/SIG/ - Self Improvement General

How do you balance reading fiction vs non fiction? I'm generally interested in knowing more facts so I gravitate towards for factual literature. For fiction I don't have the same interest.

Try reading better (ie non-trash) fiction.

I'm laying in bed trying to get tired so I can get up to my part-time wageslave job I have to work so I can eat during my last year of second bachelor's. Did legs and abs today and started my cut, so that's a positive. Haven't been reading anything other than shit manga because I can't get too engrossed in something while not doing work without my boss finding out.
Decided to look up my ex-fiance on Twitter to see what she's up to because I'm a fucking idiot and now I'm feeling like shit. Over a year and that wound still hasn't fully healed. Tomorrow will be better though because I'll be well rested and the gorgeous girl that I matched with on tinder wants to go on a date.

I cleaned my room. I hope you're happy JP.

I don't understand the appeal. The only thing that keeps me going is my curiosity wondering what happens next. A lot of fiction will have long drawn out description and I struggle staying focused. I get as much enjoyment reading the summary as reading the whole thing for such books

>drinkin
Diet A&W cream soda
>eatin
Leftover ground beef Alfredo
>smokin
Thinking about quitting for a bit. I often stop for a week or so, then fall back hard. Not that it really feels that bad either way.
>liftin
Did some bodyweight bits on an off day. I did enough to feel it, though.
>readin
Nothing at present. May get back into HP Lovecraft compilation.
>watchin
Parks and Rec on Netflix. Considering Hulu.
>listenin to
C H I L L R A D I O 24/7
>playin
Risk of Rain. Got into 7 days to die with some friends, but we aren't struggling anymore and I like that struggle.
>creatin
Drawing slightly more. Gunna help anons and get better in draw threads after a few more confident practice sessions.
>doin
Same as past 5 years. shitposting and stagnating.
>hopin
I hope I can manage my new job. The stress feels like it's killing me piece by piece every day. I'm making enough money, but I'm so alone and empty inside I don't even care about a bank account.

>drinkin
Water.
>eatin
Went to get pizza with the parents today, but that was more for them than me.
>liftin
First day of lifting is tomorrow. The college has a bunch of machines, do any of them replace a bench press or is the original the best?
>readin
Veeky Forums
>watchin
YouTube
>listenin to
Pink Floyd more recently.
>playin
I brought my Switch and my friend just got Splatoon 2, so I should get it.
>creatin
Nothing except pain.
>doin
Procrastinating.
>hopin
That I end up with her.

Is there a framework for becoming a wealthy man?

How do I build discipline? Are the discipline gainz from lifting transferable (will they help me follow through on intellectual projects like the board games I try to make in addition to conditioning me to physical discomfort)?

>drinking
water
>eatin
beans
>smokin
none
>readin
linear algebra textbook
>watching
none
>listening to
classic 80s
>playin
sold desktop long ago
>creatin
nope
>doin
lying in bed
>hoppin
to make some friends this year

>hurdles and challenges?
coping with the death of my dad and grandma that occurred six months ago, transferring to a new university, losing two of my best friends to petty drama, social anxiety, dysthymia, borderline obesity and bulimia

>how am i working to overcome?
mindfulness, high protein low carb, taking risks socially (i.e. joining clubs and talking to people in class), exercising three times a week, reading more, painting more, sleeping better, being organized.

here’s to 2018 being better than 2017

If I got to work at my dreams, I could accomplish what I wanted to. I don't know if I want to though. I find myself spending more time alone and being fine with it.

>>drinkin
Arizona tea, ginger ale
>>eatin
eggs, peppered salami, and carrot ginger soup
>>smokin
dab oil, pipe tobacco
>>liftin
arm weight
>>readin
book of the new sun
>>watchin
HBOGO: Silicon Valley, Vice Principals, Eastbound and Down, Jonah from Tongah
>>listenin to
Yung Lean, pilotredsun, Helmet

Go for fiction that contains themes that can be applied to real life, that’s what the better fiction books tend to have in common anyway. A good story is good, but it should also be a vehicle for a message that you can take away and learn from. It’s also good practice for being analytical of what you read in general, since the themes aren’t always made as obvious as in visual media or music.

