Do you ever feel like you wife/gf only has sex with you because you like it...

Do you ever feel like you wife/gf only has sex with you because you like it? Does your wife/gf initiate sex and genuinly enjoy it?

Why do I get the feeling that most women are merely putting up with it. Are their partners not physically, mentally attractive enough. Where do I find a women who is as much into having sex with you as you are with her.

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Thankfully my girlfriend really likes cock

If you can make her orgasm she will want sex. It's that simple

You have to be the more attractive one or give her a massage. Foreplay isnt a meme, but where as men think of a handy, the kind of foreplay used will generally lead to the type of sex to start with
A mor concrete example would be loving massage -> gentle sex, nasty words -> rougher sex

for women masturbation is better than sex, 100% of the times i've had sex I had to finish myself after ~30 min of it being all about the guy, to me it's pretty much just a favor to the guy

there could be something wrong with me though, penetrative sex feels like nothing but a slightly painful stretching/pulling feeling

My highschool ex was a nympho
Like we'd get out of school, go to my house, and fuck till I took her home. She was awesome lol

>the dude isnt stimulating your clit while pounding you
If these are one night stands i get it but if its a long term partner you need to fix that shit

How about you try having sex with someone you actually want and pursue instead of settling for someone that just wants you

i've only had sex while in longterm relationships but despite my pointers and training it has never been better than just doing it myself

Boy oh boy does she ever...

very few males are actually attractive, it's very unrealistic to think the guy you love will happen to love you back, it's better to just be okay with at least one partner loving the other

Yikes, bit weird that you havent found someone who works to make you orgasm, and dont worry too much as many women typically do not orgasm from penetration unless its wild and rough

>not spending whole weekends having sex
>not both tearing each other's clothing off

wow being straight must fucking suck

An unfulfilled sex life is all you will get by not pursuing someone you find attractive at a base level. Do you really want to do this to yourself? I understand the sentiment behind your words but you're only as desirable and attractive as you yourself are. Work on yourself in all aspects of life the pursue a male just as awesome as you are

She does, I can attest

This user knows what's up

I believe if I at least have someone who I can get along with very well and who treats me with great respect that is good enough, even arranged marriages work right?

>have to eat special diet so shit doesn't goop up in your butt
>have to clean out your ass every time
>nasty anal pubes
>cock and balls slapping your nuts
>risk of anal damage
>risk of AIDs
>parents hate you

glad I'm not gay

This is a very healthy mindset for a working marriage, relationships take work

My fuckbuddy comes from deep penetration and wants to fuck more than I do. Find a girl like that.

Btw Freud was right about vaginal and clitoral orgasms, psychosexually mature women will get and prefer the former.
>there are people on this board who don't know this from experience

Get yourself a genuinely feminine woman, stop watching porn and thinking facials are the peak of sexual experience, and get that steady plateau-phase balls-deep PiV fuckin'. It's literally what we're made for and there's something wrong in your life if you're not experiencing it. You feel your energy flowing in exactly the way it wants to--nothing redirected, nothing 'blocked.' It is the absence of all frustration.

It might be good enough but I suppose it depends on what your minimum standards for "good enough" are, also we're talking about having great, orgasmic sex. I doubt most women in arranged marriage orgasm during sex, but I base this on nothing

I barely even do anal, my dick is too big for it. I just do everything else. Still sexually satisfied, don't need to pound a hole for that.

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Honestly, since we’ve been dating for a while my girlfriend tends to initiate sex. She’s literally had me over just to fuck her before. At the beginning I was constantly trying to get in her pants, but I gave her first orgasm and now she can’t get enough.

You have to train women. Fuck them and then finger them/eat them out till they orgasm- it’ll incentivize them to initiate it more.

thanks for the kind words but if we expect a hollywood movie mindset on relationships where you are madly in love with each other and rip each other's clothes off every night this will leave someone feeling they're missing out when it is just not so realistic

might as well be describing your mother

>Become moderately fit (chubby + very top end of novice, about to reach intermediate stage/can lift over lmao1pl8ohp for a couple reps)
>begin dressing nice
>travel, learn languages, improve as a person
>finally get a gf I met online who browses this place
>can't have sex because I have erectile dysfunction

please quit porn right now.

How

Same.Only that I fuck whores. Being sexless most of your life except for online porno crap fucks you up. Can't get hard even though I want to, it's just that my body doesn't respond.

circumcision causes ED, unfortunately

hey OP
here again.
> "With a man you feel like you're being taken; with a boy you feel like something's being taken from you."
Good sex is a bit rapey. I understand that the political climate feeds a certain apprehension here, but if you've got consent, you need to be aggressive. You are the brilliant yin, she is the reverent yang. You serve her best by making her serve you. Gradually overriding her resistance, "opening her up," *is* successful sex. Being at all supplicating like
>how about this? how about that?
will make the puss shrivel up like minced onion in a dehydrator.

