Just wondering, Veeky Forums anons, how many friends do you have and how often do you go out?

Just wondering, Veeky Forums anons, how many friends do you have and how often do you go out?

books are my friends

1 friend, once a week

I'm 26.
I'd say now I see only 4 of my friends.
go out for dinner maybe once a week with anyone of the 4.
hang out at my place maybe once every 2 weeks with one of them.
every Sunday me and my gf and my buddy and his gf go do something. hang out in Toronto or go for a hike or some shit.

I have no friends. I never go out.

I don't even know how to make friends, or even if I had a friend, how to maintain that relationship.

>how many friends do you have
4
>how often do you go out
i am always out

>how many friends
none anymore. I genuinely don't care about 99.99999% of other people
>how often do you go out
never. for what its worth though I live with my gf and we've been together several years now

0
never

>no friend
>has girlfriend

how old are you guys?

I have one friend, but I don't like going out.

2 friends. 1 i see a couple times a year, 1 once every couple years.

i "go out" those couple times i year i see the one friend.

My friends all moved away/got married/had kids. Gf is still with me though.

Honestly, zero. Other than my girlfriend. I systematically lost all my friends over a two year period by trying to get them to read any one book. It was too much for them. So when we talked and I of course mentioned this book or another, all they heard was "I'm better than you" whether or not I was even close to implying that. So nowadays I have no idea how to make friends and it's hardly bothered me for a while. I've gotten a lot of reading done, my girlfriend is an amazing human being, and I always have you cunts.

I don't really have friends anymore, but there's a lot of people I casually hang out with. I usually go out 3 to 4 times a week. I do a lot of drugs so I hang out with a lot of drug people, I don't like these people much and the people I used to hang out with don't like them either but at the end I prefer drugs to the company of friends. You're alone anyway.

18
0 friends. Never had a single one.
Occasionally go chill at a cafe/bookstore every few weeks, maybe the movies.

Pretty well read, though; spent the last year going through the major works of Faulkner, Joyce, Bellow, Gaddis, Mishima, Pynchon, and DFW. Feels good man.

34

I used to be great at making friends but when everyone is married making bro-dates feels wrong and gay

LOL holy shit dude, order your helium tank yet?

0. I have shallow relationships with some colleagues and our only contact is when we're already together.

I have only 1 "friend" from college. We never go out, he probably only minds talking to his fat gf and we text each other about once in a week to talk about something like tv shows (now game of thrones).

I've lost contact with my only childhood friend when he moved to another state when we were 12 and since then I don't have any friends. My other colleagues from hs turned out to don't care about me and/or intentionally try to fuck me up somehow.

I only wanted a gf and I'm actually considering trying online dating. I'm ok with having books as friends.

1 gf

We go out once or twice a week.

None

34 and still an insecure defeatist. Seek help.

Lots of friends back home. In university it feels like I never actually build a relationship with anyone friend or otherwise. I hang out with people all the time and make them laugh a lot, but I still don't have anyone over here I can count on.

19 with 8 friends I'll hang out with multiple times a week.

savor it kid. In a few years it will be all gone

Sucks man I know, I still find myself being way more open with friends back home too. Especially with 2nd/3rd years I feel like I'm a completely different person.

Eight or ten friends that live close enough to actually hang out with regularly. Go out to lunch nearly every day, dinner two or three times per week, and drinks two or three times per week.

I've got around 20 that I can talk to and 8 that, between 1 and 3 times a week, I hang out with.

0 and maybe will hang around with college acquaintances every 3 months or so.

These are my friends.

27 years old.
0 friends.
Not sure what "go out" is supposed to mean.

I make friends so easy. I've been to many schools due to moving and bad grades and did military service, that might be the reason why i can integrate very fast into groups. Being able to talk about any topic is a plus, as is being into sports and playing an instrument.

But.. I don't really contact anybody except my "inner circle" at all and barely answer their messages and calls. I wish I did not have to have a mobile phone. The only social events I enjoy are concerts. 26 y/o.