The Remains of the Day has some pretty simple to grasp but well explored themes of self-respect, missed opportunity, regrets, contemplation and excessive dwelling on past failures for example, I read it the other week and enjoyed it.

Veeky Forums, how do I get rid of depression and anxiety? The gym doesn't help me anymore. I feel so...hopeless. I can barely make it into the gym anymore and when I'm there I can't muster up the energy to do anything. Will I ever get better?

Getting back from the gym for the first time this year after nearly a week of overindulgence feels better than the taste of every calorie I consumed between Christmas and New Year.

try therapy and anti depressants. also sleep eight hours a day, inadequate sleep is the number one predictor of developing some sort of mental illness.

you will be okay just give it time. your desire to change and be better is a good sign.

What other aspects of your life do you wish you could change?

>drinkin
Loose leaf tisane; it's a work night so even though it's the holiday still I'm trying to not drink.

>eatin
Just finished a bowl of vegetables, lean beef, and an egg (yay protein).

>smokin
Nothing.

>liftin
Hitting a plateau, but that just gives more motivation.

>readin
A book on Keynesianism

>watchin
Nothing

>listenin to
Marconi Union - Weightless

>playin
Zelda, but no motivation to do it today

>creatin
Nothing

>doin
Shitposting on a Bhutanese carpet making board.

>hopin
I don't die alone.

I reckon therapy is a good starting point. They can help get you out of a minor funk enough for you to engage enough to want to change your behaviour. If CBT doesn't work for you to start with you might need a combination of drugs and CBT, but if possible try CBT before committing to drugs.

If you're reading Keynes for anything other than a macro class then you're a cuck

I cant fall asleep at night. No matter what I do during the day or how little sleep I got the night before I can’t fall asleep. I think I’ll try therapy I’m reluctant to try drugs though.

Everything really, the lack of a solid social circle, the lack of close ties with my family, the lack of any sexual interest from anyone. It’s hard to be motivated to keep improving yourself when you never get any results. Feels really bad.

There should be a worldwide holiday celebrating the day that evil bastard Friedman died.

Sounds like CBT is for you. A lot of what you're saying seems like it can be fixed when your cognition changes.

>yung lean
>memezona iced tea
>dab oil

I haven't masturbated since december 31 :)

I'm going to focus on social gains, every other aspect of my life has returned in place. Last year my nyr was to visit my university friends at least 3 times, I didn't go once, messaged them only 3 times.

I'm on a farm do I never meant anyone outside family, tried the local pubs but there's no one my age or younger, even my grandma pulled me aside and asked me if I can't do that online dating thing or order someone from Russia, so I'm fucking desperate right now.

I need some smaller steps to work on this year, like
>Learn to dance, and to be confusing when dancing
>Learn to talk along with a large group, and interrupt someone if they don't give me a chance to talk.
>Get non-work clothes
>Start flirting with the 3 girls ive seen in town
>Visit friends more
>Practice Smalltalk and shit with my cousins I almost never talk to
>Get closer to my cousins and extended family to meat new people through them
>Practice not walking manually when entering a room full of people
>Maybe play around with online dating/tinder//soc/
>Fill out my Facebook profile since everyone seems to use it

Any help, tips or advice is appreciated.

*Routines in place

I think the standard answer would be get a hobby, like learning a language, dance, not sure.

>drinkin
Bullet proof coffee, drank too much alcohol on new years, made a bit of a fool of my self, broke a few red pills that I shouldn't have

>eatin
Keto, fucked up yesterday and ate 2500 calories, still in keto but I'm meant to be cutting

>smokin
Got high yesterday, it made me weak.

>liftin
Not yet, trying to be able to run 5k

>readin
Haven't in a few weeks but I was reading the 39 steps, need to pick it up again, then I'm going to read meditations.

>watchin
Some history of Wales bbc documentary, am Anglo and live here.

>listenin to
nothing

>playin
Nothing

>creatin
Nothing

>doin
Work

>hopin
To be more productive with my time, spend less time going through an endless addictive circle of sites on the Internet.

