Socialising with the help of literature

Will reading and writing help me improve my speaking and socialising skills because I don't have anything to talk about most of the time and usually dont use the right words which ends with me being alienated.Yes I know a lot of people who have good socialising skills dont even read books but I'm not like them.

it'll help you with the words thing and you'll be able to better articulate your thought, but if you want to get better at socializing, you have to practice socializing. its just the way it is. if you want a no risk way to socialize just talk to people over skype and whatnot through voice chat - helped me a lot

Any idea where I can do that?I used to talk a lot with my friends over skype but now I have no idea what to do and I usually feel guilt and regret after talking with people.

"How to win friends and influence people"

Read it

Its common sense t b h.I didn't find anything new.

I learned how to socialise by working in call centres and as a telemarketer for a while

The absolute blinding panic every time I had to call a new number to try to speak to a new stranger and convince them of something eventually faded under the weight of routine. Learned a lot about how a conversation should naturally flow through repeated trial and error. I now have a very convincing normie mask.

But how do you even get a job like that when you're socially retarded?I really dont understand when people recommend you to take jobs like this as if someone will actually hire you when they see how inept you're or youre just pretending to be you fucking normie.

Indeed it is. Are you OP? If you are, then you should apply it do real life

>Will reading and writing help me improve my speaking and socialising skills

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NO

it'll only improve your reading and writing skills

Yes I'm the OP.From my observations its the opposite.The better you treat people the worse they do to you.

By farming out applications on job seeking websites by the dozens each day, and by those jobs being literal bottomscraper work where "not addicted to heroin" should be up the top of your resume.

I dunno why they hired me either man but it's the true story of an ex-turbosperg so do with it what you will.

Social interaction is very shallow. You're going to come out as pretentious if you start using "big" words or talking about anything but mundane things.

I'm not going to use big words or even talk about anything interesting its just that I can't hold even a simple conversation.

Why do you have to hold up a conversation? Who are you going to talk to?

With people.I want to stop being a shut in but when I go out I just embarrass myself and it just gets worse.

Just random people? Get drunk then or join a cult.

Journalistic writing certainly can. Reading can help you with perspective and knowledge and shit. Beyond rhetoric tho nothing will really help you engage with people, most self help books are trash. I read Pitch Anything recently and it was mostly Mystery PUA tier shit. But people are buzzing about it.

I would say if you desperately wanting a self help book, Games People Play is recommended on the reg by top business schools and is interesting, less of a waste of time than reading How to Win Friends and be a doormat. One that has had real bad reviews but seems solid to me is Talking With Confidence For The Painfully Shy. Beyond that just go out there and get some culture m8, write for a newspaper or start a blog, perform in am dram, go to the theatre and read books and mags and newspapers. Get a twitter account and look at whatever you're trying to get involved in on there.

writing is an art of solitude. reading is a habit of solitude. so, you get the idea.

Not only random people but also friends.The worst is when they talk all the fucking time about really stupid things without stopping even for a second and then ask you why youre not saying anything.

They feel at least as socially retarded as you, they just quell their angst by making light of yours.

In other words you got to give some bantz back or get new friends.

Treat people with respect, but don't let that come at the cost of your own. Be cordial until they show they deserve otherwise. Be nice, but don't be a servant

>The worst is when they talk all the fucking time about really stupid things without stopping even for a second and then ask you why you're not saying anything.
Doesn't sound they know you that well. You don't _have_ to talk, you know.

I've found the more I read the more articulated I become, and reading can also help provide a subject matter for discussion if anybody is at least a little interested in reading.

The turnover for these jobs is really high because no one wants to do it.

this man is right

call centers helped me and i ended up even enjoying it after a while. dont get me wrong i still feel a bit weird face to face but i can hide it adequately enough

Why would nobody want to work there?

You've obviously never been shut down with the words "You talk like a book".