>LARPing as Chad on an Indonesian DDR forum just because I got laid yesterday
Guiz, I've been in a rel8ionship where I failed to fuck like I just described. It was awful. After she left me I started seeing my fuckbuddy and my sexual skills improved x9000+. If you're not getting the sex you want, SHOP AROUND. Compatibility varies widely.

Last tip: since everyone here is a "late-blooming" autist with no social skills but big muscles, try slightly older women. Position yourself as the "hot young thing for sex only" and it'll be low-pressure. They have high libidos and can train you up

opposite here, my wife intiates all the time though. . she has an amazing world class ass but hates doggystyle positions . .and just likes ‘making love’ instead of going hard & rough which is what I like. it s the only weakness in our relationship.

>doesn't get wet
>her pussy doesn't stretch out for the dick
>just wants to get off
And they say it's men that just want to bust a quick nut.

>where
Not in Burgerland.

I'm not circumsized, but nothing turns me on. I jack off to achieve orgasm and that's it, because I was totally sexless into adulthood and I don't associate my penis and it being stimulated with sex. when I cum, I'm not even fully hard. my girlfriend is hot but even if she's sucking my dick I'm thinking of a video game or whatever, and the worse thing is sometimes I just cum really quickly and with a floppy anyways.

Cut down on body fat, improve your diet, and get your test levels checked
>thinking about vidya as he gets his dick sucked
C'mon man, you're better than this. Get into the moment, appreciate her smell, kiss her

>wah, I didn't have sex before becoming an adult, I'm so damaged and broken, waaaaah
Is this a stand-up? If not, you're a brilliant example of life being too good for some people.

maybe you haven't found your fetish, dude. or you're just gay LOL

Now THIS GUY needs onions

no, this guy needs professional help

im SEXUALLY damaged, that's for sure. I spent literally several hours every day masturbating to outlandish porn several times a day. I didn't have any sort of sexual contact for a very long time and when I finally did, my mind just didn't know how to compute it. It's embarrassing.

what I need is viagra.

I'm not that fat desu and my diet is just the typical chicken and rice kinda shit and I drink almost exclusively water. I do think I should probably get my hormones checked but idk if I can do it in the UK just like that. I just can't get into the moment, I'm not horny. I'm never really horny at all, I just like to nut and I'm addicted to that feeling.

I've tried blowjobs, titfucks, handjobs, doggy style, sucking her tits, fingering, oral, biting, scratching (I have a lot of scars from that actually) but it's just not hard.

desu maybe yeah

>outlandish porn
well idk what you were into that imprinted you so wrongly... if it's like macro/micro shit or something I'd understand I guess.

pretty /d/ stuff but not futa or anything like that. I'm a fan of monster girl quest, for example.

>t. Dicklet

You're just going to have to try again tomorrow you fucking homo, no one on Christmas Day around here is going to give you the satisfaction you think you deserve. Go be a stupid bitch some place else.

Get a grip on your fucking ego you stupid bitch, you're most likely not the hottest shit around and from what most men have observed women today have a sickly narcissistic need for attention

ergg... I'm starting to get the picture. At least you were born in time for VR and sexbots, dunno m8.

wtf bro what did I do I'm just talking to anons itt

have a merry christmas man

Jesus christ fuck off

Please tell more you seem wise
I only had sex once at 15 and then only at 19 almost 20 with a "fuck buddy".
First time managed to orgasm her because of alcohol and weed (just kept pounding because it was hard to cum) but other 3 times I failed to fuck like you described and ended up with fake orgasms and moans I'm 99% sure.

MILFs are good practice you say? Because now I'm a bit afraid of fucking my age girls or slightly younger because they expect me to know something

Fucking soyboys itt
When a girl isn't super into it you need to make her excited first
Just use the old lickaroo

>MILFs are good practice you say? Because now I'm a bit afraid of fucking my age girls or slightly younger because they expect me to know something
I think you have this completely backwards

Bro, you've GOT to stop replying to them.

He's on the internet and being Anonymous and is still acting like a fag. Nothing about his existence makes sense. Just let if go away.

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This is what post wall women ennoy to have saved on their pcs. Deida is master with those milfs.

But a young 20 yrold girl wont know spiritual strong man, if he came on to her and she rejected him.

But the popular guy, he gets it.

Just looking for some advice
I always tried to be "respectful" in bed (i.e. a pussy) but now I see how wrong I was doing

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Young girls just want to have fun, old girls eat up "deep" stupid shit

anyone else get it where you plan to chill and do something with your fuckbuddy / gf but she's not on doing anything else other than fucking?

She doesn't even wanna talk to me half the time lol. She just grabs my dick.

The two main things you need to balance are dominance and intimacy. You need to be romantic and animalistic at the same time, just like in the corny novels or fanfictions where the guy can't control his passion and ravishes the girl.