>drinkin
powerade and fuggin chocolate milk
>eatin
10 eggs, first batch with ham and a side of tater tots, second with chorizo
2 ramen noodle packets later in day
fuckin 2 eggo waffles with peanut butter
>liftin
havent lifted since september
>listenin to
kodak black
>creatin
some music and some design
>doin
in bed

T-thanks manic depression and meds side effects
>mfw

Im only 5'8 167ibs btw
fuggin wish I can look like this again desu, so I can post in cbt with no shame
Im about 152ibs there, prime wrestling condition
I look like a kinda built soyboy right now I hate it

Hope this year is better to me and free of manic episodes.
Godspeed to anyone who also suffers from mental illnesses

fuck this is the weather i just did my 3am run in. my face and hands are numb. i'm not used to this cold weather my dudes.

why is it colder in oklahoma than in alaska.

2018 is going good so far.
Diet is clean (no sugar, no alcohol, no junk)
Lifting is clean (finally refined a routine)
Mind is clean (reading and meditating every night)
We're all gonna make it

Wanna know what my problem is? I switch routines about every 4 weeks. Not because the old one isn't working but because I believe the new one will be better and more fun. This may sound harmless but it's the reason I made zero gains in 2017 and I'm not even at 1/2/3/4

2017 was the year I got my shit together and fixed my life. I graduated and got my degree, lost 30kg and lost my virginity. Going to make 2018 even better.

>drinkin
Water with protein
>eatin
Red meat with cherry tomato, mushroom and spinach salad.
>smokin
Nothing
>liftin
Did body weight today since I'm out on a farm for Christmas holidays.
>readin
Healthy food guide magazine.
>watchin
Saw Starwars Episode 8 on Monday. 4/10
>listenin to
Tyler the Creator / Radio head
>playin
2018 i'm ditching videogames, Played my cousins Nintento Switch today with BotW.
>creatin
Developing a website in my spare time.
>doin
Farm work over Christmas break cause seeing family.
>hopin
I get a gf this year since i'm not busy studying.

>drinkin
water and coffee
>eatin
everything i get my hands on
>smokin
dont smoke, that shit's nasty
>liftin
im happy from my strength gains of last year, gonna get some calisthenics and martial arts into it
>readin
lol
>watchin~
occasional cartoons
>listenin to
retrowave
>playin
starcraft 2
>creatin
dont feel like talking about my job, but it's some creepy shit if you think about the privacy implications
>doin
enjoying my last bit of holidays.
>hopin
about to start minoxidil,hope it holds so i dont have to go bald

>drinkin
Mostly water and coffee. Gin and tonic sometimes, beer sometimes, red wine sometimes.
>eatin
Mostly chicken and rice with broccoli, in various forms. Pasta a fair amount too. More ready meals than I'd like but lazy.
>smokin
Very rarely a cigar.
>liftin
Less than I used to but I usually focus up in January and February to build up before the rest of the year.
>readin
"Tools of Titans" by Tim Ferriss - all about what billionaires, experts, etc. do to improve their own lives in various ways. There's a lot of bullshit in there I think, and if you followed every tip you'd have neither any time in your day or any money left, but it gives a lot of ideas about being healthier and happier.
>watchin
Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood, watched the original years ago and thought I'd give it a go. Also Mr Robot when I get around to it.
>listenin to
Soundtrack from Once, girlfriend got me to watch it.
>playin
Overwatch all day every day. I now have all four Torbjorn legendary skins and I just got a duplicate Sombra epic winter skin - I don't think I'm gonna manage to get the new Sombra legendary in time.
>creatin
I run a D&D table every saturday, I create a lot for that. One fucker is becoming an increasing problem though, thinks he could do a far better job than me and starts getting fucking bitchy when things aren't in his control.
>doin
Working. Lifting. Chilling.
>hopin
Trying to build a branding department at work so I can step out of the gruntwork. There's a lot of internal scope for building our own stuff and designing our own careers, but I still gotta manage the boring day to day stuff for at least the next year and it's not what I want anymore. Don't wanna leave though, I love the company too much.

I actually joined a yoga class and a classical dancing class to meet women. The yoga class made me feel like a fucking creep, since every other guy there had obviously turned up to gawk at butts (as had I, but they made me self-conscious about it).
The dance class was fucking great, there were only 20% guys and when we were doing oldschool rock'n'roll with the throws and shit, the girls basically fought over getting to dance with the fit guys who could lift them properly.