Zero, never.

have readers replaced the need for friends with books

Oh boy these are my friends but theyre so pathetic that I rarely even bring up the fact that I read because of their fragile ego. They get butthurt when I say game of thrones has serious flaws or when I bring up a factual and standard counterpoint when arguing about sports. And I know you might have a vision of me in your head as the overly critical guy but im not even him. my friends are lame but I dont have any other social outlet. Sorry for the rant

19
Lots of friends
I hang out with philosophy and creative writing majors to shit on them. Business major myself.

Anyone in tri state area looking for friends lmk. Like talking about everything, arguing in a constructive way, going to the gym, and long walks on the beach. Hmu

Have some, but it's actually pointless. Just want to get rid of them. And I'm not kidding.

I have some personality defect where I constantly get annoyed with my friends internally and I eventually just cut all contact with them.

Right now I only have one friend left from back in high school, I've known him for 10 years but I still go through moods where I block him on all social media and don't answer his calls.

you sound like a fag

who is this semen demon?

Hey, Jeff.

This sure is a thread about books, guys.

I'm friends with 6 guys, I see them weekly to biweekly, usually get fucked up and talk sincerely

well it seems our only friends are books, so yes, it is.

books are friends

There's the group of main friends, there's the daily text ladyfriend, there's the handful of randoms I see on occasion or play online vidya with, there's old aquaintnces I keep loose but amicable contact with, and then there's my brother's friends who I'm cool with but rarely see out of that context. And everyone knows I'm a bit of a recluse so it doesn't matter much that I've been busy lately and been completely unable to do anything. Usually I'm guaranteed at least one hangout a month with the main friends, we go to the local diner the first Friday of every month because there's a furry meet up there and that's a show in itself, have a good-not-great omelet and check out the fursuits and fedoras.

jery get ipad

My lifestyle is basically about exploiting social loopholes. I do event security for twenty different venues so I get to go to high profile events and concerts every night, if I choose. Usually I'll be in front of the stage, or assigned as a "roamer" which basically just means go anywhere and be on call to diffuse any situations that should occur. I get paid to go to events most people pay hundreds of dollars to go to, and I get an all access pass.

My job is nice because I don't have to listen to the customer's stupid excuses like I would in a restaurant or retail. It feels good to get to be completely logical and rational, instead of bending over backwards to please some stupid whiny black woman, or prideful Indian man in hopes they won't file a customer complaint.

I never had any friends before this job and that hasn't changed but I've never felt bad about that. I don't really need friendships or people to spend time with. I get to meet plenty of girls every night and currently have two GFs who should be out of my league but became interested after I told them "no" and mocked them for trying to flirt their way backstage.

I get to observe thousands of people every night and never feel like a loner because i'm literally getting paid to stand around and watch.

23
But my best friend is 15 year old girl who lives half a country. We meet maybe bimonthly or rarer. She's surprisingly mature and well-read (not just for her age).
I have 2-3 more friends who live in other cities. We meet rarely, with the exception of 1, who I meet when I'm at college

tfw all my friend's in first year of university were ERASMUS students.

tfw I wept alone on a bench at 2am in the university grounds after I said goodbye to the last one of those, a girl from Spain.

I don't understand, why do you think it's so difficult to make friends? How horrible your childhood/puberty must have been to make you such a social cripple?

19, 4 very close friends, many acquaintances.

Also have a gf, she's pretty alright.

Usually go out about 3 times a week. Turn down offers to go out in order to stay in and read and sip shitty tea a lot, too.

They all think reading is "gay," but I mainly read fantasy and sci-fi, so maybe they're right.

Hey, you're spending your free time doing what you love. That's more than most can say.
Good for you, user.

0
Every day.

i have quite a friends that i could call and go out with
but
i'm an introvert and love to be alone.

on a related note, i'm pretty use i'm a confirmed bachelor. i've had relationships and they're a bunch of work. being free is a lot better.

