Another ltr just went tits up, I have ZERO debt and a job than more than meets my financial needs with plenty of money left at the end of each month. Not fulfilling, but I'm convinced that career fulfillment is something of a meme anyway. A job is a job.
Most of my friends are married w/ kids by now, and they have no lives of their own, every moment is accounted for and is not for them. The ones who chased the big money and fabulous prizes have houses with 1000 more square feet than they need, literally whole sections of the house that go untouched, and trade in their new cars for other new cars every 2 years and are up to their eyeballs in debt.
I'll admit, the more grey hairs that creep in, the more I worry about my lack of living legacy. But modern family life seems like no picnic at the same time.
I don't want to displace my existential angst on my children just for them to become directionless wageslaves, out of some misguided sense of societal obligation, or for a cheap sense of purpose for myself.
Benjamin Ramirez
>The idea of working a 9-5 has never been my cup of tea
It's nobody's cup of tea.
Why are you focusing on physical performance over career and personal success? Unless you are planning on going somewhere with physical performance (are you on an olympic or competitive sports team?) you are doing it very wrong.
Lucas Ward
I'm a performer and have athletic aspirations. People respond better to me on and off stage because I'm fit and since I'm literally aiming for gold medalist status in a particular sport I try to keep training up for as long and hard as I can.
I was "the man" in high school and early college. But for the past decade I've been on a spiritual path, growing up and shit after I discovered how phony bitches and a crew can be. A career never really seemed like a big deal during all this. Still doesn't. But sometimes I wonder.
Julian Allen
I had a corporate job and a 401K. Blew it all on cocaine and females. I am now at Mom's, have been for over a year and have never felt better. I lost 60 lbs, am 12% body fat, about a 260 wilkes score, and tutoring English and math on the side. Also waiting on a response from the Navy to see if I can serve my country as having a felony is a disqualifying factor.
Sebastian Howard
So are you a career performer then?
Or are you striving to be the best at some shit nobody cares about or will pay you for?
Carter Bennett
I'd like to turn my music into a career, sure, but I'm pretty disgusted with the music industry as a whole and am currently going through the pains of being an independent artist. It's a strange transitional stage cause I'm also switching genres. Kinda hard to call that a career when it's only getting my dick wet and not my mouth fed.
I'm not really striving for much. I'd like to get enough dosh to buy myself the mini-house my long term gf wants and enough equipment to get a small studio basement together. We're both working entry level positions and repairing our credit while getting our own businesses up & running.
Honestly man I'm just now starting to feel like a "complete" person within and would like to get up to speed outside of myself too. Hearing from all these other anons is helping put things in perspective for me.
Chase Walker
Which spirituality and which afterlife are you talking about, I want to know just how crazy you are. Are we talking magic zombies or magic underwear and aliens?
Liam Brooks
>how do I stop letting my lack of a career & personal success drag down my overall physical performance
I'm 33, make little over 100k in a STEM field and I'm not super Veeky Forums but I'm in the gym putting in work... so basically the inverse of you. No matter what your position is in life the grass always appears greener on the other side of the fence... I wish my physical appearance was waaaaay different and I think about it a lot (especially since frequenting this board). Wish I was taller, thinner, stronger, etc... you and I are both predispositioned to focus on the things we lack and this is a mentally shitty place to be. I hate it, but I think its our natural state. We're just not wired up to constantly be thankful of the things we've achieved. If we pause and reflect, exercise of the will, we can gain appreciation for it but keeping this consciously takes discipline.
Yea, I put a lot of work in my career and it paid off, and I should be content or at least pleased with what I've accomplished... but I'm not. Literal incel, and I don't find myself sexually appealing or worthy of another persons affection or love. I don't love myself user and I don't know how to fix it. I know THAT I need to start loving myself... the WHAT isn't hard to figure out... but the how I have no idea. It's just a gutteral disgust I have of my own body and core personhood... so I work on it hoping it gets better because I have no idea what else to try, hoping at some point in the future I can give myself permission to be loved and love others. This mentality has been with me since I was a child, I never believed my parents were serious when they told me that they loved me.
So, all I'm saying is be thankful for what you've got and put in work to backfill the rest.
Julian Bell
401k's are such a bad meme, I contribute NOTHING to my 401k... never have... never will.
Landon Clark
basically this
I didn't graduate college until I was 29 and now I own my own house and have a nice body and bang sloots every weekend at 33
Its hard to be responsible, just fucking do it and stop being a faggot about it. Life is hard, and it gets harder.
You get more freedom and more money but the payment is more responsibility and more demands on your life. Get it out of your head that life will just magically click one day, that things will get easier... they won't. Theres always something else. Always some new bullshit down the road. Your car breaks, your dog dies, you have to buy a new water heater.
Once you accept the simple truth that life is suffering you can appreciate things like a 2 week vacation, or sex with a beautiful woman, or being able to sit on your ass buy whatever you want and have it delivered because you're rich and single.