Thinking back that dance class did as much to fix my crippling self-doubt as lifting

Citalopram and mirtazapine (remorad or whatever orhter name)
I just got back from the doctor's office and he gave me some other shit, it ends in pam so it's bad

I always thought I need to have everything journaled perfectly and neatly and in one place. However at my job I encountered this one really effective project manager, who has a million different tables, lists, outlines, timelines etc and is not scared if literally writing down or sketching every fucking thing he thinks it's important. What I noticed is that 1. He learns during this process about what he wants to achieve, it's a natural brainstorming method 2. The notes, tables, lists you make remain lists and you focus on what you actually want to achieve in the real world - ie. The lists are a tool, so don't be owned by them, use them to the max. You can always trash the notes or make a more high level plan based on all the detail you wrote. You don't even have to go back to the detailed ones, the most important stuff will be left on your head.

Tl;Dr just go crazy man

Try a new routine and/or completely new approach to lifting like powerlifting or Olympic weightlifting, maybe you'll like it

Same, just don't change it.

>drinkin
Water
>eatin
Nothing right now, having salmon for dinner
>smokin
I quit a long time ago, I do have some hash lying in a bag but i'm gonna throw it out
>liftin
I bought a membership to a small private gym so i'm getting the key in the mail soon
>readin
Working my way through the Veeky Forums starter kit, after that gonna start with the greeks
>watchin
nothing
>listenin to
youtube.com/watch?v=ksSyVz1tI3Y
>playin
Chess
>creatin
I'm making a spreadsheet to keep track of lifts, weight, books i've read, money etc
>doin
Nothing productive enough
>hopin
That I can get a job soon and that my little brother straightens his shit out

>drinkin
water, milk, coffee, teas
>eatin
2 regular meals (rice, beans, red meat, white meat, salad, vegetables), tons of fruits, some nuts
>smokin
nothing
>liftin
weights, big 4 + tbar row and chin ups
>readin
ulysses for the 2nd time
>watchin
as of right now, serpico, later on will watch there will be blood
>listenin to
not much
>playin
not proud of it but some day of defeat and some insurgency casually with a friend, and sometimes chess and Go with this same friend
>creatin
no
>doin
vacation, so the 3 things I'm taking seriously are practicing my 3rd language (italian), reading books and lifting
>hopin
want to learn 2~3 languages this year, start my philosophy journey, get fit, be able to grow a beard, do well on college (fucked up last 2 years on it, lots of failed classes...)

hang on there, friend, you will make it and it will be worth it. Gotta get bad in order to get good.

>drinkin
water, coconut water, and snake juice
>eatin
hopefully nothing until i need to refeed
>smokin
nada
>liftin
weights
>readin
meditations, culinary book, blood meridian, and the art of deception
>watchin
too much. i guess peaky blinders and black mirror
>listenin to
nothing
>playin
the witcher 3, cant really commit to a video game anymore though
>creatin
nothing lol
>doin
this
>hopin
to be better than i was last year

I know a cure for depression its called:
>get over yourself you ungrateful little bitch

Yeah it's always so simple too. I told this lady in a wheelchair to stop being a bitch and finally learn how to walk and somehow I was the jerk here

I'm still kinda recovering from being sick, my body feels good but i'm still coughing like an idiot. Mainly just an itchy throat cough, but i really starting having a coughing fit when i started working out. So i cut my workout short due to almost puking because of how hard i was coughing. Was this the right choice /SIG/?

Should i have stayed and finished my sets? I feel like i was already making a mistake by coughing up the gym while other people where there

I can concur with that.
Though I would add that it's a good idea to do an inventory at least once a month, or even better once a week. This is especially true in regards to ideas. If you just leave them on some notepad, you might never follow up on them, so it's good to revisit them, when they are still somewhat fresh in you mind.
There is little point in planing and sketching out stuff when you never execute.

This is something I learning in the last 6 months, working with project managers and working on projects myself. Execute, execute, execute.

If you are ill, make time to recover. Too many times I thought I was fit again, and worked our hard. This then turned into a prolonged illness. Take your time, your gains won't vanish, even though it might look like that in the mirror.
Your health is more important!