Look up the DEVI method (Dominance - Emotion - Variety - Immersion) I only read a bit about it but it seemed relevant. And of course Models by Mark Manson. He doesn't go in depth for sex-related matters but good lovemaking aligns with the general philosophy of the book.

Good luck user and don't forget, it takes two for this so don't take all the blame.

What about not caring emotionally about your fuck buddy? Many times I wanted to grab her in a way or do something else other than stick dick in but backed off because of no emotional connection.
Should I just pretend I like her? I feel like a woman that wants emotion instead of a man that just wants to fuck

A girl only wants emotion from a guy who fucks her well.

Worry about the second part FIRST and foremost. This is where most guys go wrong and the reason why most girls lose interest. Whether it's a GF or fuckbuddy, you need to make sure you're satisfying her before you start doing cute shit away from the bedroom.

>go to pornhub dot com
>search: woman screaming orgasm
>watch and learn

>learning sexual techniques from porn

no...

best way is to read books on sexual prowess and then practise on a few girls.

>I didn't have any sort of sexual contact for a very long time
Your own fault.

>when I finally did, my mind just didn't know how to compute it
Bahahah, some people are just not supposed to procreate. You're one of them, comes out.

Oi you cunts looking to please a woman, I found this pretty useful.

google: krauserpua how to be a sex god

>>>>>>>reading books on sexual prowess

Contrary to popular belief...

Good sex for women isn't about techniques or even 'stamina'.

It's all about dominance and the amount of perceived value you have. An unattractive beta with all the technical know-how in the world will not satisfy the same girl the way an alpha with basic knowledge of fucking will.

Think about the girls you've fucked and who consistently came back for more / most attracted to you.

I'm willing to bet these girls viewed you out of their league and were submissive around you in general. Ideally you want the girl a bit scared / insecure around you at all times.

watching porn and expecting to learn how to really please a woman is like watching a crime flick and expecting to learn how to be a gangster.

Porn is heightened reality and has very little to do with how real sex happens.

Why am I even wasting my reply on a virgin

i'm not talking about actual porn with pornstars, there are masses of amateur videos where it's literally a guy giving a tutorial on how to make a girl cum with your hands.
but i'm so grateful you explained to me that professional pornstar porn isn't exactly like the real thing mr i read a book to become good at sex, i really appreciate that hot tip

Every time I’m fucking a woman and i let her guide she will always just want me really close to her and move my pelvis in a way that makes me rub against her clit. Problem is, in order for me to feel good i need my dick pounding that puss, moving in and out and not just staying almost entirely still while our pubic areas rub. It just gets boring and i go kinda soft. Not to mention it’s exhausting with out whole bodies friction and heat

How do i make sure we both having fun while penetrating?

I would much rather just eat her and make her cum then go to pound town. But some girls just want the penetration orgasm

>needing hands to make girl cum

look at mr micro over here

Maybe you're gay.

My ex liked it. I was her first, though, so it might have just been low expectations. There's more to sex than ponos in vagooo -- try kissing/biting her neck and ears, grabbing her hair, caressing and teasing her before and during penetration. Oral is good if it doesn't gross you out.

Could you describe broadly how you managed to fix your bad sex and what changed between the last bad fuck and the first good one?

roastie

no, my gfs usually cum like 5-12x every time we have sex and i'm really good in bed :/ i've always felt like my gfs liked sex more than i did (which is a lot, my sex drive is really high)

>MILF
Only real MILF experience was a BJ some years ago. Now I'm late 20s seeing a chick who's mid-30s. Basically it's because they're less attractive that they're easier to deal with. BUT they have experience and know how they want to be fucked, and they communicate.
I think expectations have more to do with SMV than experience. Experience can also make a woman easier on you--she's had worse and she's learned to guide guys into fucking her better.

I've had ED since birth. Bringing a girl home to bed is something I do to prove my own self worth. I do it knowing I can't actually fuck the girl. I always "forget" to have bought condoms, oh well.

Becoming more attractive is a surefire way desu.

1. You're more confident + dominant because deep down you know you're better than the girl you're fucking

2. You have more options and more chances to improve sexual performance.

My 'bad sex' were the instances where I was a pussy with girls in bed. Pardon the pun.

I say this without flinching, when you're in bed with a girl you really need to ravage her. Choke her, bite her, slap her, grip her.

The whole time I'm fucking her, in my head I think she's my slave and it's my duty to destroy her. Obviously, this mentality is solely for the bedroom but she'll love for it.

But none of this actually matters, if she doesn't find you attractive beforehand. Good sex for her has already started before you've ever put your dick inside.

You need to be that dominant attractive male outside the bedroom first and foremost.