18. Recently dumped a bf that didn't like/stopped me going out and seeing my friends so I usually see all my old friends from my old school on the weekends. This group of friends is about 6 big and is my main group to party and get pissed with the summer.

School I'm at now I'm mostly a solitary person since my ex fucked me out of making decent friendships at the start of the year, but I still have a few friends here and there and are close with 3 kids from my music class, I don't see anyone from here out of school though.

I have three friends that I both enjoy and see often, and some acquaintances here and there. I leave my house at least once every day, even despite the fact that I do online school.

Thanks for letting us know you are a chick

0
every 3 weeks when i go to the library. never spoken to anybody there

None
Never
23 yeras old

I used to have a lot of friends in highschool, but that was mostly just a product of proximity. I did have a single friend that I lived with for a couple years after graduating, but I've since moved away and have completely lost contact with him as well. I don't expect I'll ever try to contact him either, as he didn't show up to my brother's funeral. I don't particularly feel the need for friends or even any physical person to talk to anymore, and I'm sure a large portion of Veeky Forums in general is the same. You should have included a strawpoll with this thread, the statistics would have been interesting.

Too many. People get in touch with me multiple times per week to socialize and I feel an obligation to meet up with them on at least half of those occasions even though I'd rather be home reading or listening to music. I was pretty lonely a few years back so I made an effort to find more friends but nowadays I generally prefer solitude.


However I have about six close friends I've known all my life. Between full time work, geographic distance, and general introversion, I'll only see any one of them on a pretty infrequent basis (maybe once a month, sometimes less frequently) bit I value these relationships above all else.

I can't even imagine what it's like to have friends at this point

I have 4 persons I can be fully comfortable with in a one-on-one situation.
And maybe 40-50 people which I hang out with given a chance, they're friends from back home, people in my class at uni, and people I've met through various student organisations.
Outside of school and work I met up with them 1-3 times a week
24 years old

But I'm actually a very introspective person and I used to relish my alone time, now that time is getting darker and darker. Having a big social circle is not all that great when you don't have anyone you can really talk to.

22
I live in San Diego, so everyone's interest in each other only goes as far as what they can acquire through affiliation. I know it's like this everywhere, only here it can be more casually aired. I have one friend that I go out with, but he's in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship with some psycho-cunt that is a few years younger than him. I'm trying to be a good friend, but it's really pathetic and embarrassing, especially when he's the type of dude who always gets attention when we go out and isn't willing to leave this bitch that is a nightmare. It's like the kind of scenario that will fuck a person up for years afterwards.

Apart from him, I have like no friends. I'm trying to make more, but I'm either working or at school and since I go to a satellite campus in the middle of some smug little beach town, it's rare to make acquaintances with people that will mean something farther down the line. Everyone is really fixated in vapid shit, like working all week at their minimum wage jobs that they really pride themselves on and then spending their parents money, or the shit paycheck they made (since they don't pay rent and live at home), out at bars and chasing pussy.

When I was about eight years old I was in the Rocky Mountains with my family. My father pointed to the top of a snowy crag that loomed over the lake.

"Look son, when you grow up you're going to live on the top of that mountain. Or worse, in jail!"

I have two friends that I don't know very well and don't see very often. One of them has been in South America for months. The other will be in Pakistan for months. The last time I "went out" was around Christmas, I went on three "dates" with this girl, but it didn't work out. I think about killing myself every day.

How do you know who is your friend or not?

I have 4-5 people that I know for a very long time (between 10-20 years) and I trust them even though we dont have all that in common apart from growing up together

Meanwhile the new people that I meet may have closer interests and hobbies to me but I cant seem to form a bond with them or trust them enough to consider them friends

And then there are the people that I obviously have nothing in common with but yet they seem to always hang out with me like some annoying human version of a puppy, just go away !

>how often do you go out?
1-3 times a week

are you also preparing for the Whataburger?