>drinkin
water
>eating
nuffin, fast day
>smokin
nuffin
>lifting
a lot
>reading
Benjamin Franklin: An American Life
>watchin
nuffin, TV is for idiots
>listenin
Oasis, Yngwie Malmsteen
>playin
nuffin, my ps4 haven't been used in ages
>doin
working
>hopin
Nail qt coworker who mires now and then.

Fuckin lolled

>tfw came far in journey of self improvement
>tfw sometimes think about quitting but its not possible because i would never live with myself if i quit, with my high ass standards for myself
>what people used to think were impressive feats for me are now just expected of me, never impressed anymore

Self improvement was both a mistake and a blessing.

Last year was pretty rough, but all in all positive changes. My GF of 3 years broke up with me in march, but I successfully graduated in June. Got a shitty job, worked there till October then got a great opportunity to do web development, so I took it. I'm still broke as fuck and living paycheck to paycheck, but finally I've got a fixed salary I can count on, so I would say things are looking out. I'm fucking a half-ugly girl from Tinder which is good for practice (I am not a good or experienced lover)

>drinkin
Mainly water and coffee at work, trying to cut down on diet energy drinks (failing at that)
>eatin
Eating relatively clean, a lot of veggies, tuna and chicken
>smokin
Well I'm still smoking a pack a day, but I got myself a vape, trying to quit
>liftin
I go only 1-2 times a week, hopefully next week I get my paycheck and get a membership, so I can go regularly again
>readin
Started reading The Game, but was too whiny for me, now reading a Terry Pritchett book (don\t know the title in english)
>watchin
Watched Mr. Robot, no other shows, yesterday I watched the new Blade Runner which was beautiful as fuck
>listenin to
Got a family plan on Spotify with my bros, listening some different shit every day
>playin
Not a gamer
>creatin
Not creating anything really
>doin
Learning some programming, try to play the guitar as much as I can
>hopin
I hope I can get in relative shape for summer, and I hope I can cut down on my porn usage in the next months

amen to that, brother

>le muh crippling memepressiunz

Early Nov of last year started eating a lot more(59kg 6'0), and actually working out. When I started, I could reach under my ribs, I couldn't do a single pushup, and my neck was curved to the point of where the Hunchback of Notre Dame would laugh

Two months later now, I'm at 71kg, can crank out proper form push-ups real well and am moving onto higher ones, and my hunchback is virtually gone. Fuck me man I feel good as fuck

A struggle though that I'll have to work with eventually is my head. My face doesn't have the best structure, and my hair loves to get oily after just one day out, and it's a pain keeping it well. Not sure where to progress with this yet

>drinkin
water n theanine
>eatin
had some bubble and squeak an hour ago but i'm still hungry
>smokin
some buds
>liftin
cuckols var
>readin
halfway through models by mark manson atm
>watchin
peaky blinders
>listenin to
the stone roses, black flag, 21 savages without warning
>playin
fortnite
>creatin
fack all
>doin
setting up habitca
>hopin
that 2018 brings gainz, grillz and eternal happiness

Try nopoo

>drinkin
Water
>eatin
Junk. Going to start getting CLEAN and GREEN in 2018.
>smokin
Nothing.
>liftin
January 8 I'm going to continue Doggcrap for the entire year and see what happens. I hope to hit 1/2/3/4 for 5 reps in the process. Did this program in Nov/Dec last year with great results.
>readin
Antifragile by Nicholas Nassim Taleb, Iron Ambition by Mike Tyson. New year so I'll probably get to Meditations (Marcus Aurelius) en No Excuses (Brian Tracy) again.
>watchin
Nothing. I'm not really a fan of tv shows and most movies I wanted to see, I've seen already.
>listenin to
Currently some Händel. Sabaton in the gym. Hiphop (Slim Shady LP mood) during cooking/house cleaning.
>playin
Skyrim, perfect in this cold weather. Comfy as fuck.
>creatin
Will start to create some niche sites again this year. I've made a site that made money before but I made some mistakes. Also have "next shiny object" syndrome so I need to focus on one thing and trust the process.
>doin
Preparing my year, setting up dates with girls, cold approach.
>hopin
Lost two of my three fuckbuddies last December because they got boyfriends and stopped wanting to see me. Will need to replace those, I'm used to having sex with 2 or 3 different girls each week now.