You stimulate the clit first when you "open a woman up," of course, so maybe more foreplay? Like, if she wants so much clit stim maybe she's just not all the way turned on yet. My routine is to diddle her clit and slowly work up to finger penetration. All while hugging her close with my free arm, makin out, suckin bewbs, etc. Be patient and do that until she begs to be penetrated and you're probably good.

Also you can play w/ clit + fuck easily in doggy and spoon positions.

I've recently gotten into a kind of half-spoon position I like. Ok, picture a modified missionary w/ her legs up and you kneeling and testing back on your haunches. Move both her legs over to one side, say the left. Staying inside her, lower your body onto your right side. Wrap your right arm around her head and grab her top leg at the knee, like a cradle in wrestling. Other leg leave down, maybe even trap it down with yours to splay her open. Congrats, now you can fuck, diddle the clit, and make out with her simultaneously.

The only catch is that it's a shallow penetration position, but that sounds good for your situation. You can fuck hard but focus it on all those clit nerves

>tfw can't find qlite

My wife initiates if we don't have sex a couple of days. Lets say if 5 days pass without sex she will initiate.

id say once every 3 days does it for her

>mfw dicklets need to do all this effort in sex just to provide the same pleasure that my long hard dick provides just with my synched thrusts

God it must be exhausting being a dicklet

Explaining sex positions/giving sex advice here is cringy as fuck, please stop doing it, you sound like a full blown autist

dunno, I'm 9 inches and still believe confidence matters in having truly intimate sex.

This

Even if you have an enormous dick, you can still do better by doing what he said

i don't think this is true. i think what you're describing is awesome, but it's not like it's the only thing you can do. girls like all sorts of stuff in bed.

-sex where you just throw her around and manhandle her (like you said)
-sex where you are really playful, blow raspberries on her stomach and treat it like a retarded game where you fuck each other
-make her lick your feet and lick your ass, don't really act so insistent about actual sex until she asks you for it, then act really surprised about how wet licking your feet made her
-now that you know how nice it feels to have your toes and ass licked, you can have a shower together and do the same for her some time :)
-go down on her, make out and kiss her neck in a really sexy way, make the transition to actual sex flow incredibly well and let it happen on its own
-put a collar and leash on her while you have sex :^)
-grope her at the right times through the day
-handcuffs etc.
-have another girl your gf can do stuff with while you have sex, or a guy if you are into that
-pin her down and be really annoying, just keep playing with her boobs and kissing her earlobe or something, but refuse to actually have sex with her for a few minutes (be careful with this lol)
etc.

maybe some gfs don't want to have sex is because guys can't make it more interesting then " i'm horny, let me put it in your vagina"? that is hot for a lot of girls but it will probably get boring if that's all you do.

>Implying

Yeah, no. I think it's just the vanilla hets that don't know how to fuck.

A good number of women have told me that the thing that makes he biggest difference in sex is a big and hard dick.

This is the only thing that makes their sensation in the vagina feel great, anything else is memeing.

i dont really believe this, since i've had girls cum while going down on me without any sort of stimulation because the leadup was long and sexy enough. i'm sure big dicks are fantastic, and ive had some exes fuck me sometimes just because they wanted the physical sensation of my dick, but i think anyone who thinks emotions and how you act dont matter might be confused

I love that
Fun sex is my favorite sex
Where you can kiss her all over, go kiss and bite her neck and rub her pussy with your hand, suck on her titties, kiss her on the lips some more
That shit and other foreplay is more fun to me than thrusting
Am I low test?

This is soooo true.

>am I low-test?
Nah, I think playfulness is a huge part of manliness. I have way more restraint/patience in bed when my T is high (like on a NoFap day 7). It's when I feel lower-T that I just wanna thrust and bust

Is it really easy mode sex with a big dick?

This is true but even with an average dick the warmup has to be good before you can fuck hard and deep

i've had one ex tell me that she let me fuck her even when i was in a really shitty, unattractive, or pathetic mood cause my dick was big and i knew how to fuck, so she'd enjoy it once we got started, even if she wasn't really turned on by me acting like a baby. so i think if you have a big dick and know how to fuck you can get okay results, even if you suck at everything else. but with that said i am convinced that i would be amazing in bed even if i had a micropenis cause of my experience of how powerful the other aspects of sex are.

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Also some ladys come like spastics when utilizing a squat-plug. My sample size isn't big enough yet to generalize but so far I've seen good results. What I am willing to generalize is that women like to be choked and spanked. Also hair pulling.
Don't just stick your dick in. Make her hot and bothered first, maybe even eat her 'till she comes. And do it like you mean it. Don't be afraid of some pussy juice on your face. Good sex is almost never completely sanitary. (That does not mean you shouldn't play safe)

>Projecting your dick issues on to someone making a fair point.

Look at mr micro over here

>tfw my gf has never come and doesn't masturbate and so doesn't even know how to tell me to get her off