So after 5 years of lifting I finally feel comfortable in my own skin, but I am still horrified of women. What can I do to fix this?
I am a 28 KV btw. Started lifting at 23 years old after being a gaming nerd for the majority of my life. I look like a typical chad now though, which makes me feel even worse because I have no depth to my look, it's all just a facade.
How can I bring depth to my new appearance? If that even makes any sense to anyone. Right now I am too scared to even try because I wouldn't know what to actually do, even with basic things...not even talking about fucking, just basic shit like chatting or communication/flirting. I literally have no idea, right now I just go about life pretending that I am taken anytime a girl shows interest because Im too scared to do anything and its just easier to tell them I have a GF.
just spending your free time picking up heavy things, that fixes everything
Austin Turner
They already talk to me, and I avoid them. Because I don't know what to do so I push them away.
The whole point of me posting here is to ask why the fuck I do this and how I can build myself up to stop automatically going defensive mode anytime a woman is near me.
My first 23 years was full of rejection and being ignored by women so I learned to deal with that by just not caring anymore and telling myself I don't want them anyone (fox grapes etc). Now that I can finally get them my brain still wants to defend myself from harm so it makes me push them away.
Joshua Wood
They're just people. Honestly. If you just laugh every once in a while and loosen up, people open up.
Bentley Reed
>So after 5 years of lifting I finally feel comfortable in my own skin, but I am still horrified of women. What can I do to fix this?
I can't believe how fucking stupid the people on this board are
Easton Sanchez
Do you go clubbing? Might be a step towards blending in with the normies.
Jackson Cooper
By realizing this, you are already on your way. Alternatively, read 100 books and talk to five different strangers everyday.
Either you'll become smart as fuck or get over your social phobia.
When you accomplish this, you won't need Veeky Forums anymore.
Hudson Campbell
I went through this somewhat at around 19, Where girls would walk up to me and say hi, whistle out of their car etc and I had no idea how to act so I would just do nothing and they'd think I'm rejecting them and leave. Made me feel like shit and I was happier when they didn't notice me.
I've slowly gotten more comfortable over the years (28 now) and while people will still say I'm awkward sometimes, I can actually do okay flirting now provided the girl comes up to me first. In this situation I become pretty confident. I'm still inept at cold approaching but I can be smooth and natural in the right situations, which is much more than I could ever manage at first.
It's a long process but one thing if you're a virgin is that you should just try to get a girlfriend, one who makes you feel good and brings positivity to your life, even if she doesn't look the way you'd prefer. A girl like this will build up your confidence and make you comfortable with showing affection. She may be somewhat homely and you can just look at her as a stepping stone if you must, but this will go a long way to developing ease in these situations