Alright Lads ive found myself in freefall since September. the summer before Uni was the happiest time of my life and ive gone to the uni of my dreams doing a subject I love, broke up with my gf who now hates me and ever since ive been in a rut, ive got great things going for me but I'm sliding into degeneracy because I'm unhappy. I loved her and I abandoned her but I must admit I lost her. its caused a slide into the drink and no motivation to do any studying. I'm still runnin and liftin (well not rn but only cos I'm home away from the gym) and that's the only thing going for me. Anyone had a similar experience and been able to salvage their life from going to drinking and nothing back on course with what they want to do?

>tfw gf
>tfw therapist
Life's slowly getting better

Guys wtf should I do?
I've been with my gf for almost 5 years, we're both 20.
A week ago when she was away with family for Christmas she told me she wasn't sure we could stay together.
Since the beginning we've physically far from each others (studies and shit) but in September I'll be it the same city.
Yesterday we talked about it and decided to end it now because we don't have the same goals in life (she wants to build a career and travel and no kids before 30, but by 30 I want a familly)
For the past 20 hours she's been telling me how ending it was a mistake and wants to talk about it tomorrow.
I realized maybe she's not the one, she's a moderate feminist, is doing what I consider a meme degree and I'm pretty sure she'll never find work in this field (gender studies)
She told me she would change her goals for me and have kids earlier but I'm not sure man. What if she later blames me for not having a good job and leave me. I don't want my kids to have divorced parents.
She's crazy in love tho so I don't really know what to do.

You've made the right decision bro, you gotta stick to it.
Worst thing will be in 10 years she thinks you ruined her life and takes half your stuff and your kids too

She's realised she was wrong but you can't risk ruining your life because she has ruined hers

>Started bike riding everyday
>On the 19th I'm moving out to uni accommodation where I'm going to get fit
>Scared that people will mock me for letting my body end up this way
How do I avoid gym autism and do it without worrying?

Yeah but muh feelings man. If I don't go talk to her tomorrow I'm pretty sure it'll be the end for realz.
If I go I don't know what I'll do. I've never told her I don't like that she's a feminist but I told her how I think it's bullshit what they're doing in the US.
She had the Times with the trans kid on her desk once and when I talked about it she told me it was for uni..
Wtf do I do man, I'm so messed up right now

>drinkin
soda
>eatin
Hopjes vla
>smokin
don't smoke
>liftin
today was upper body day and tomorrow is a rest day
>readin
need to get back to Journey to the West and How to Win friends and Influence People
>watchin
catching up on anime
>listenin to
whatever I feel like
>playin
trying to get into grand strategy games, currently Hearts of Iron 4
>creatin
nothing
>doin
killing some time before bed
>hopin
get a place for my own,a gf, and some direction in life

Why do people say sig is nazi propaganda

>drinkin
Plenty of water, its a hot summer down under

>eatin
Trying to meal plan better but still eating take out shit too often

>smokin
Fucking ciggies are killing me bruh
>liftin
Only just properly getting back into my routine after a year of being a lazy cunt

>readin
Horus Heresy series because I'm a fucking nerd

>watchin
I don't even own a tv
>listenin to
Dire straits, loving the older stuff

>playin
DoW 1
>creatin
I'm getting into knife making

>doin
My ex

>hopin
My gf doesn't behead me when I leave her soon

Guys please I'm dying right now. I've got no one except her to talk to. No friends because I'm autistic as fuck.
She came to me when I was 15 i've had "gfs" before her but I was a kid. I'm not sure I could find someone after her

>Drinkin
Water, tea and milkies
>Eatin
Had a huge steak and some chicken
>Smokin
Don't smoke or vape
>Readin
Don't read often, Veeky Forums I guess.
>Watchin
Some anime later.
>Listenin to
youtube.com/watch?v=_LLAJLh_cqU
>Playin
Not tonight, haven't in a while.
>Creatin
Doing some schoopl work.
>Doin
Doing some crypto stuff then going to bed. Good gains today.
>Hopin
2pl8 bench by the end of the year

Hang in there user, losing family is tough, but it sounds like you're taking control of what you can - your life and health, which is the best you can do.

You're gonna make it.

You're 20, you got into the relationship at 15.