I'm 19 with no friends outside my two cousins who I only see once or twice a year.
I've found that I really enjoy books where not much happens but the characters bitch and gossip about each other. I may have replaced the need to make friends by finding all of my "social needs" (you get the idea) in books.
Every day I thank Vishnu, Allah, Jehova, God and Satan for internet porn, which is the sexual equivalent of the literature I described.

>Every day I thank Vishnu, Allah, Jehova, God and Satan for internet porn, which is the sexual equivalent of the literature I described.

you are on a one-way path to erectile dysfunction. change your ways while you are still young

>how many friends
I hang out with about 10 different people regularly but there's basically 3 I really, deeply care about.
>how often do you go out?
I see them all the time in classes but like once every two weeks or so?

Also, has anyone else here found themselves totally okay with really long period of isolation?I used to get really anxious about not hanging out with other people and reading books but now I realise that's how it was meant to be, kind of. Even catching up with friends as little as I do feels like I'm kind of overdoing it.

I'd only call "friends" to 2 or 3 people. I use to meet with one of them once a week.
I also have a large number of friendly acquitances in different circles. I hang with those on saturday nights.

Lol what a perfect summation of my experience with friendship

Lol what a perfect summation of Japanese anime. I would have been much better off bonding over DBZ on Toonami and Pokemon on WB.

Where are you from?

lol u sure showed em xDDDD

I can count them on my fingers and maybe once a month. But I have siblings, and we're close, so I'm not really short of having social interaction on a regular basis.

2

often, but always alone

you said you have no friends yet you have a girlFRIEND, the word is there mate

my childhood was nice, my late highschool years ages 16-18 were torturous, and I still haven't gotten past that, 21 now

0 friends and I cannot make friends nor keep them

I'm 19. At university I have maybe one person I'd consider a friend not including my three housemates. I only really leave my house to go to uni or the gym.

Back home I have quite a few friends who I was once very close to but who I can now longer properly connect with. I go out with them fairly regularly, mainly because the alternative is loneliness.

21
honestly i have no idea how you even make friends
i just talk to people, the interaction gets dull and then we never see eachother again

I stopped talking to all of my friends after high school. Sometimes I succeed at or see something cool and I really want to share it but then I remember I am alone. I could reach out to someone but I would have no excuse for going into solitude as long as I have.

A few of them have tried to reach me and I've just ignored them. Once a month or so I feel sad and disappointed that not that many friends have tried to contact me, and that the ones who have didn't try that hard. To my friends it seems I have disappeared from the face of the earth. But they keep living their lives from what I can tell (I'm afraid of logging into social networks because I fear they will see what a fraud my non-existence really is). But then I think about how when I was hanging out with them I wouldn't have thought too much about it if one of them just disappeared. People doesn't seem to have a real place in the world, they just haphazardly slither into places as easily as they slide out of them.

I go to the library on the days I'm not working at a factory.

About 6-7 close friends, and lots of acquaintances, but I feel I'll eventually lose them all.
Ever since September I've only left my house to go to the university. I'm becoming more and more unsympathetic and aloof, and my medical conditions and increasingly deteriorating medical health are only making it worse.
I only wish I had enough willpower to end my pointless life.

i have some old friends that i never see and am kind of fed up with. i went out the last time 2 months ago.

but i'm starting as a doctor and see lots of people all day every day, some of which i get along with really well. perhaps they are friends. i don't feel socially deprived, although my little sister, which i share a flat with, worries

*mental, not medical

>tfw as life goes on expectations are eroded by time's passing
>as they fall off i become less attached to the idea that i should have friends
>as "no friends" becomes the default state no interaction is seen as given
>as any interaction could as well have not happen it becomes much more precious and true
>as they are already very precious i have no need for the fantasies that i hoped to be happy
>as i am already happy i need not look for more
>yet more comes
and don't ever forget there's another dude behind the computer

I only made three friends during university, all from the only club I participated in there. Can't say I really regret it after seeing how other people socialize because, for the most part, it means binge drinking at the club or bar. I've tried it, a few times actually, and did not see how anyone could really enjoy doing that on a weekly, or even monthly basis.

