Why is /lgbt/ 30% mtf trans threads? I visited your board once (FULL of drama by the way) while sorting by number of replies and there were twenty of the exact same thread taking up the first few pages.
Also, any pen and paper game can be gay if everyone's up for it. That's the point of playing pretend.
Gay erotica has only just entered its post-modern phase.
You need to reconcile two very different appeals and goals of roleplaying: being someone else and being someone removed. You are focusing on the otherness, wanting to do something very different, even if that difference would realistically be horrible, as most of the history you're basing settings on really were. Your homo player is looking for a place where he can be homo and be removed from the consequences of it, not one that reinforces or doubles down on them. Getting the two appeals to match up can be pretty difficult and it's just not going to happen every time. If the game doesn't appeal to him, you don't have to change it, but he doesn't have to play, either. If I had to play a straight character, I'd just leave.
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