Look man, word of advice, most people change a ton from 15 to 20, and again from 20 to 25, especially if you leave your hometown to go to college.

Best end it now. You are already fairly different people and continue to drift apart. I get that you are young and it's a hard step to take, but just man up, see it as a test of will and don't succumb to the easy way out, of just going back to her.

In a few years, you may wonder what could have been, but it will be bittersweet, and not a hateful feeling of regret of all the time you wasted when you should have ended it earlier.

Speaking from a fair share of experience.

I get it. It's basically what I told her. Should I go tomorrow?
I want to tell her everything I think about how she changed and what I wrote here. I don't know if I should.

Fuck that mentality.

Let me tell you something, unless you're a chad already, everyone thinks that when they leave a relationship that lasted more than 3 years.
"I'm out of my game", "I was lucky I could get her" bla bla bla bla. That is fear of going into unfamiliar terrain manifesting, you are trying to make reasonable excuses to stay in your zone of comfort. Everyone thinks that. Hell, you've been dating her since you are 15, how the fuck do you know if you are good with girls or not, if you never tried it.

Don't succumb to it. It makes no sense to be in a relationship unless you are fully commited to it. People don't like spending that much time and intimacy with other people otherwise, and it just ends in resentment.

You're doing good on yourself bro. And you are doing the best for her as well.

It's up to you how you handle that. I don't think it matters much, but if you guys share a group of friends, maybe you should try to keep things cordial to prevent some sort of rift in the group, but in the end it doesn't matter much.

Tell her that things are not working out, you don't feel the same way about her as you did, and obviously she has her doubts. You both grown and are now different people.

Wish her the best and leave.

>tfw pilot
>tfw 7 days on 7 days off
>tfw no progress

How am I supposed to make gains this way?
>inb4 hotel gym
I can only do so much with a 5lbs weight and a rowing machine

>drinkin
Nothing. Haven't drank for 2 weeks (exception for NYE).

>eatin
Been browsing Veeky Forums and eating Paleo lately

>smokin
Quitting smoking pack a day of reds, shit is hard

>liftin
Can't overcome nervousness to use the anything at the gym in my apartment building besides the treadmill so cardio for now

>readin
Tried ordering some books on Amazon three weeks ago, they got lost in shipping of course

>watchin
Wormwood

>listenin to
New Taylor Swift

>playin
I don't play video games

>creatin
Nothing

>doin
Planning my finances and investment portfolio goals for the year

>hopin
Overcome my gym autism or buy a set of dumbbells or something. Complete lanklet.

2017 was a good year for me. Got the promotion, got the raise, moved out into my own place. Financially comfy.

2018 just need to quit smoking (going well so far but shit is very depressing) and start lifting, just have no idea where to start.

>drinkin
Water
>eatin
Clean, keeping macros in check with IF
>smokin
negative.
>liftin
Doing a linear strength program to get 1/2/3/4 for reps then changing it up after. Might do BB, might train for a sport.
>readin
Just finished reading "Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman's Love & Desire"
Highly recommend it if you want to make that jump for meaningless casual sex into a full relationship.
>watchin
My Hero Academia (surprisingly gets me very emotional)
>listenin to
Actually looking for something to indulge in
>playin
Overwatch sometimes
>creatin
Like to journal ideas, might turn them into a fictional story
>doin
Reading and lifting mostly. Trying to meditate daily. Been dating again. Applying for jobs as Im a NEET.
>hopin
I get an interview from this one pharm lab.
Have sex with this QT I plan on seeing this weekend.

I hope everyones 2018 is kicking off with strong momentum. Lets be strong men!

>enter any discussion or discord
>never have anything of value to add so just respond with grunts of approval and nod
>online just stay completely silent and never gain a presence
How do I add value to myself as a man? I want to be able to lead and take control in conversations but I can barely master myself.

Just by listening you add value.
Teach yourself. Learn. Expand your base of knowledge so you can have something to contribute.

If you want to learn how to socialize you can just dive right in. Be receptive to how other people respond to you socially. You'll be autistic and it'll be painful for the initial bit but eventually, like all things, you get better. Social skills are no joke. Get out there.

To add to that, read up on books about socializing. How to win friends and influence people is basically the bible when it comes to socializing.

Also, join conversations you actually enjoy and can engage in as you'll feel that it energizes you. Good luck.

