What's a good book for cutting down toxic relations?
Self imrpovement thread
Cooper Thompson
Joshua Hughes
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.
Christian Campbell
Thirding this. Tbh the best thing imo is just start with the motherfucking Greeks. If you know nothing, start with Graves' The Greek Myths. Then Homer. Then Plato. Plato is fantastic at raising your awareness and sensitivity to word choice and phrasing. I was once like you.
Also listen to some inspiring music fucko. That usually puts me in a different mood.
Joseph Lee
What's the difference? I just want to become a stronger person which will help me in life and maybe lead me to happiness
Benjamin Rivera
Well both will help you overall, but can also be done singularly. You can become interesting and social to others while staying mostly ignorant, and vice versa. If you want to develop both, and recognize that you have to work hard at both to integrate both into your life, then I can provide some guidance.
If emotional strength is what you want, try looking for a good CBT self-guiding handbook and use a journaling habit to keep yourself focused. Maybe branch off into Buddhism, Stoicism, or "A Primer in Positive Psychology" by Christopher Peterson for further emotional guidance.
The only thing that will shed proper insight into what will make you happy, however, is experiencing life and what it has to offer. The books can only point you to different paths and expand your awareness. They don't walk the path for you. Nothing you learn is strengthened or worthwhile without a serious attempt to apply it in your day-to-day practices. And given how most successful paths are spontaneous and unique, you cannot hope for books to give you anything other than a toolbox and not the ideal path itself.
Ethan Howard
>If emotional strength is what you want
Yes. In addition to emotional strenght I also want a collection of values, attitudes, behaviors that can help me overcome any obstacle or pressure experienced, become more determined and rational and a better and stronger person in general. I realize I want too much and as you said books can't offer that much but anything would be appreciated because I'm completely directionless and don't know what to do.
>try looking for a good CBT self-guiding handbook and use a journaling habit to keep yourself focused. Maybe branch off into Buddhism, Stoicism, or "A Primer in Positive Psychology" by Christopher Peterson for further emotional guidance.
I will, thank you user.
Joshua Lopez
Sounds good.
Joseph Morris
>Yes. In addition to emotional strenght I also want a collection of values, attitudes, behaviors that can help me overcome any obstacle or pressure experienced, become more determined and rational and a better and stronger person in general. I realize I want too much and as you said books can't offer that much but anything would be appreciated because I'm completely directionless and don't know what to do.
That's an ambitious goal, you're going to need to break that down into several clear stages. Just learn to become more disciplined and focus on improving yourself while covering all of the basics. What is your diet like? How much do you exercise? Do you sleep well? What about your hygiene, is it perfect? How do you look? Do you take care of your appearance, such as your hair and your clothes? What about your posture? Do you meditate daily? Do you partake in an intellectual pursuit daily? What about journaling, do you do that, user? How much "junk" have you cleared out of your life, from food to the internet? Do you take care of your relationships with your friends and family? Have you picked up a hobby? What is your career like? Working on any special projects of any kind? Have you written a pledge to yourself in clear language, perhaps based on what you've written this thread, that you can recite to yourself every day? If you want to be an ubermensch, you have to work for it and build yourself slowly over time.
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In terms of intellectual pursuits and social skills help, I'm copying this list from the last autodidact thread because maybe you can find it useful.
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>/autodidact/ Core Curriculum
/autodidact/ Core Curriculum
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>The Basics of Reading: Nonfiction & Fiction
How to Read a Book – Mortimer Adler
The Art of Fiction – David Lodge
>The Basics of Critical Thinking, Writing, and Learning
Creative & Critical Thinking – W. Edgar Moore (*)
The New Oxford Guide to Writing – Thomas Kane
A Mind for Numbers – Barbara Oakley
>Liberal Arts: The Theoretical Minimum
The Trivium – Sister Miriam Joseph
Pre-Calculus – Carl Stitz & Jeff Zeager
Atlas of World History – Patrick O’Brien
Western Philosophy: An Anthology – John Cottingham (*)
(*) represent things you can't find online.
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>OPTIONAL: Starting Social Skills
OPTIONAL: Starting Social Skills
>Essentials
Improve Your Social Skills - Daniel Wendler
>Advanced
What Every BODY Is Saying - Joe Navarro
The Games People Play - Eric Berne
Nonviolent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg
>Troubleshooting
No More Mr. Nice Guy - Robert Glover
Improvise - Mick Napier
Pre-Suasion - Robert Cialdini
Jose Rivera
bump
Jaxon Hernandez
Don't worry, through illegal and contrived methods they're just confining you to only be able to play videogames, which doesn't really matter, because you have books and instruments too. They'll have to call it quits soon. They have a breaking point.