly destroyed duw to working at odd hours
>feel very lonely and empty

Hello darkness, my old friend

>best friend
this might sound stupid, but regarding your social situation I think this question is appropriate:
how well do you get along? I'm asking because I once had a best friend that I'd just watch videos and play vidya with because I didn't have anyone else.
Or is it more? Do you feel emotionally connected?