My friend died this morning. Walked in the hotel on his ass ODing new years day.thats got me all fucked up but I know I have to move on I'm 21 for fuck sake and this shit is pushing me over the edge. I'm working out at least an hour a day, and it feels good shutting my feels off for that hour going hard. I'm quitting alcohol after drinking for 3ish years. I hope to never drink that shit again. I smoke but that's keeping me sane at the moment. All in due time brothers.

>>drinkin
Water, Alcohol
>>eatin
Salmon, Caesar Salad
>>smokin
Nothing
>>liftin
Nothing
>>readin
Last read New Britannia: The rise and decline of Anglo-Australia
>>watchin
Happy Days
>>listenin to
Nothing
>>playin
Nothing
>>creatin
Shitposts
>>doin
Nothing
>>hopin
Hoping to sort my shit out and improve the overall quality of my life.

>Veeky Forums, how do I get rid of depression and anxiety?
You don't. I'm on Veeky Forums because of the "muh exercise helps depression" meme. But honestly I just don't want to be a skinnyfat cunt anymore. Sick of Tugging my shirt in different ways in a sad attempt to hide mantits, stomach, et cetera.

Dont know if its related. I suppose asking for self help advice.

>be tonight
>at the gym post workout with my buddy
>go to locker to grab my stuff
>see dude in full outfit and hoodie just standing there staring off towards me and my friend
>walk over and say "excuse me "
>he ignores me and doesnt acknowledge me at all
>look at him in the eyes and say it again
>still he stares off and avoid eye contact
>this time get angry and shout "EXCUSE ME."
>He all of a sudden snaps too and flips the switch
>"motherfuckers my bag is missing again what the FUCK."
>freaks me out a bit but I keep myself in check from reeling back, also fucking angry at that point
>buddy starts asking him "where did you lose it man what happened?"
>I'm just stuck in place staring at the guy go off and grinding my teeth.
>guy goes off on a rage and slams the locker stupidly loud which is literally in right in front of me
>can't tell if its him trying to assert himself or see if I'm a bitch so I still grind my teeth and get angrier while staring at him
>he storms off cussing and being an angry nig while he breaks his unbrella off somewhere in the locker room
>I just stand there staring at the same spot without flinching or even turning my head.
>mix of anger, rage, confusion, and fear.
>try to calm down but it deepens
>thiughts of running after him and smashing him into the as
>suplexing or choking him (former wrestler)
>trying to rationalize the fear I had of a fight while trying to be "strong"
>angey with myself and questioning why I was scared to begin with.

Very sudden but very rage inducing. I dont take things to heart but someone ignoring me then lashing his frustrations on me and my friend will throw me over the edge. Only thing that bothered me was the fear. I was shaking from anger and anxiety and i haven't gotten over it. Only calm. The loud noises and uncontrolled rage scared me. But angered me as well. What gives?

Why would you annoy a guy then get mad about him being mad when he responds. If he's lost his bag why ever why he take nicely to a person who's just raised his voice at him

Because if you intentionally stand in my way and ignore me even though I asked nicely TWICE im definitely going to raise my voice. There was no hint he was upset. I came into the locker room smiling and asked him nicely with a smile. Then he ignored me. I saw he had headphones in one ear so I said it again but pointed to the locker. But nope didnt even flinch so of fucking course ill talk louder.

>First day of psych counseling tomorrow
>First day of psychiatrist mid-Jan
Why can't I just lift my brain fuckery away?

>drinkin
hofbrau winter spezial
>eatin
chipotle wheat thins
>liftin
some shitty fucking machine routine
>readin
Brewing Elements: Yeast
>watchin
Peaky Blinders
>listenin to
youtube.com/watch?v=dh5Pqr2BZbI
>playin
Warframe
>creatin
I never finish anything
>doin
Trying to find a white collar job with upward mobility
>hopin
I actually pull off the summer trip I'm planning, I get my brain fuckery in order, I meet a girl, I gain back the 10 lbs I lost and then some

OCD with the occasional panic attacks here. Stay strong breh, we're gonna make it

>dont feel like talking about my job, but it's some creepy shit if you think about the privacy implications
Is it something involving advertising? Gubbermint Agency? IT?