My other friends, from highschool, I never see. At my age, and in my town, they are all busy raising families. Working hard, even gloating about the number of hours they can work in a week. For some reason that strikes me as tragic. No time for old friends, but plenty of time to funnel cash to your boss for a meager wage. I'm actually in the process of rerouting my career path into accounting and, working at an accounting firm, I get to see the financials for a large chunk of this town's population. It's sad to see so many people working for megear wages, forced to work multiple jobs to bring in less than 20k a year.

Most people move away though, to the big cities around the country. I used to try, awkwardly, to stay in touch with these people, but I've since given up, and grown quite fond of my isolation. Out of all the people who were or are friends, there is only one that seeks out contact with me. My brothers do drag me out downtown during the holidays. They want to find me a girl, a woman to marry and start a family with. "You'll be making good money soon!" As if that is the only quality I could bring to a relationship. I don't think they realize they are insulting me.

I don't need friends, only a gf. Too bad I don't have one.

Same. I do things with my old roommate, but ever since Trump he does nothing but spout /pol/ memes and we constantly fight. I have a friend from elementary school that I do book clubs with, though.

I feel the same way about cellphones? It's like i have the social responsivility to have one because if not i would be an outcast and failure, but it must be so liberating.

I have one friend that I went to high school with who I see once or twice a year. There are 5-10 people I study with on a daily basis (college) , but I wouldn't call them friends since I rarely see them in non-academic settings. I know for a fact some of then would call me their friend, but I'm pretty reserved and don't throw the word around loosely. I don't go out for non-academic reasons.

I live in a dorm, so I have 'friends' that I hang out with a few times a week. Moving into a flat soon because it's way too crowded. I only like 1 or 2 people here, the rest are morons.
I have two friends back home who I talk to regularly. Used to be a group of 5, but we gradually drifted apart.

sounds a bit like me. I've never had any trouble integrating into groups. And I wish to God I could give up my cellphone. Did that for a semester, but ultimately had to go back to it.

I don't really understand what friends are supposed to do anymore. I realized this in highschool when I invited some kid I didn't really know over to play videogames without realizing that our gaming setup pretty much required one to stand in front of the tv and that I mostly only had single-player games. I am sometimes still baffled at how weird and dumb that entire experience was.

Before that, in middle school and freshman year I was pretty popular. I lived on an airbase in japan then, and had the privilege of being the most attractive guy in the strata below that of the jocks and actually popular kids. Broke some emo hearts, had some emo sex at 13/14. had a pretty awesome life there until I broke a keyboard over my mother's head and got sent back to the states.

Back to now, I don't know what I want friends for. I do want them, but I don't know why or what I would do with them. I don't enjoy anything I don't already do without them.

so edgy

I actually have a good amount of friends, been good with that throughout my life. Have a few really good friends and got a crew of about 8 that I go out with usually once or twice a week.

Always loved literature but started taking it a lot more seriously and have to continue doing so. I'm actually working on a novel as well with about 45 pages written, but I've been slow lately getting back into it.

I'm 25 btw

I'm 22 and I go out maybe a handful of times a year.

I had a lot of friends in highschool but I neglected them after I graduated, which I now regret. I did ERASMUS in 2014 and made some friends there, but they live in different countries so I barely get to see them. Other than that I have no friends.

I have a spouse, and we go out at least every other day. Not always exciting things, but we do go to shops for our hobbies pretty often, to gardens and exhibits, sometimes try something new like rock climbing. And the standard married life stuff--doctor's appointments, grocery shopping, family dinners, etc.

I have plenty of acquaintances and colleagues I talk to, but they aren't people I hang around otherwise.

1 gf
0 friend
i go to work every day
but I make 75k* so its not so bad

*id trade it all for a friend

Your gf isn't your friend?